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but just keeps broadcasting their thoughts, barely acknowledging your part of the conversation?
and he's a salesman. How he actually manages to sell anything is beyond me
oblivious of their surroundings
I've actually timed a phone conversation with them once and they talked for 15min solid without me saying anything once.
just using you as some sort of soundboard
7 minutes. Ridiculous.
She seemed surprised at the end of the date when I suggested we just be friends.
Pretty sure I had to shout over her at one point to get her to STOP TALKING.
As I was saying:
I could imagine you yelling "SO I'M VALENCI"
what fun those people are.
because you're an affable character, but once you notice it, you realise you are totally superfluous to the entire thing
She's amazing. My friend will quite often have her on the phone, have a conversation with someone else off the phone and occasionally just go back to the phone to say 'OK' or 'right'. I've seen her do it about ten times, once for about eight minutes non-stop. This woman has no idea.
but you have to wonder what the person gets out of it, if anything at all
Has sold nothing in a year of being at our SAAS company. Not surprised. Every conversation she has at me makes me angry
you can start saying the most ridiculous things and they'll barely notice. Actually, they might notice, but don't want to let it steer their soliloquy so choose to ignore it or shake it off as a "weird joke"
might get a coffee
I mean, it's all very well noticing the character flaws in others, but what if that's how people see you?
The things that annoy you most in other people are usually flaws you see in yourself.
Bet you'll be surprised.
Good trick is to tell them they're stuck in 'transmitter mode'.
the thing is though, he turned out to be such a cunt, that I didn't know if I should really read anything into it or not
I think it's for the best, but how can you know if these things are real or not? It's not like there's some sort of top trump of yourself where you can find out these things for certain one way or another
Make it happen.
it's to be expected. We actually reconciled like ten years later, but it wasn't the same.
Like some people I don't want to mention, but could and they wouldn't even notice anyway!
you're doing a thing
had you not responded to the content of the posts you're replying to.
but in my experience, it doesn't matter if it's spoken or written, the symptoms are the same
I mean, it's never nice to be talked about behind your back in that way, even if it is the case. It's just alienating.
subtext: "WHEN IS IT MY TURN TO SPEAK?!"
they go and do or say something completely inappropriate like still talking about their day after you tell them that your grandmother just died or something
i know someone who does this
makes me feel rubbish even bothering to talk to them
they just seem so nice but they only want to talk about themselves, even when awful things have happened they just go 'oh, okay. so, i was...'
is the moment you do manage to say something about yourself, they look at you slightly confused and then go "anyway, so as I was saying..."and back onto them again
but drunk jfc they are impossible to talk to. one guy is not only like this but he just shouts and spits at you. geugh.
I find a lot of people like this *tend* to be teachers.
I think it might be because she lives alone with her cats.
She sounds sad. Maybe suggest that she gets another cat?
every email that comes in, every detail of what he is doing, everything in his mind is talked through in detail. Sometimes it is directed at people, but those closest to him have just learned to zone it out rather than humour him with nods and responses so he now talks entirely to himself. He is really fucking weird anyway, people tell him to stop talking sometimes but he just laughs and stops for a few minutes before it starts again.
it's not my fault
people think i'm really quiet cos i'm shy but it's actually just cos i never know what the conversation topic is
and at the end in case we've gone off track a bit
Probably a hard wired personality trait they have little control over or are even aware of rather than a moral failing
but yes, people are awful cunts
maybe I am JUST AS BAD in real life
everyone stop changing usernames
we never had a proper conversation, and it makes me kind of sad. 26 years of her just talking at me :(
you're almost certainly not doing it too much.
Self-awareness (or lack of) is kinda what avoiding this is all about.
The driver was this type - talking away, commentating on everything, singing along. chirpy sod.