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at least not here in birmingham, was looking forward to mowing the lawn, it was nearly dry enough
ALL MOTHERFUCKING WEEK.
Officially summer by my standards. (got raincoat tucked away in work wardrobe and tights in my drawer, hehe.)
spring is here!!
hahaha! We had one in our primary school garden, which with hindsight seems kinda wrong. I'm guessing the nuns that ran the school didn't realise its significance....
One of the google links that comes up is a thread from you from 2009 celebrating the first jizzbush of the year.
What's a jizzbush?
where you walk past them on a balmy day and you're like, maaaaan that smells like semen? well, those. Spunkybush we call them.
Bet it rains at the weekend :'(
(not least because they've just signed to a label I have an interest in).
No, tonight I have a women in business thing that needs to come first :(
(again another joke and a pun that might be missed)
(its a joke and a pun that probably only I will get)
when she sees me going out without a coat on in the early spring.
she also says 'you could spit peas through that frock', but that's something else I think.
i'm off to vegas! :)
Hope the get the chance to do some lazing by the pool!
yeah, i'll be poolside with my pina colada
Or smoggy. Apparently the air quality is going to be disgusting or something tomorrow?
A new burrito place has opened up by the river so gonna try that at lunch I reckon.
I need some more coffee filters but the shop only had the bigger ones. I am fucked.
given I rarely go north of the river.
Slightly too warm for a coat; not quite warm enough for shorts.
Apparently there are too many things to think about. I'm sticking with what I know and have responded by creating a spreadsheet.
Might do some monte carlo simulation to gauge likely attendance.
made up by the wedding industry to make you BELIEVE that you NEED to have save the date cards or whatever, or else it's a sham marriage... but it's a helpful starting point to use one of the online resources.
There are loads of things like this online. http://www.yourweddingmagazine.co.uk/planning-wedding.php
Confetti list looks useful at a glance. Agree, much of this is a wedding industry construct. Think we're just trying to work out what we really want vs. what we've been taught to want.
Either way, it's easy to get into full on panic mode but... best thing to do is to clear out an afternoon or so and sit down and together go through exactly what you want from your wedding. No wedding magazines/websites etc. - just you and her talking about what you want your wedding to be, then start thinking about practicalities/costs and all that.
Point is that a) this makes everything seem a lot more in hand and b) it's MUCH more enjoyable planning something that you want to rather than something you feel you have to.
Me and my bird have been chipping away gradually at it (our engagement will only be 12 months) and have found it surprisingly unstressful (although some of it has been a massive drag, not gonna lie). Make a plan - then tackle it little and often and you'll be grand :)
but it's also helpful to have the list because it's amazing the thigns you can forget. like, my mate was just going to get her wedding shoes/wedding underwear last minute, but this meant when she turned up for her dress fitting without the shoes/bra, they weren't able to do it as they need to know how to pin the dress to suit what height off the ground, etc, it's going to be, and she forfeited the seamstress's fee as a result.
There's so much stuff that you'd just never think of that actually is reasonably good intell. You do have to make sure you blinker yourself as to the rest of though, or else you end up with all sorts of misc tat that you don't need.
Easy for me - I look terrific in a suit. Although maybe the amount of 'Say yes to the dress' and 'Don't tell the bride' I've been subjected to has distorted my perception...
and the lady made her actually say 'it's a YES TO THE DRESS'. This is why prosecco should always be served in bridal boutiques.
Sounds boring but you really have to treat it like you're managing a project to make sure you don't forget stuff. Important to always keep a balance - not forgetting the dry minutae but keeping focused on the fun you'll have at the end. Not always easy but planning thoroughly and doing it little and often helps build a nice momentum I've found :)
I think we've established that we want it to be in Somerset (her childhood home of sorts - too much backstory!) rather than in London, which feels like a start.
Not constantly obviously. The thing to get in place is the venue and the registrar as early as you possibly can (where I live you can only arrange a registrar 365 days before, so I booked it then). Those are the only really essential things, then after that you can just organise everything else gradually.
So far we haven't had any stress yet, I hope it doesn't all suddenly turn up. Seven weeks to go!
Only stress we've had is paying for the damn thing which is really REALLY hard :(
and only get things we really wanted. We've still spent/signed up for over 3x our original planned budget!
I was well smug thinking that we'd be the sort of people who wouldn't do that, but we've got a bit carried away with all the excitement.
but at the same time the day we get back from honeymoon our joint finances will equal £0. Quite a scary thought really...
But yeah no real joy to be had in doing a thrifty wedding just for the sake of it. Do the wedding you want and if it takes a little bit longer to save for it then you thought... so be it.
But need to do more research into what that will get us. Want to lock down a max spend, but suspect we'll end up being naughty on that front
When do I stop being tired / everything hurting?
what are you doing?
(or just tell me next time I see you if you don't want to be an #exercisecunt)
a cool thing is how nobody ever agrees on what the right thing to do is at all, hope you're enjoying that.
i'm trying to pack my things to move out of Soho and put them in to storage whilst prepping for another two interviews this week. An interview later today. Body pump at 12pm. I found some tobacco in my room so i had a coffee and a fag out the window even though I don't really smoke unless I drink, but I need some kind of toxins in my body. This no drinking thing has been a mind fuck!
Can you let something slip, like, drop your gym class and give yourself less of a mental day?
how's the not drinking going?
Not drinking is going well, physically I look healthier, mentally I'm moe in control. This will be a temporary thing though, I just need to sort things out at this point in my life and be sober to do it.
In relation to the gym, I really need to go, keeps me focussed. I also have loads of energy and because I haven't been out dancing like a twat I'm a bit frustrated!
Looking at flights to L.A. now. I want to go cheaply but I also do not want to be stuck in Toronto airport for fifteen hours at a stopover. PLANNING.
Of Easter holiday traffic lie-ins. Gonna get a sausage roll from the van as I've started running again and feel like doing something sinful.
Collecting my guitar on Saturday, so excited 😬
My arms are really hurty from assembling Ikea furniture last night.
have you moved, or are you just getting in a shit load of furniture?
Just got a couple of new bits last night: a small shelf unit and a LACK table. Tealights too, obvs.
I think I have 3.
One standard small square (pine).
One coffee (pine).
One TV stand (white).
Two coffee tables and one standard square (all pine).
sun is out and two days left of work. gonna swing into town after work tonight and buy some sunny clothes.
Went to see The KVB last night, which was good. I'm probably going to go and see Courtney Barnett this evening too.
One of my favourite pubs (it was our post-5-a-side pub, and the clubhouse for a hockey team we play against) has been demolished without permission. Boo!
hang on, arn't you an enemy of london, or something?
(Is it that you hate it, or you've annoyed the burghurs and they've posted you up as an undesirable or something? Something about you getting their transport system info wrong or summat.....or have you apologised for it an are thus allowed back in?....I missed the original beeve, I've just seen endless cryptic references to some incident in the past)
Threw up in the toilet before she came on. Nausea and headache caused by new meds.
She was good though. Enjoyed the show and felt better soon after. The healing power of Aussie music.
Kind of overcast here in Norwich but not too grey.
(and sorry you were sick, hope you feel better today)
Shouldn't last for too long and it's good to hear that it hasn't stopped you from doing stuff (like the gig)!
Should I get the record then?
which has clearly taken its toll on me. I'm up to episode 2 and wondering if it's even worth continuing.
I had my date last night, was really great fun, lovely girl but, a drinking/eating pub round etiquette question:
I buy the opening round of drinks for us, second round she offers me a drink, and suggests getting some food too - we both agree to get a burger each.
Just before she's heading to the bar to buy the second round of drinks and order our food, I ask her if she wants the money for my burger: she looks at me really strangely, and insists on paying for the whole lot, on the basis that she's buying the round, and the food forms part of the round.
I don't know her that well, but feel a bit weird about getting myself a free dinner as part of a round. This isn't normal, right?
Apart from that, she was pretty awesome. Happy days. Don't really want to work today, urgh.
glad it went well! :)
Hopefully you'll all be right.
Either way, FREE DINNER. I'll take it.
If she was buying the food you should have gone for the most expensive thing on the menu.
TOUGH LOVE etc.
Did you kiss? What happened? Did you slay her?
I think the weather has affected my hormones or something.
should probably concentrate on my own really.
First date, so kiss on the cheek at the end.
She already messaged back asking when we're going to meet again, so hopefully it's ON. We'll see.
sorry I've been using these threads as a bit of a diary entry recently, just helps to vent somewhere...
woke up to a really nice text from the girl two days in a row now, I gave her quite a big compliment yesterday about what a great job she did promoting/tour managing the other day while also looking really gorgeous (she really did, it was very annoying). I was initially not sure whether to add that second bit but I decided that I'm not going to apologise or worry about it any more.
Anyway I didn't get a reply all day and eventually my mind started to creep towards thinking maybe I shouldn't have said it, all while I went to the Genesis to see While We're Young which also started to play on my mind because I have a really happy memory of that cinema with her. Anyway she replied just before the film thanking me and saying it was really nice blah blah.
While I didn't love the film (more about that in the appropriate thread) it had a line in it towards the end (not really a spoiler) where Ben Stiller says to Adam Driver "but... I love you" and he replied "I know and I really like you too, we're good friends" and something went off in my head that reminded me of what she's said to me all along, and I finally realised it is possible to care about someone a lot but not necessarily feel the same way. So I came out of the film weirdly at ease all of a sudden, that it doesn't matter what happens between us, and told her how I had this revelation, which she was pleased about.
So who knows, I may well be out of this state...
after almost exactly 9 years since I saw them last and was one of the greatest live experiences I've ever had, excited
...the ex sent me a lovely text message!
Good to hear you're at a better place Severed with re the girl, relationships in all their forms are really tough at times. Hope you're well paisan.
my mind has felt a lot clearer over the last couple days so I've been able to deal with it a lot better, just need to keep it up. This morning I asked how she was feeling with it all and she said "I really miss you but I also like being alone" and where before I'd have taken that as mere indecision and it would have bothered the shit out of me now I'm like "OK, that's fine, let's just see, there's no rush etc..."
positive frame of mind and all that
going to do pretty much nothing today & tomorrow
but I'm off to a wedding in the middle of cocking nowhere for people I don't even like for the weekend. The tv and I were going to make the most of it and have a nice night to ourselves in the hotel but we've been invited to dinner by the bride and groom. Fucks sake. I think I'd rather be at work.
This makes me quite sad and dismayed. Not having a go*, but they must like you/ think highly of you/ consider you to have a significant place in their lives, to have invited you to, not only their wedding, but also to dine with them the night before. If you really don't like them and it's such a chore, I don't understand why you wouldn't just politely decline rather than taking their hospitality while huffing about it.
*Is this better then 'no offence but....'?
I'm going as my gf's +1 as she's a close friend of the bride. And tbf I do like the her, but the groom...ugh. I'm pretty laid back and I've rarely been in anyone's company I've been truly desperate to get away from before. But him...just ugh.
Also it's costing us a bomb and we haven't had a spare weekend in god knows how long. And we've craploads of weddings to go to this year which have taken up all our annual leave and left us too skint to go on holiday anyway.
I think with that context I think I've earned a good huff but I can see how I may have just sounded like an ungrateful bell end there.
Still, you need to do these things sometimes for your partner, innit.
Just getting my moaning out of my system on you lovely people before I put on my game face for the weekend.
five days in a row now
probably going to chuck it down for the entire weekend
I'm going to be in the same (massive) room as Ryan Gosling tonight (screening of his new film then a Q&A with him after). I thought his film looked great from the trailer, but apparently reviews haven't been that good. We'll see.
the poor bloke got booed at cannes
the other week I went to see Michael Winterbottom's The Face Of An Angel, which was genuinely the worst film I've ever seen. It can't be as bad as that!
it's not badge of honour
Had 3 date offers fro tonight. THREE! Turned them down as I'm reading 'Malekith' and its pretty good. Also, however much I talk about building a model railway in my house doesnt put them off which points to psychosis imho
and you turned them all down?!
1 = Too posh
2 = Too needy
3 = Too sly
4) I'm saving myself for you next week :)
i didn't use acycle path, instead using the main roads, and it was actually better. almost hit a bee though.
it's grey but still quite warm here, I went to see While We're Young last night, quite enjoyed it although the final third or so of the film seemed to fall slightly flat.
potentially going to a hustings event near me or going to a comedy club with a friend.
talking heads album which i used to play ALL THE TIME when I lived there. So tempted to save and do a MA and go back to Falmouth. I yearn for thee.
People are rushing out to move their cars. The sun's out now so it's going to absolutely stink outside.
and the guy in front of me had honking feet, and the girl to my right had obviously not washed her kecks right as they stank of discofanny. WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE?
This is why I prefer to practice alone in summer, but I need the discipline of one class a week, so I'm going to have to ask the teacher to burn some incense.
That is NOT on. If I had stinking feet I wouldn't even go to the class.
asked me to take her wedding dress to the dry cleaners for her.
The cleaner men said even if they could clean it without damaging it, they doubted it'd be close to clean. Wor lass decided it wasn't worth the risk/ £75 they quoted.
The whole conversation with them reminded me of when men in garages tell me what's wrong with my car and why it'll cost me several hundred quid to fix and I understand hardly anything of the exchange.
my hire director just came in with ice cream for all! :)
Enjoy that sunshine!