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so you don't feel the need to do small-talk whenever you're both in the kitchen etc.
or have sex
Buy beers, share them. Whatever happens happens.
makes no difference
(i am the problem btw)
but not a housemate.
nah can imagine it would be a complete torture trying to make small talk with ol' barley sugar
i reckon i'd excell at it
i'd tell him how these biscuits i've been buying have been making my teeth feel horrible after i have one cause they're made with rice flour but i can't help myself because they're 90p
if you don't really know them you have to be polite and it's rude not to do a little bit of small talk and if you become friends with them then it turns into interested chat because they're your friend
like flatmates who might argue a bit. i think i'd prefer that to acting like we've just bumped into each other in sainsburys everytime we're in the kitchen at teh same time. when he has a mate or two from uni in the flat (that hes only known since september) it sounds like he's known them all his life. no idea how the fuck people just be themselves, unguarded so quickly. reckon i could live with him for about 10 years and it wouldn't change cos i'm a weirdo
being overly self conscious that we struggle to fulfill these social expectations but not self conscious enough to be forced into doing whatever it takes to not have people think we're rude.
so you can develop a sense or camaraderie.
just one or the other.
I'd choose camaraderie probably.
albeit standoffish with each other. This has got to be better than Antman? Surely?
Then walk in on them wanking and make sure you make eye contact. Then they'll make sure never to be in the same room as you ever again. Hello, free kitchen!
if you believe pornography
I can try
don't agree with this at all
as per usual. being able to slightly take the piss out of someone and not feel guilty is the most important skill of all time that i don't possess
people only feel comfortable with other people once the other person has taken the piss out of them for something.
you need to be able to share a joke for sure, don't think that has to mean taking the piss
then vine yourself teabagging him
find yourselves a victim and bond over some good old fashioned bullying.
small talk is the worst but unfortunately it's something we all have to master. Just pretend you're some character in a Woody Allen film or something. It's not that hard once you get used to it, what is hard is keeping your persona consistent once you do break ice (depending on what breaking the ice with someone actually constitutes).
The truth is you're probably not really.
whenever I make a post/thread on here, half the time everyone's reaction is something along the lines of 'wtf?', and I'm not even doing anything intentional, usually.
but this is part of your education and growing up. the kind of life/social situations you'll find yourself in through your interaction with people on your course or that you live with are a good practice ground for leaving uni and going into the *world*. Have a go at chatting and developing a small degree of rapport- it doesn't really matter in the long term if you fuck it up, so you may as well try?
If you are nervous, it's likely that this is your reptilian brain impulsively springing into a flight reaction. try to visualisation a situation where you bump into him in the kitchen. While visualising it, you should breath deeply and be calm and happy. Once you've done this a few times, when you do next bump into him in the kitchen, your instinctive negative reaction will not automatically spring to life with force, because it will have a bit bit of competition from the positive layer of your visualisation experiences. try it, it takes some practice but it's 's a very powerful tool for confidence or for breaking cyclical negative impulse behaviour.
lived with them for more than a year (didn't know them beforehand) and we all get on fine but don't really hang out together all that much. Normally I'm alright at small talk and quite enjoy it but I think if you're around people for long enough without getting beyond the small-talk zone then it's hard to get past that and it can be a bit awkward like.
Let some rodent loose in the house and work together to remove it.
those car crashes bring us together like nothing else
in the kitchen and carry on as if you weren't there. made me really appreciate small talk cus that was excruciating