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JezCC [Edit] [Delete] 46 replies 01:14, 9 January '06

This is a strange one.

I'm friends with a girl who has a boyfriend. I think they are in a crappy relationship and I'd quite like to try it on with the girl.

1.) Any advice on how to go about this without causing offence if it fails? (i'm not friends with her boyfriend, so thats not a problem)
2.) Is it despicable to do so?

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thats a dilly of a pickle

any inclination as to her feelings toward the state of the current relationship and feelings towards you?

HeartbrokenStar | 9 Jan '06, 01:16 | X
- I've done exactly the same thing you did.
  
  excpet i'm friends with the guy.
  
  I still feel half-guilty....
  
  fullerov @HeartbrokenStar | 9 Jan '06, 01:17 | X
was the girl pissed off that you stole her boyfriend?

less_than_zero | 9 Jan '06, 01:18 | X
- Fullerov in
  
  Girl Stealing Caper: Feels Half Guilty
  
  HeartbrokenStar @less_than_zero | 9 Jan '06, 01:20 | X
  - It's a terrible affliction...
    
    at 8:am i am all bouncy and happy....by 2:pm i feel mean and horrible, and yes...half-guilty.
    
    Peter Jackson is making a film about it.
    
    fullerov @HeartbrokenStar | 9 Jan '06, 01:26 | X
A sensible person would say 'be honest' with her

Thankfully, I'm not particularly sensible

Best time to do it, and I genuinely mean this, is when you are both drunk out and about in a club or something. You can gauge her reaction in the morning (send a vague text, or simply roll over if it went REALLY to plan), and if seems to regret it, go along with it

"Yeah I know, I can't believe we kissed. God, I feel such an idiot for getting so drunk. I'm so sorry (insert name here), can we just pretend it never happened? I'm feeling just as embarrassed as you are"

If she doesn't regret it and seems a tad flirty, then bingo baby

dove_from_above | 9 Jan '06, 01:22 | X
- Hahaha!
  
  That's fantastic.
  
  I wish I could be that smooth.
  
  But I'm not. I suck :(
  
  ImageChange @dove_from_above | 9 Jan '06, 01:26 | X
  - "so *insert chicks name here*
    
    what you say you and me hop on the good foot and do the bad thing"
    
    HeartbrokenStar @ImageChange | 9 Jan '06, 01:27 | X
    - I couldnt possibly say that..
      
      ..without dying.
      
      Of embarrassment. Or laughter. :)
      
      ImageChange @HeartbrokenStar | 9 Jan '06, 01:30 | X
    - Yes
      
      Something like that I'd imagine
      
      I don't actually know myself, as I'm not in the habit of stealing other people's girlfriends
      
      God knows I've tried though
      
      dove_from_above @HeartbrokenStar | 9 Jan '06, 01:31 | X
- Come ooooon wishpig
  
  Don't beat on the dove
  
  Are you seriously trying to tell me that you wouldn't fall for a line like that? Show me the woman that can, and I will show you a LIAR
  
  dove_from_above @wishpig | 9 Jan '06, 01:38 | X
  - and
    
    how does one go about getting back with an ex who comes to visit all the time and allows the occassional kiss and cuddle?
    
    HeartbrokenStar @wishpig | 9 Jan '06, 01:42 | X
  - But when
    
    she says she's not embarrassed. then you could say "yeah, so im not embarrassed either. and that's just as much as you are and that's what i meant.. soo..err.. yeah.. i really fancy you..err."
    
    That might work. right?
    
    ImageChange @wishpig | 9 Jan '06, 01:43 | X
    - Can't see why not
      
      dove_from_above @ImageChange | 9 Jan '06, 01:46 | X
  - but in words...
    
    you and me baby could go places
    
    *dont know what has come over me*
    
    *goes back to the darkside of Garth Marenghi*
    
    HeartbrokenStar @wishpig | 9 Jan '06, 01:36 | X
  - if your not friends with the guy
    
    then i dont see the problem, you just have to be subtle when your hitting on her
    
    sharp_yet_blunt | 9 Jan '06, 01:23 | X
    - From a gal's perspective...
      
      I say do it, do it, do it! When the time is right, obviously. If you aren't friends with the bf then it doesn't really matter, does it?!
      
      icedgemuk @sharp_yet_blunt | 9 Jan '06, 01:57 | X
      - Who do you think you are?
        
        So you decide to post now huh?
        
        dove_from_above @icedgemuk | 9 Jan '06, 02:03 | X
        
        Only...
        
        because you held me at gunpoint to! You're a nasty boy, Rik :oP
        
        icedgemuk @dove_from_above | 9 Jan '06, 02:04 | X
        
        Ooooh...
        
        Get on with your work, you slacker Rik!
        
        icedgemuk @icedgemuk | 9 Jan '06, 02:06 | X
        
        Fine
        
        Be like that. See if I care
        
        dove_from_above @icedgemuk | 9 Jan '06, 02:07 | X
  - HALF GUILT
    
    A Peter Jackson Film...
    
    Starring...JUDE "NANNY" LAW as Fullerov
    
    and Caprice as the chick what did the dirty with Fullerov
    
    and John Fashanu as the bloke who got dicked on
    
    Rated 15
    
    HeartbrokenStar | 9 Jan '06, 01:29 | X
    - JOHN FASHANU
      
      JOHN FASHANU
      JOHN FASHANU
      JOHN FASHANU
      JOHN FASHANU
      
      ...that's John Fasharnoo, tonight on BBC2.
      
      crablin @HeartbrokenStar | 9 Jan '06, 13:05 | X
  - just done use the word
    
    "wadge"
    
    HeartbrokenStar | 9 Jan '06, 01:46 | X
  - Fact is Jez, I see your profile picture and it says 'nice guy' and we all know what happens to them?
    
    You've clearly got no chance.
    
    In all honesty, I would be dubious of someone who would leave a relationship for someone else. It kind of says that the person can't stand to be alone and people who can't do 'single' tend to end up hurting you.
    
    iShotTheDeputy | 9 Jan '06, 08:31 | X
    - how can you see that photo and not think
      
      bastard, utter utter bastard?
      
      :P
      
      rapscalion-jones @iShotTheDeputy | 9 Jan '06, 08:32 | X
    - I love you Theo
      
      the ever-present voice of cynicism :D
      
      guntrip @iShotTheDeputy | 9 Jan '06, 09:08 | X
      - Cynicism? I like to call it 'Realism'
        
        I speak only the truth, after all.
        
        (Cynicism would be to say all Daily Mail readers are right-wing fascists, but it's not true. There are a couple of lefties who read it just to feel angry.)
        
        iShotTheDeputy @guntrip | 9 Jan '06, 09:19 | X
        
        I am a nice guy
        
        thats why I've so far not done anything.
        
        But the simple situation is that I'm getting increasingly horny and I don't know any single girls.
        
        I'm thinking she probably wouldn't be too offended if I tried it and failed, so I reckon I'll be in the clear to at least have a go.
        
        I think you may be right Theo, but I'm so bored with being single its worth a go.
        
        JezCC @iShotTheDeputy | 9 Jan '06, 09:30 | X
        
        no, i think we should run with Theo's idea
        
        i mean, face it, if she leaves him for you like that, what's to stop her doing the same to you in future? huh? HUH?
        
        guntrip @JezCC | 9 Jan '06, 09:41 | X
        
        I don't think I can trust you gunners
        
        you did choose a seafood song title as your username. That is a bit emo.
        
        JezCC @guntrip | 9 Jan '06, 10:24 | X
        
        that's a funny definition of emo
        
        it was actually what was playing in the background when i was trying to think of a username for something else i signed up to about four years ago and i used it and since then it's stuck.
        
        you should trust me as i am The Most Bitter Man On Earth.
        
        guntrip @JezCC | 9 Jan '06, 10:28 | X
        
        seafood aren't emo
        
        but they are loved by all my emo loving friends.
        
        My name stems from the fact that I have no imagination.
        
        JezCC @guntrip | 9 Jan '06, 10:41 | X
        
        at the risk of sounding mature
        
        If she likes you she'd probably see you both until she decides which she likes more, or until the shiny new relationship glitter fades and she starts to get bored of you like she is/could be with current boyfriend and moves on to someone else entirely.
        
        That said, if you're only trying it with her because you're bored of being single, you should go for it at least it'll stop the hornyness until you do meet someone single. So yeah, go for it, but don't expect too much like.
        
        Slicky @JezCC | 9 Jan '06, 11:01 | X
        
        yeah
        
        this plan is the one I'm going for the only things which can go wrong are that I might get into it a bit much and then end up emotionally scarred. Dye my hair black (badly) and get a piercing or two.
        
        JezCC @Slicky | 9 Jan '06, 12:02 | X
        
        guntrip
        
        is right on this one !
        
        lyle @guntrip | 9 Jan '06, 10:56 | X
        
        Which one
        
        Your replie's too far down to work out what you're replying too. :-(
        
        iShotTheDeputy @lyle | 9 Jan '06, 12:42 | X
        
        "replie's"???
        
        JESUS! I AM GOING TO WHIP MYSELF RIGHT NOW FOR THAT GRAMMAR FUCK UP!
        
        iShotTheDeputy @iShotTheDeputy | 9 Jan '06, 12:42 | X
        
        hang on, i'll recreate my original post for you
        
        blah blah blah cynicism blah blah blah more cynicism blah blah blah even more cynicism.
        
        that's all.
        
        guntrip @iShotTheDeputy | 9 Jan '06, 12:45 | X
  - mate
    
    imo, what you're suggesting is pretty damn despicable. and this is coming from a class A shit. stay away. or let her come to you... :)
    
    keveddy | 9 Jan '06, 12:55 | X
    - all's fair in love and war
      
      and whatever. i'd agree if it was a friend's girlfriend, but if it isn't.. meh.
      
      guntrip @keveddy | 9 Jan '06, 12:56 | X
      - I think things have changed since Shakespeare's time
        
        The Geneva Convention makes it clear that all isn't fair in war...
        
        iShotTheDeputy @guntrip | 9 Jan '06, 13:06 | X

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