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yo i saw that this thread went viral earlier
kinda fed up of stuff like this (by that i mean people being on the end of homophobic / racist blah blah abuse) getting posted on the internet. do people really need to watch a video on the internet to believe that abuse happens? like - this shit has been going on decades ffs. (i think partly they are so popular because they make it seem like a rare occurrence when really there are 1000s of incidents like  happening every night across america)
that 75,000+ dollars would be very helpful for a shelter specifically for people that have been made homeless to do lgbtq violence/abuse.
friday night so i cba to post anymore unless someone trolls me but i guess it's just the years old narcissistic millenial one click bullshit getting in the way of long lasting structural social change
this thread didn't go viral
this video did
money going straight to him rather than a homeless shelter has two negative effects. the first is that homeless shelters receive less attention and funding but the second is that it negates any political consequences that can come out of this.
lgbtq homeless shelters are often staffed by people who have been on the end of this kind of abuse in the first place. by talking with them and other people in the shelter, the victims are able to form together into groups which are useful for solidarity and political action. this is less likely to happen if the focus is on one particular case of violence
He set up a crowd fund thing that's got over $60k so far so at least he's going to be able to make a decent start of things by himself
Still absolutely horrible and damaging and why the fuck does America still have Victorian values, but he'll be better off shot of them.
Well, that's even nicer of him.
I'd have grabbed it all.
it happens in the UK as well mate
Not perfect but still.
idk, i think it's too different cultures and you can't really compare 'how far along' they are as that doesn't really make sense.
there are different kinds of anti-queer abuse and i think it's a bit back-patting to make comments as to this being a uniquely american phenomenon. same with when people go on about putin
i mean it was only like 15 years ago that a law was passed in government banning schools from 'promoting homosexual propaganda' in this country
some dates wrong in that post but i looked it up
brought into power 26 years ago
repealed 14 years ago
at the school i went to gay students were asked to get changed in a different changing room after some parents complained and there was no uproar at all. this was like 7 years ago i guess
I never suggested there wasn't homophobia in Britain
But if anything I think we DO have to compare different cultures, international support of queer issues is often what lets less progressive cultures know what they're doing is not on - I think that's been really important in Russia actually. And that doesn't necessarily support the demonization of Russians.
every country has different pop cultures, different power structures, different histories, to the point that there's no such thing as a 'less progressive culture' though. it's not a linear timeline where we move from a gay metric of 0 to a gay metric of 1.
Because thanks to the internet the analysis and comparisons happen constantly and over practically all aspects of pop culture or news/histories
Basically we're after the same thing, massive social structure change and I think the main way to do that is international revolution but instead of doing that people end up addressing differences in cultures (through social relations more than a scientific way really) and changing attitudes in an of incremental way.
They were living in the same house.
Thankfully I haven't had to deal with anything like that. But my relationship with my parents has definitely changed in a negative way, and that's been very hard to understand and come to terms with. Pretty much all my gay friends had issues with their parents to some degree when they came out.
this is the sort of video you need to give a description of so that people can choose whether or not they want to see people attacking their kid for being gay. could be triggering for some people.
Delete this thread?
At least he learnt the important,irrefutable fact that his parents are awful people and he is better off without them.
there's no defending their actions, but i can't help but feel desperately sorry for everyone in that video
the week he completed his degree and went back home to his parents' actually found it a less terrifying prospect to attach a pipe to the exhaust of his car, feed it in through the window, and run the engine until he died than to tell his parents that he was gay
so it goes
22 years old and the guy was a diamond
if this video going viral helps in any way to push stuff like this further into the past and out of our society then I'm totally for it
and I'm not even gay. Wheres my 60k?
However, surely there is a mid ground between 'being born gay' and 'making a choice to be gay'? I don't believe that either of those things are true, and I don't believe in this borderline-religious view about fate, and that everything is pre-determined etc. I don't think anyone consciously decides to be non-straight, but I also think that sexuality develops over the course of someone's life, and isn't just 'set' as soon as you're born. I absolutely resent the implication that any changes in my sexuality are down to lifelong internalised homosexuality that I just wasn't strong enough to admit to myself previously. It makes me sick.
Obviously this isn't really to do with the video, it just set me off thinking. I realise that in the video he needs to argue that he was born gay in order to prove to his parents that it wasn't a choice. But I just keep hearing a lot of straight people going on about how people are born gay etc and it winds me up.
"when does a fetus become a person?"
it's probably likely that it is, like you said, a middle ground between nature and nurture. but it's typical of the way the public at large need to reach for polar extremes to tackle the issue, and it creates a distraction from the real issue, which is that sexuality is a spectrum. but admitting that would force people to accept too much about their own sexuality, and it's a mental block we can't get over.