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You might get sick of feeling like you're on the periphery of other peoples lives, bigger groups like couples and families
Surely everyone wants to be special to someone
if you're a priest it is.
Pretty lonely a lot of the time but I have to remember that when I am going out with someone I spend most of the time wishing I was single. Life: a funny ol' game. I think, ultimately, I just really like doing all the things that I want to do all of the time. Any kind of compromise feels like some huge injustice. As you can imagine, this kind of thinking makes me terrible boyfriend material so it's probably for the best I'm single, I think of it as me 'doing my bit for others'.
I guess it all depends on why you are though :)
If it's because you feel like you don't deserve to be with someone, or deserve to be happy then perhaps it's time to look at that and find some way of sorting it out so you are happy enough in yourself to share your life with someone?
If it's because you just like being by yourself and are content that way then that's cool until you want to change it.
I've been both of the above in succession for 8.5 years and now I want to change it so I'm now attempting to learn how to do this. I'm 37. Pro DiSer.
and they try and involve me and i'm like lol dunno
ive noticed people can be quite persistent when it comes to stuff like that, I see it coming a mile off so pre-emptively change the subject, fend it off a few more times with more subject changes yet they always come back to asking something awkward
^ was in my autofill
I don't think it is. But that's probably far more my own insecurity than anything else, so yeah it probably is.
Being in an amazing relationship > Being single=Being in an ordinary relationship > Being in a shit relationship
You're in a better position than most people in relationships.
or one where one or both parties are making each others' lives worse in any number of ways.
impossible vague question leading to well-meaning but impossibly vague answers
all depends on context and i doubt bamnan is really expecting an enlightened answer here (and that's ok)
there's definitely a context where a lengthy period of single-dom can be really bad for your mental health, and maybe even then it's not the single-dom itself but the fear that it may never take a turn for the better.
also i think it's very hard for people who are in regular relationships to understand that mindset and how bleak it can be, so some of the well-meaning advice can be irritating at best infuriating at worst. but then you're probably asking for it if you ask a question like 'is being single ok'?
otherwise you end up in an unhealthy dependent relationship which is.. quite nice. But also bullshit. I think
wait what was I saying
no-class is right, it is pretty bleak. Even having somebody fancy me once would do wonders I think. Funny how it's considered vain to need approval of others, never much sympathy for that particular weakness.
Thanks for your 2ps though folks.
You're nobody 'til somebody loves you. You're nobody 'til somebody cares. You may be king, you may possess the world and it's gold but gold won't bring you happiness when you're growing old. The world still is the same, you never change it, as sure as the stars shine above.
You're nobody 'til somebody loves you: so find yourself somebody to love!