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what are you suggesting? Candid sincerity? I don't think that would go down well. :)
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A lack of balance in your life is often at the root of it- too much work, not enough stimulation in your personal relationships, feeling trapped in the present situation without an idea of how life might progress meaningfully.
Often can be fixed by a nice holiday and jolly good talking to oneself, or taking up a new hobby, meeting new friends, or discussing with your partner ways you'd like to change your relationship/ lives. Some vague or basic goal setting can be useful too, if that floats your boat.
not to be confused by depression or anxiety. And if you are prone to these, you must be careful because ennui can slide into a depressive episode.
and CBT is great for helping your thought patterns be less shit.
I've noticed they all are.
I've looked for CBT online courses and stuff, but don't seem to be having much luck finding any self help.
Must it always involve someone doing it with you?
Everyone always tells me theres no point in getting GP to sign you up, cos of the waiting list.
You don't need to do it with anybody else, you can fly solo. But you MUST do the exercises consistently, otherwise you can't really make it work.
are there to cloak more negative ones, which only occasionally pop out, only for you to ram them back under with a glib false positivity?
here's the perfect secret recipe for satisfaction in life! go on holiday!
It's usually a sign my holidays are due and clears up almost immediately. I need ot be jolted out of my routine occasionally, and I always feel grateful to go back to my routine, not matter how lovely the break away from it has been. Might not work for everyone, and 'holiday' is largely figurative. I really meant doing something different, out of the norm.
sometimes cranberry juice or coconut water too.
when it does I find that it is important to have something to look forward to.
Woman I work with is married to a guy who suffers from depression and they have started to book themselves a 'treat' each month which they set aside money for. Some of these dates are obvious e.g. birthdays, anniversaries etc but if there are no specific special dates in a month then they sit down together and book something. Seems to work for them
This could well be covered in the depression thread (sorry, it's a bit weighty for me to go through it to check) but not having events or activities that you can enjoy and look forward to can be a key part of depression.
It sounds obvious, just like eating well and exercising should be obvious things to be aware of if you're not feeling well, but i remember someone asking me what i looked forward to once and i couldn't think of a single thing and it was a bit of a shock. Doesn't have to be holidays or special events, just regular things that you can set aside for yourself that pick you up when you think of them. (Might be a CBT element to that, not sure)