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Got any dilemmas?
Their 'romantic' activities are further encroaching on work (they spend time 'on the job' when they should be on the job, if you will) and I am struggling with whether I should blow the whole situation wide open
Who gives a fuck?
to cover for them etc then you should speak to them and explain how they're not being fair to you or other colleagues.
If it's not and they're just getting away with not doing as much work as you then so what? Do less work yourself if you're that bothered.
Yep - creating more work
I am erring towards having a quiet word with my line manager. Just concerned about whether it might come back onto me in the future.
These girls will scissor themselves out soon and they'll be very grateful to you for your discretion (if they even know you know which I'm not sure about at this point)
that they are same sex/ in other relationship(s), treat it like you would treat any other workplace relationship that you feel is adversely impacting on you or your team.
Speak to your line manager, say it's come to your attention that they have a special relationship and that you feel that it is now impacting on your workload - you need to give a couple of examples.
hopefully she'll go to an effort to ensure that it no longer has that effect on your work. If not, you can escalate it, knowing that you gave her every chance to sort it out herself. Keep a written note of what has happened so far, and what you discuss when you speak to her (including the examples you cited). Email it to yourself that day. Then if there is trouble down the line you at least have that.
it's all very well saying 'mind your own business, let them be' etc, but this isn't your gap year job, it's your career we are talking about and you have a son to support. You are fully entitled to do the right thing for yourself here, so long as you are (of course) even handed at all times in how you go about it.
Good post - and not a hint of a double-entendre intentional or otherwise :)
Like the idea of the email thing, hadn't thought of that but it does 'time-stamp' the conversation etc.
We are all at a big conference tomorrow in the middle of Brum and the opportunity might arise to raise the subject on the qt.
I'll report back.
and then maybe tell their secret :)
Can you text instead?
Work isn't it not.
Maybe they won't want to talk either.