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Did you lay on a free bar for your guests?
And, if so, how much did it cost for how many people?
Christ, we could barely afford the stuff we did pay for.
But this was in 2009 and the pub was in central London so that probably covered a half a shandy for each guest.
My reckoning is that c. 100 people will drink around £35 of booze at a place that averages £4 a pint. So that's £3,500.
What does the average person drink between 5pm and 12pm? 7 pints or so? If we could cap it at £3k that'd be mint.
Are they all quite young, or have you got a fair few elderly relatives thrown in? You'll presumably have a few non-drinkers/drivers too?
I reckon an average of 6 pints would be reasonable - you're gonna have a few who destroy the bar as well of course.
5 children. 5 60+ family members who drink a shitload.
lay on pints, house wine and single spirits + mixers. If anyone wants any shots or anything else they can pay for it themselves.
I went to one in a village hall and ended up dancing with the Mayor. I think they always put them in the middle of nowhere so at least someone has to stay sober and drive people back, but for non-designated drivers they're just the best.
Think you've been done, Steved.
someone was sick on the bus (and on me)
my Bad Uncle Martin humorously abused it by asking what I was drinking 'Armagnac' I replied. He leapt over the bar and proceeded to fill up a dimpled pint glass with Armagnac. He was 'stopped' by a barman very politely but firmly
free booze for the day people in the day. None for the evening scum in the evening.
Lots of the best people came in the evening only, whereas some 'family friends' we were obliged to invite came for the whole fucking thing.
and not having a sit down meal. Hence the free bar desire.
Reckon we can have buffet + booze for all for the entirety of the reception for £45 a head which would be good spending I reckon.
so the bar hire was cheaper?
not really applicable if you're hiring out a venue rather than people to cater to a wedding. also there were multiple food vans and it was in a castle.
for wine/champagne, and a few bottles of beer for during the day, with a paid bar put on by the venue in the evening. Could have got away with about £400 in the end.
gonna buy all our own prosecco from LIDL too. Amazed the pub will let us do this.
*It was only free wine & beer originally but on the day I instructed the the bar staff to make cava free too in a fit of drunken benevolence.
Ran to about £2k on top of the wine and fizz we provided before/with the meal. It really depends where you hire though as our venue would only let use their caterers so we probably weren't getting the cheapest deal. This was for about 120 people inc. a number of heavy drinking DiSers.
It was a capping system so every time we hit certain milestones the bar staff would ask us if we wanted to cap it or let people keep drinking.
Easily worth the money to make sure our pals were having as much fun as possible. In retrospect I probably would have gone for a totally free bar, felt guilty every time I saw someone paying for Jaegerbombs.
Nah I totally think it's fair enough to get people to pay for silly stuff like Jagers and shots and that. We'll have to cap it at a certain amount you see so don't want a load of people taking advantage of cocktails and whisky early doors and the spend running out quickly...
I was surprised how reasonable it was. I think actually if people have been caning the prosecco + wine all day by the evening they don't need too much to keep them going.
If it's anything like our experience the bar staff will be pretty flexible - so if you wanted to you could always keep an eye on the spend and then go totally open bar at 10pm. Or just buy everyone a round of shots.
But obviously the less everyone spends the better for us! Just need to hit that sweet spot between laying on enough booze for everyone to have fun but not going well overboard with it.
but I think it's cheaper in the States, whether that's because there's a different drinking culture/booze is cheaper/it's more common and more reasonably priced by venues, I don't know. The venue guy has told me he can lay on loads of "special English beers", I told him to fuck off, I can drink Boddingtons at home.
Having a cash bar at a wedding in America is really, really looked down on as a social faux pas. Or so I've heard.
I ended up so drunk I went back to the wrong hotel, the owners were nice and put me up anyway and I woke up lying in a bath tub.
I would do it for sure if I ever got married, just the idea of it makes me so happy. Not marriage, a free bar. Might numb the pain of marriage a little.
sod laying on a 3 course meal for everyone - let's give them free booze all night instead. Bit different. Works out the same price-ish. People will probably have more fun.
Does get a bit annoying the amount you have to fork out to go to weddings. We want it so no-one has to pay a penny when they're at ours if they don't want to.
was free beer and cider (few barrels, probably £500 spent on that) and everyone was asked to bring a bottle. We ended up with a table absolutely swamped with spirits, wine, champagne...so basically every guest spent about £20 on booze to get absolutely destroyed. It was awesome.
I basically think just exclude spirits to stop it getting ridiculous.
about ten crates of lager/cider at about £20 each
couple of hundred quid on wine
couple of ponies on soft drinks
so just over £500? something like that
it was intersting. a lot of rye in the bar. i drank a lot. it was good. dance with my nephew to muse.
It was a lot less then I thought it'd be. I think we budgeted £2k and there was around £400 left at the end of the night.
I bought two casks of ale which really helped keep costs down, and shots and spirits weren't free - just beer and wine. When the venue shut we went into the hotel bar and we let people order what they wanted and the £400 went really quickly. Literally in about 20-30 minutes.
I think you need to have a free bar, really. At least for a few hours. Not bovved about whether or not it's socially acceptable, it just makes the day better when everyone is turbo-lagged.
Still reckon £3k is a fair benchmark for ours. We've just decided to spend our budget on booze rather than food because I think that's what most people enjoy doing at a wedding (i.e. drinking). Seems a bit much to have a full on sit down meal given that but, tradition I suppose.
Amazing how much you can save by not going down that road. If we weren't lobbing a free bar in our wedding would cost under £5k. Still a lot of money but a 1/3 of the average apparently :/
Not having one. Making an explicit point in the invitation for no-one to bring any gifts or give us any money.
Gonna be putting the `but people WANT to get you stuff/will just get you a gift anyway!!!` theory to the test. Looking forward to it.
...and as a group of mates pretty much all we do is drink. I was really surprised that it was so low. Well worth looking at a company like Rent-a-keg. For £250 I got about 150 pints of London Pride and Summer Lightning and paid a small amount of corkage on top.
We did a BBQ rather than a 'proper' sit down meal and hired a Rossi's ice cream van (bit of a Southend tradition) and saved a lot doing that.
We're getting hitched then having a BBQ-type-thing in a pub. Will have to buy the booze directly from them though so that's ramping the cost up a bit, but they're not charging venue hire so... just need to spend a minimum amount.
Reckon your £2k when you got married (I assume 5+ years ago?) + where = about £3k now + in London.
And yeah I asked because me and my mates drink A LOT. Bit worrying that the idea of 9 pints between 5 and 12 is seen as unusual :/
...and the venue was in London, as my Mrs is from Wimbledon. We got fleeced on pretty much everything apart from the booze.
I thought it was in Sarfend, from your post.
We've actually managed to keep the shafting down to a minimum. Only thing that's really ruffling my ringpiece is how expensive a photographer is. £500 for 4 hours work? Fuck off...
We're getting a whole day out of her, but JFC, what a lucrative line of work to be in.
I sort of work in that field so am used to paying a few hundred quid for a whole day, plus all the photo selections processing. I just sat and Googled loads and emailed out blindly. I had one quote for... FOUR GRAND.
I have a few mates who do it for a living, but felt I couldn't really ask them for obvious reasons. I got all the images off him and processed them myself then used http://www.blurb.co.uk/ to get them put into a book.
Much cheaper, but did take me almost 2 years to sort the book out :-/
...but asking them to be `working` when they should be enjoying themselves is a bit rude I think.
I appreciate why wedding photography is on a higher rate card (usually on a Saturday, inconvenient location, involves a lot of hanging round, stakes are MUCH higher than your average job). But I reckon the average wedding photographer has a standard day rate of about £200 for all other jobs. Charging 5x that for a wedding is vulgar. But if people are idiotic enough to pay it...
One held on the grounds of this guy's brother in law who is a multi millionaire. He had paid for the marquee and laid on some food in his PALACE, but no free bar, everyone banging on about how generous he had been, had he fuck! Was shit.
Other wedding- salmon en croute the size of my head in a shitty pub. Loads behind the bar, over indulged and threw up in car park. Great night out.
conclusio-free bar, more the better, number of questions answered=0
and then it works out at a half bottle of decent wine per person for the meal.
Then evening guests will get a couple of complimentary glasses of champagne too, and the rest of it will just be for people to finish until it's gone.
And then there's a cash bar, but one we've subsidised it so pints will only cost a couple quid and the same for a spirit/mixer or a glass of not bad wine. Figured subsidising cash bar would mean that people would at least feel like they were getting a bargain as a guest.
Am I a day guest too? Still missing my invite btw bud
You get two bottles of gin, a tiny umbrella and ice cubes in the exact shape of landraiders. I have thought of literally everything.
the best man realised when he was checking out he next morning that loads of people had been charging drinks to his room. He was just like, these aren't my signatures, so they got the drinks for free. Just do that
We were already relying on a considerable amount of help from our respective families to get the wedding paid for. Asking for money so our friends could get pissed seemed a bit cheeky.
So no rules (either real or imagined) attached to any money we're spending. Sweeeeeeeet.
...had his wedding pretty much funded by his wife's family, and they ended up having to invite tonnes of people he hardly knew. So much wasteman at the reception.
Luckily both of my parents are of the `it's your wedding, do what the fuck you want` persuasion but cutting off all external sources of funding definitely removes any external influence. We're not doing anything we don't want to do. It's great.
they had i think 2 bottles of fizzy thing for our table
and i think must have been about 5/6 bottles for the meal for the table
there was loads of beer and pims when we had the canapés so i probably had about 4/5 of those
i don't think i bought a drink there was loads of beer lefts over and then someone bought sambuca
that plus food plus venue hire (a pub) was like nine hundo
great night. the ensuing marriage however
Is cripplingly expensive, and no one minds if you don't do it.
Then people complain about the cost of weddings - well don't buy everyone 9 pints then!
We want to, we think it's the right thing to do. As mentioned above, we're sacking off the sit down meal + wine and just having a buffet @ £10 a head + free bar. Works out about the same as the more `conventional` model (the one that xylo articulates up there) and I reckon our guests will enjoy themselves more as a result.
I give more of a shit about everyone having The Best Time™ than anything else. I can afford it. Not a problem.