I see you’re all trying to behave yourselves. Is it like when a kid’s mum tells them off and they diligently do their homework for the next week?
This is from an article I saw the other day written by a children’s writer frustrated that when she did school visits she’d often find that she was presented with an audience of only girls, because the school had seen that she had a book with “princess” in the title, and assumed that no boy could possibly be interested in anything she had to say or ever want to read a “girl’s book”
“The belief that boys won’t like books with female protagonists, that they will refuse to read them, the shaming that happens (from peers, parents, teachers, often right in front of me) when they do, the idea that girls should read about and understand boys but that boys don’t have to read about girls, that boys aren’t expected to understand and empathize with the female population of the world….this belief directly leads to rape culture. To a culture that tells boys and men, it doesn’t matter how the girl feels, what she wants. You don’t have to wonder. She is here to please you. She is here to do what you want. No one expects you to have to empathize with girls and women. As far as you need be concerned, they have no interior life.”