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What things do you do to help you cope?
apart from going on dis, obv.
I doubt there are many jobs that are more stressful and demanding (all things considered) than some of the factory-type, minimum wage stuff that a lot of my friends do.
Not knowing whether you'll be kept on, day to day, barely making rent week to week...
Weird thing we do, equating well paid with stressful.
Can't be too bad a thing to consider that maybe we expand our sense of stress in-line with our sense of status ...
keeping it in perspective could have a functional use for all the high-flyers wondering which yoga technique will best allow them to CRUSH IT IN THE BOARDROOM ... (which is a cultural narrative we are fed, even to the point of romanticizing manual labour etc)
it's not a dig, its an important part of the discussion.
Not trying to instigate a discussion about what constitutes a stressful job.
if we're not made to feel apologetic for even having thoughts about a subject, you're on the wrong board.
No safety wink.
One thing I've found helpful, simple as it sounds, is having hard boundaries on the amount and type of work that I will take on, obviously while remaining as friendly/helpful as you can within those remits. I see it all the time, people saying YES, thinking if they throw themselves into something they'll be respected as team-player/action man...
In the end, they end up overwhelmed, stressed and annoyed as those who have stood up for their value/expertise by are promoted ahead of them.
Fine line though, admittedly.
Really hard line to tread but probably the single best advice you can be given. If you take everything on, you'll be taken advantage of and will either crumble from the stress, or be expected to do the work for 'free' forever more. Absolutely ridiculous that it always works like that, but it does.
Can't take it off topic at all. Also, make sure not to add any humour.
I used to take a shed load of drugs
Drink myself into a shambles of a human being every night
Scrap with chavs in the street at the weekend
Happy to help
Have your whole day mapped out, allowing for likely interruptions.
Up, showered, todo list, exercise, breakfast (for instance).
If it's the same every day, you sort of feel organised before you even have to know what your job is.
Also, you can deal with any bullshit from the night before and get your company used to the idea that you're an early morning person and not an after-work-email person.
I find stress multiplies ridiculously when I'm tired and everything becomes so much more difficult.
And regularly remind myself that outside of these four walls, my job just does not matter. No one's going to die if I don't get something done in time.
Have a massive full-on explosive breakdown in the shower every morning; gets it out of the way.
organize your workload
don't worry when extra stuff comes your way
people quite often assume that admitting they're stressed will work against them. but if they're at all decent then they will want to help by talking about what they can do to help (which will only improve your performance). are you being assertive enough with your colleagues/clients? http://www.time-to-change.org.uk/your-organisation/support-workplace/getting-support-from-my-company
without knowing what is up it's kinda hard to say anything other than really general advice. http://www.hse.gov.uk/stress/dealingwith.htm
Dealing with deadlines, clients etc. But my mate who is a nurse works 12 hour shifts in A&E. Puts things in to perspective really. My boss deal with stress by yoga and going surfing. I think exercise is a great way to beat stress.
Job can be pressurised but nothing like other stuff I've done.
Agree re exercise too
Bollocks to just putting up with unrelenting work shite for an indeterminate period of time.
if you hate your job to the point that its severely impacting on your mental health then look for other jobs or go off on the sick
project deadlines etc mean that there's always a wealth of stress that bunches when they loom. I think that's what I assume people mean because yes, if as Wz
a says they're unrelenting pressured then they're not good for you.
Then again, it's not possible for most people to just bin their job off altogether if it's making them sad. Especially with the Tories looking like they could end up with more time in power and benefits subsequently being in a more worrying vulnerability.
"look for other jobs or go off on the sick" is really different from "bin [your] job off altogether"
i really don't see what's wrong with saying someone should look for another job if their mental health is being severely impacted by their current one.
wasn't saying you were saying it's wrong, at all. More that a tight job market etc might mean people have to choose the lesser evil of handling stress through their own means than the (preferable) switching of jobs.
Are you at the tail end of dissertationing now or is it fully over with?
which is good but also is kinda just drawing it out. does mean i have time to do some cbt and rest in between working though (y)
hope it all goes well. Is really good you're giving yourself time for mending body and brain. Amazing how much good CBT can do when you give it proper attention
Stops me thinking about work when I have left and helps me relax in the evening and sleep better knowing that I haven't forgotten anything important for the next day
cause i'd be like FUCK I'VE FORGOTTEN X Y Z ID BETTER STAY LATE
whereas normally i remember that i've forgotten something on the journey in to work the next day
do your best to organise your time
we've 3 bags of these at work
and they seem to have replaced all my meals
i fucking LOVE white chocolate. Desperate cravings now. Even love it more than milk choc actually
my job is very stressful at times and impacts on my physical and mental wellbeing
i have a colleague who is really understanding because she's completely empathetic
also i have to juggle things that i'm not paid to do that other people are while i do my actual job i'm paid to do and that's not on
the first complaint ever was filed on me the other month because i was doing too much stuff that other people are supposed to do to focus on my actual job 100%
Pretty obvious but the more you plan and organise then chances are the less stressed you'll be.
Of course every so often shit hits the fan and i can get stressed, first thing is first for me though, don't let anyone you know you're stressed, always look like you're in total command and know exactly what is happening and exactly what's going to happen. I'm pretty good at this, but the i much prefer work when it's a bit pressurised.
I don't always sleep too well and that's generally because i am thinking about work, not in a stressed way but what i/we can do to improve, build, expand etc etc.
I find it very hard to switch off, which can be a bad thing.
To switch off, remain calmer in my mind at all times.
But then there are those odd days where the stress gets too much and I just go home. Its only happened about 4/5 times. I just pack up and go home. They don't seem to mind.
And put my dismembered corpse somewhere prominent as a warning to the rest.
*(Give me a stern telling off).
I just normally have a little cry in his direction and i'm allowed to go.
I'm working in A&E at the moment which in a strange way is less stressful than a ward based job because you just see patients one after another and don't accumulate jobs so much.
Outside of work - exercise, try to maintain as healthy a social life as possible, try to get enough sleep (these last two can sometimes be mutually exclusive, mind). I don't usually get stressed at work but if I do it's almost always because I've not slept enough.
I’ve been thinking about stress today because I found out a colleague has been off with it and I kind of feel like I should have done a bit more to help him. So I feel bad.
Anyway I think the problem is he had a high workload, but there was no reason to feel particularly stressed – the support was there if he needed it, I just don’t think he realised. Also he’d been in a bad position in his previous job (really shitty MD threatening sack all the time). I think sometimes when you’ve been in a bad position, it’s quite hard to get yourself out of that mindset – you’re constantly looking for “the bastard waving your P45” or whatever. I know I’ve been stressed and it’s taken time to undo it. You kind of generate your own stress (which is what I think this guy has done). It’s worth bearing that in mind if you choose the jump ship option.
Anyway, I’ve made it my mission to look after this guy when he returns whether he likes it or not.
It’s a good idea to differentiate between “pressure” and “stress”. Pressure is a high workload, stress is where you feel powerless to deal with it. I think some of the techniques listed above are geared more towards the former.
And as bones says above, neither pressure nor stress are the preserve of the professional classes (us lol).