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I managed about three hours this morning.
for fuck's sake.
waking up on Tuesday morning!
you realise you actually were in hindsight - do you know what I mean?
view point but sometimes you can realise with a little smugness that things are good and that your happy whilst still feeling that way!
I once worked out my life has been getting steadily worse since 1998 started.
In a good relationship and a very very fun band. Obviously, it all turned to $hit. Am happy again though. Being emo and miserable is rubbish. I am naturally predisposed to being happy I think. Pseudo-buddhist attitudes help.
really hard to deal with myself when I'm upset - I like smiling and having fun too much! I'm not really one to sit in my room moping!
so about four years all up... f*cking sad, aren't I??!!!
until June 2005 when I started getting ill. Those 3 years were fucking don. Also, 1996-2000 were good times too. It seems to come in patches...
Now I'm just some invalid twat who can't go out and hates his job more than I hate 'The Calling' which is a lot.
I'm rarely UNhappy, and when I am it doesn't last.
Even when I'm in GREAT pain as I am now - an injury is well flared up - I can look forward to my ACE sandwiches at lunchtime. Which makes me SUPER happy.
obviously there's always the occasional low day but I think the longest period was from February to September 2004.
But I'd also say I've been genuinely happy in the most part from mid-December to now, and counting.
by the odd little 'victory' - a successful sex-encounter, Pulp going to Number 17 in the charts, having a satisfying dump (Diver?)or watching someone one a train talking loudly on a train suffer a sudden and fatal allergy to nuts? Or just holding someone's hand and listening to the sound the birds singing on a summer morn as you finish the last glass of Rose and start to gently nod in the early morning breeze?
for 'mobile phone' - jesus I am thick
There's just different levels of it.
they can both be absent, it's called numbness
the thing making me happy is knowing what great friends I have!
we don't realise just how lucky we are by even typing this RIGHT HERE RIGHT NOW. We're not dead are we?
suffereing en route to death can be equated with unhappiness/unluckiness ... but actually being dead?
feeling as if you're living the life you want rather than feeling trapped. The diference in having control and not really influences how happy you are. And at the moment, I'm as miserable as sin, but it will most likely change. It just sucks when you gotta ride through a patch of crap before you're on the up again.
seriously. are there two kinds of people? do some people just wander around in a state of default happiness until something gets them down, and other people default to unhappiness?
I feel like every bit of happiness I get I have to fucking work my arse of for and it takes the slightest little thing to knock it down so I have to start again.
I'm definitely not someone who is automatically happy, something has to make it happen.
Agree with the little things knocking it down too, that happens to me.
you have to figure out why that is and change it. I lied, I haven't been happy for 22 years but several years ago I decided to find out what was making me unhappy and change it. You can't change the past so there's no point in thinking about it, and it's usually the past that makes people unhappy.
I had a rough time as a teenager (family troubles) so I blame it being a hangover of that. Sort of like a cloud which, although it doesn't have any rain in it anymore, still occasionally blocks out the sun.
There's a similie for you.
Fun or Sadness?
I cry all the time...
that's sad but true. What a big girl I am.
But yeah, I'm with restlessboy on this one, I'm someone who finds in very difficult to be happy. I always look on the bleak side of things.
I wish had Mike Diver's attitude (see above).
happiness can be classified as a mental disorder. It encourages selective memory and positive coping strategies. The same goes for depression but with negative coping strategies.
It feels odd to me being content for long periods of time - Im always waiting for the wheels to come off. I prefer the ebbs and flows of the day to day mundanity to keep me on my toes.
we all feel sad - I feel sad for the past - all the nasty things mostly and angry at how they have impinged on my life up to now but at the same think I'm lucky not to be dead and forgotten just yet - we have to remember that, ut of course the modern condition can eat away at our happy-synapses and make everything feel like listening to 'Closer' at a particulary harrowing funeral
forget the past, You can't change it. But you can change now and make the futuer better.
but it's easier to find the strength to make that change when you're already happy, or a 'default happy' person.
There's not much in my life that I actually want to change, other than my job and the proximity of most of my friends. Yet still i find it so easy to be utterly fucking miserable and angry.
And it's really difficult, maybe impossible, to shift from one to the other. It's also really hard to understand the opposing view, for me anyways.
a chance you have some limiting belief that your hanging on to that you may not even be aware of.
I once read something which changed the way I think it went something like:
Fear and sadness are caused by challanges, to face these challanges to to be brave and that bravery will lead to pride and happiness.
I know it sounds a bit like new age crap, but if you believe it, then it works.
'who moved my cheese?'/don't fear change etc. 'what would you do if you weren't afraid?' kind of thing.
I do think my default state of mind is to be unhappy. I'm very analytical and like to extrapolate what's going to happen and worry about consequences and plan ahead. which can be good but also means you worry a lot.
whenever I'm happy I tend to savour it, kind of 'oh i'm actually happy, this is nice'. which lends it a kind of poignancy. I reckon I feel happy every day. but I spend more of each day feeling numb/angry/worried/sad/bored than I do thinking 'what a nice time I'm having'.
my job may be largely to blame for this.
Don't think over think about the future, When you over think things your more likely to fuck up.
all of last year, up until the 6th Jan this year when work conspired to bring me down.
Am happy again now tho :o)
has posted - happy in a fickle way of course (arf arf)
you didnt even come to the party!
last year about january. no job, no money. no direction. felt constantly anxious to the point of feeling sick all the time. was really really rubbish - even my ace girlfriend was getting sick of me moping around with this :( on my face.
being sad is horrible
i still hate my stupid job
I think that, in general, with the exception of a couple of notable bad periods, that I'm happy all the time. My life's been pretty easy and stress-free really, and I generally have a positive attitude about everything.
You can idealise the past (for me, summer 2002 seemed pretty much perfect) but then you remember that there were occasions in those glorious times that things weren't so great.
I try my hardest to make sure I'm happy with everything in my life. The only things which ever make me unhappy are those things which are out of my control, which isn't very much really.
But you probably all guessed I'd post something cheerful...!
as was once famously said - but I keep visiting it and that makes me sad - everything else though I have immense hope and glibness about
Am listening to Stay Young by Ultrasound right now -i suggest that you all do that now and take on board the sentiment - and the great coda as well
just thought I'd add that.
so who will lead us now?'
they might have to change that one for the reunion tour.
The past is a different country, they do things differently there is the into to one of my faveorite books ever.
And as for happiness....it seems that in order to verify the happiness is, actually, 100% yellow-frilled-with-pink champagne happi-happiness one has to take a step back into sadness to get an accutrate viewpoint.
how can people who 'always been happy' know that they're happy?
maybe they've always been like 6/10 happy without realising and they think that's as good as it gets?
I think I managed fifteen minutes of happiness once, four years ago. I'd had a really good dream where I'd married this girl I knew, and then I woke up next to her.
It didn't work out that way in the end, but it's still one of my favourite memories.
I came to uni. Now misery is all too common :(
and more happy than when I was at university. Tis a time of extremes. Enjoy the ride!
Is it the course or the people?
Very strange doing something that you've never done anything like before, and knowing you have to be good at it or you die.
can't really cruise through like at A Levels and the workload can be pretty stressful especially at first
if only it was at first...
architecture has the highest rate of mental breakdowns of any degree. true fact
are more likely to commit suicide or become alcoholics. Even truer fact :P
but thats because they have the futility of being a doctor at the end of it.
they all want to be vets anyway...
MADE UP FACT
secretly want to be bricklayers
TRUE/FALSE - delete as appropriate
Plumbers. They earn more than us, and change all the designs behind our backs.
been typed - thinking is overrated
if your being sarcastic Hannah.
I think too much and thats when I get depressed!
i've found that isn't true. I've made a lot of bad decisions over the last two years on various whims. only since I've started to plan a bit more have i started to succeed at things I want to do.
but basically you're right. going with the flow and being open to change is good.
I don't think I'm a control freak or incapable of adjusting once I've made a plan, I just worry too hard.
I'm trying to make is that the longer you think about a situation the more likely you are to focus on negative outcomes, which is normal (Fear of the unknown, etc...) Now I don't know you so I can't say that's true for you but that's the way I was.
but as well as being somewhat depressive I'm also quite optimistic and egotistical so I believe things will turn out right for me.
Then I sulk when they don't.
;) <--------The all important joke smiley.
if you knew her...
5 mns perhaps !
reasonably genuinely happy since leaving my hometown for uni a couple of years ago.
Despite the odd bad week, or tearful evening, it's mainly been very very good, and it never takes much to make me pretty joyous.
I went to the Zoo today. That killed off any, and all, bad feelings.
i'm happy quite a lot - if you just term being happy as feeling happy. i'm a reasonably happy person. i think i can go a day or two uninterrupted by annoyance/sadness/etc. on the other hand i'm rarely content - in the sense of everything just being *right*, but i almost always notice when i am, and that's the best feeling ever, way better than happiness. and then that makes me happy all over again. marvellous.
when i get emo, it's pretty hardcore though - but [with one exception] it rarely lasts more than a few days.