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Numbers here people, just want a rough idea.
Not just people who you're sort of friends with but you don't speak that often and it would get seriously awkward if it was just two of you.
If so, then 14.
If we're just counting people you'd stop and talk to for a bit at a party or if you saw them on the street, probably about 30.
100-odd by the second.
somewhere between 8-10, depending on the definition
I have a friend who basically has said fuck you to everyone I saw him meet at uni and still has many friends despite this
id define it as people I would have no qualms texting to meet if they were in the area, I make that 5. Only 1 locally though, really dislike the feeling of having my social life hinge on one person, feel like a burden.
Otherwise 9 or 10. Thing is I've been telling my friends a pretty huge lie to keep something I'm embarrassed about a secret (failed and resat my first year of uni), and I've been living a bit of a double life this past year (not recommended). Sometimes I get paranoid they suspect or secretly know, or are ganging up on me behind my back. If that's the case then maybe 0.
They'd be far more bothered about you hiding it from them for no reason.
But I started the web of lies a year ago when I was in shock and denial about my situation, now it's too late to go back and they're gonna be really pissed when they find out I've been lying to them. It's like some shit has been set on a timer which I know is inevitable (so in the meantime I'm just making the best of a bad situation). Dunno what the fuck I'm gonna tell everyone when I go into 3rd year and they think I'm graduating. I feel like such a criminal. Not because I failed but because I lied to my friends.
Continuing the lie is not something I enjoy though. I don't deliberately do it, only when I'm asked questions related to what I'm doing at uni, I kinda have to otherwise it will ruin the night at the pub. I don't get asked questions all the time about it but it's still an obstacle which puts me into 'fight or flight' mode. One of my friends is essentially a racist so I'm not TOO bothered about what he'll think, although he will be the most annoyed. But racism is worse than lying so I can always use that against him in case he has a go at me. The fact I've been lying though my teeth might hurt 3 people who I don't want to get hurt.
And then there's the outside chance they might read this and figure out who I am!
just wait until next year and when they start talking about graduation say yours is next year because you had to re do some modules, they probably won't care or probe any further
a friend of mine (one of 5) dropped out in year one to go to a lot of free parties and take a lot ketamine, his family think he graduated
They lived together and everything. Can't remember why he didn't tell her, but it eventually surfaced that she'd known almost from day 1.
I think you should tell your friends and talk to them about what's happened and why you haven't told them sooner etc. If they're really your friends, then like Pegfeet said, they won't stop being your friends because of this, but they'll be worried if you are ok etc. If they are stupid enough to be really bothered about something like this then you are literally better off without them anyway.
rather than from someone else or by accident somehow?
seriously, if they are your friends they will handle this.
are my friends, but I don't know how to count you
and yet, I am my only friend
all of them
and not run out of things to talk about and be happy to talk in depth about what's going on in our lives.