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i want to take more pictures in 2015
i want to
write some fiction
read more history
moving somewhere new at some point so all the guff that comes with that
which I've done really well at and I love my body. think self acceptance nyrs are generally a really good idea. im gonna try and read more and enjoy life and worry less.
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was actually thinking of endeavouring to write one complete self-contained thing of some description for every day of the year.
I can't shake the feeling that I'll forget to do so on the first of Jan and then be like "ffs m8"
would anyone be interested in reading a draft of the probably not brilliant short film screenplay I might start writing if I actually get it done?
sharp_yet_blunt read mine and gave some really useful feedback that I never actually did anything with, mate him
But you can mate him if you want, I'm not the boss of you
It could compromise his critical faculties one way or another. I'm impressed with my new year's resolve at actually doing some kind of work on it... I've been daydreaming way too much about making a short film of some kind. It's nice to actually be making constructive progress of at least some sort.
remember to carry a book/my kindle about with me more (used to always but now i don't for some reason) and always charge my ipod so i don't get bored in waiting rooms (got four hospital appointments lined up for jan already)
also yeah the pictures thing
and get around to developing the box of film in my room
less cocaine (see above)
drink like a normal person
go to doctors for liver function test/get that whole lung.. thing checked out
actually do something useful/make some changes towards being the person I could be, instead of pissing my life away in the pub
be happier and ting (lol!)
start with one at a time and don't be hard on yourself xx
to reflect the new you
now that i've managed to be less insecure about my physical attractiveness
also read/write more things and do other productive valuable stuff i guess, but whatever i have a whole life to do that, you're only young and sexy once soooo
hoping this will happen somewhat naturally with having a full time job
and i scared myself to death with google
I've realised that if I'm being the best me I can be, it endears me to a small percentage of girls. I guess I'll try and go with that.
also gonna not let depression stop me brushing my teeth. and do, like, a hundred press-ups and crunches EVERY MORNING, just because it can't hurt.
probably buy some new clothes, too.
when you were sharing yr brolly with thingy before we went for mulled wine. Well Kim said to me "your mates dead cute" so keep it up 👍 although they've both got bfs so maybe don't listen to a word I say
My phone camera is pretty gash and I don't own any other type so will probably need to a) do some research and b) actually take new camera with me places.
Also, go back to playing football weekly.
Last year I worked out what the various knots of interconnected problems are, this year I'm going to try and untie them, stuff like actually work on my social skills rather bemoan my lack, probably doomed to failure because I'm feeble to the core but that's ok. also save a thousand pounds a month then move out end of March. Go on at least one holiday. Learn music theory properly and try and master the mandolin. Go for a promotion or look for another job closer to home. Continue to not watch television (realised this is the real time stealer not the internet), read more, seek new music, be a better person.
Get a new job
Go on some dates
Buy a new camera so I can get back into photography (I want an fuji x20!)
Get a new phone (just ordered this)
Make more effort to socialise with people
Get less stressed about work and do fewer hours
Start a new band or find another creative hobby
See the doctor about my skin
Save some money
Love like I've never been hurt
Sing like no one's listening
Dance like nobody's watching
Its worked so well for me this last half year and I want it to continue!
don't want to think about self-improvement because I'd be here all day listing my many faults and I won't do anything about them anyway
Last and First Men is great
sounds good though, can't be many novels that cover 2 billion years
Which is pretty much exactly what is wrong with me.
So I'm trying to do it differently this year.
a) Try not to be embarrassed by who I am - don't feel the need to keep things private out of fear of others' reactions. Stop apologising for everything / being self-deprecating. Stop trying to become a person I won't ever be and probably don't want to be anyway. I guess this can all be summed up in: be comfortable with yourself, try to care less about what people think. It's such a huge thing to try and do, and it makes me feel a bit ill just thinking about it, but I think it would make a huge difference to my life. Every time I lie or hide something it dials the self-loathing up massively. Need to cut it out.
b) Stop believing that I can do normal things the way normal people do them without thinking because I can't. Yeah, it's a bit embarrassing that the cleaner will see my daily star charts for 'brush teeth', 'shower', 'eat dinner', 'tidy', 'take tablets' etc, but she'll get over it. Being a bit weird is okay, being incapable of basic human function is not. Sort. It. Out.
c) I guess tied in to the first one but expanded: DON'T LIE. I have a terrible habit of lying about little things for no reason what-so-ever. Like, if someone asks me what I did at the weekend (the actual answer will be watched tv / messed around on the internet), I'll think 'what do people do on weekends' and answer something like 'oh, I went to the cinema', and then they ask what I saw and I say 'um, I can't remember' and then they get weirded out because why even do that? Sometimes I lie about bigger things out of insecurity (no idea how many relationships I've invented over the years, but I could probably out-Taylor Taylor Swift with them) - again, it just makes me hate myself and gives me no actual benefit. Just be honest - the worst that can happen is that people think I'm a bit odd, which they probably think anyway. And a lot of the time I'd guess they see through the lies, making them think I'm a bit odd and really sad which is definitely worse.
d) If all of that goes brilliantly then have a go at a relationship of some kind. Because I know I really, really want a family in the future, but I'm so completely clueless when it comes to relationship stuff that it's not going to happen unless I either get practice or meet the world's most patient person.
e) ...and maybe try to cut the rambling a bit, haha
have a great 2015. That was one of the most honest and raw posts I've read here for a long while. I don't know who you are but you sound like a great person. I hope all goes as well as you want it to. Have a great 2015.
Thank you - that honestly means a lot. I hope you have a great year too :-)
stop dithering. like, if I possibly can, do something now. if not now, next possible moment.
I broke my usual habit last year of only doing stuff that other people have set up, and organised something small-ish for my Birthday that turned out to be really enjoyable and splintered off into a weekend wi friends and stuff.
I should be less assuming that people don't want to do anything I want to do ever. Or whatever.
Go to more gigs
Be a bit more social
Improve my marathon time a bit.
Allow my confidence with friends to transfer over to Cupid's domain.
Drink slightly less... only slightly, though.
More gigs and more varied social activities.
1. Stop thinking about my ex
2. Get regular physio so I can play football again
3. Cut down smoking by half
Achievable. 2 and 3 are anyway.
That's the main one.
I've also made a lists of 12 books and 12 films that I've always wanted to read/see, but never get around to. Try and get through one of those a month or something.
get a new job
record some of the music i've been writing
maybe start a new band
Do yoga at least 3 times a week. Too on and off at the minute.
Try and write more music on my own. Find it really easy in a rehearsal studio with others but I'm not great by myself.
he's gonna be prime minister in 6 months, that will be difficult
Start a new band
Write maybe 20 songs, I wrote fuck all this year
As someone said further up, stop thinking about writing a novel and actually write a novel
Play regular football and join a cricket club
Do a half-marathon
Take a photo of something interesting every day (stole this from one of my friends who did it last year, I really like the idea)
Somehow find a way to meet potential dates/BF/etc in real life because I do fucking terribly on dating apps and I'm fairly decent IRL
Work-related goals which'd be prety boring to anyone on here
Generally have more fun (had quite a lot of fun in 2014 but could always do with more)
surprised you can't just pick up guys
though when I said fairly decent I just meant I'm decent at chatting and being sociable, which I find a million times easier than trying to make people like you based on 6 pictures and a bit of text
> Erm get a tattoo or two. I've done that whole "have an idea for a year and if you still like it" go ahead thing...
> Hopefully get a new job. A plus would be that it comes with a fresh set of nice people / friends. Don't get down if that doesn't happen.
> Prove to myself that I can learn from what went wrong in my last relationship. Hopefully find someone new and not be hesitant to commit, due to being burned last time.
. Giving up alcohol
. Giving up porn
. Learning to cook more stuff
. Looking after my mum
. Working on music every weekend
Fully abstaining might be difficult
-actually take some microsoft exams
-do better at jiujitsu
-get more technical with striking (I still look like a grappler trying to strike)
-put on more shows
Take some boxing classes bro, nothing better for getting the striking technique up. Totally different type of footwork, esp for level trasnitions, but it really helps
GL with the jiujitsu, Im doing some training down Carlson Gracie nowadays, their focus is a more aggressive BJJ that seems better for MMA (although thats not a slight on the super amazing, technical 'gentle art' BJJ I got at Roger Gracie), so pop on down if you want a roll!
I got absolutely merked by a Carlson Gracie guy the last time I competed and iirc it was one of their guys that won the english open in the white belt category. They hold loads of seminars so I'll definitely be heading to one of those in the future.
I've been thinking about going to boxing for awhile they're a few classes at my gym so I'll probably pop down to one of those at some point.
- take vitamin c every day
- stop skiving my italian lessons
- go swimming so i can build up my stamina for skating
- do stuff after work sometimes instead of vegetating on the sofa and wasting time
a) lose a bit of weight, mostly because I'd like to fit into some of the clothes I have that I like
b) learn some more useful code stuff
the first one I did so well on that I went up by 12kg over the year. I actually started doing something about that on Monday and have stuck to it so far, cut loads of shit out of my diet and I'm already down by over 1kg. I know this will be water or something else but it's a positive start, so hopefully it'll continue.
Doesn't have to be a different beer in every week, but by the end of the year it has to be exactly 52 variations sampled.
might do it as well.
proper beers, not pissy lagers in tins. I easily got over 52.
Learn better french
Stop eating so many sandwiches daily
2/3 of those will be easy
- stop oversharing on the internet