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have you found some places easier to go out and meet people/make friends than other places?
is what I would type if I was a snide bastard.
Less palpable working class rage / boredom fights too.
I thought London would be well insular and everyone a cunt but theyre all desperately trying to make friends in a city where no-one knows each other so they're all really needy.
i feel like where i live at the moment everyone has their groups and their cliques and are happy with that
Although you end up with more folks you just meet out too, rather than being forced to be friends with the only three people in a ten mile radius with the same interests as you.
it's easier to find the good places and thus, the good people.
which has always made it a lot easier to make friends. I think I would have struggled way more in London/been confined to colleagues and dissers only if not.
Mine is a bottle of Remy Martin with an umbrella in the top
bar work would not be my forte
i more meant i think i would find it harder to meet friends if i didn't have bar work to rely on. but i mean you could volunteer somewhere? or erm...i dunno. join a football team?
Places where people tend to drive rather than take public transport, particularly to work, tend to be harder to make friends in, primarily as being British means that I rely on alcohol being involved in most social situations. I found it really hard to make friends in Canada for this reason as no one I worked with wanted to go for beers after work. Wankers...
In my experience everyone drives absolutely everywhere in Calgary, and to a lesser extent Vancouver. Victoria is not great either. Montreal seemed ok though. It's just a general car-first culture, similar to the US.
I used to go out for a lot of beers with my old workplace which was in the centre of town, now out in the sticks this has never happened.
Moving to go to university is dead easy because everyone's looking to make friends. Moving to another place for job or family reasons might be tougher.
It also makes a huge difference if you already know people in a city - whether that be from home, from university, or online.
The bigger the city the more likely you are to meet different people, yes, but it's also much easier to be anonymous if you're not careful. If you want to meet people you need to put the effort in, but at the same time, the bigger the city the more likely your friends are to invite you out and introduce you to other people, I've found.
what marckee said.
if you go out to a party or a bar or gig or wherever ...or even at work... and you meet people that you have a rapport with don't wait for them to invite you to other places just because you feel yourself the newcomer - be active in getting their phone number (more than their facebook etc.) and call them when you're doing something fun/interesting and invite them along
you might feel that other people already have their social circles and it's an imposition in some way but it's a big mistake to do that just out of fear of rejection or a dip in self-esteem or whatever - it's good for both you and them to form friendships or at least give them the option to give it a try
I hope that makes sense without sounding patronising
good advice and probably v. relevant to me, thanks
anything really, with the former two i find it kind of weird and difficult though where i live at the moment
is good for meeting people I have found in the past. Sculpture or life drawing, something like that.
When you're new to a place people are always really inviting and stuff. Always pretend I'm new to a city when meeting girls in pubs or whatever cos they're really keen then for whatever reason. Like you're vulnerable. Only lived in London/Leeds for 3 months apiece but still know more people from there than 2 years in Derby. I am really boring now though.
Most people in London are marckee-level awful and spend their time going to restaurant soft launches and secret cinema and all that. Obvs they're all just avoiding me, but compared to non-London it can be harder getting people out for a pint unless you plan it in advance. Feel like I went to the pub most nights in Sheffield, usually as a very last minute 'fancy a pint?' thing, whereas in London it's a bit more planned. Then again, that might be a 'stage of life' thing.
Not necessarily a good or bad thing, just a thing.
I have to assemble an ottoman footstool.