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tell me your tales about your worst experiences with previous bosses/managers/supervisors.
this is a pretty serious response so whatever the disclaimer thing was for not slagging people off in certain threads - I'm putting one here.
This was about a year ago and the more time that passes, the more angry I get about it.
I'll preface my story by saying a few things:
- I was very new to my job and it was only maybe my second week
- my dad's an alcoholic and has been my whole life
- I didn't know my boss very well at this point and didn't want to get on his bad side over anything so I was being agreeable with whatever was asked of me
- my dad is fine now
Ok, so here it is.
I was on my way to work one morning when I checked my facebook messages and I had one from my dad where he had essentially said "I can't take it any more, I love you. Goodbye." And he'd also attached a message stating his will.
It took me a while to figure out what I was reading and then I noticed that the message had been from late the previous night, some 8-odd hours before.
My bus for work came and I didn't know what to do so I just got on it and started trying to call my dad.
After trying a few times he answered, sounding groggy and disoriented.
He told me he'd taken 100 painkillers (he was also drinking, presumably this triggered him then taking the pills).
He told me not to bother coming up and that he was fed up etc
I was so shocked I was crying on the bus and telling him not to do anything.
After a while he gets off the phone, assuring me that if anything was going to happen to him that it would've happened by now as he had taken the pills some 8 hours earlier. However, I was panicked and wanted to make sure I could get him some help.
I walked into work and went straight to my manager's office but I was in so much shock I just burst into tears and could barely talk so he told me to leave, calm myself down and come back and tell him what was wrong.
So, I came back a few minutes later and explained briefly what had happened.
I would expect the normal response to be something like "Oh fuck, are you ok? Is your dad ok? Right, go to him now and don't worry about work. You need to make sure he's ok and get him medical help.".
However, my manager's response was more like "Right, ok. Has he done this before? Oh and he drinks. So, do you think this is genuine? Right, is there anyone else you can send up to go help him instead, like a sibling or something?" and when I revealed that I could send my brothers but I really needed to be the one to go to he replied with "Right... ok. Well, just call later and let us know if you can make it back to work, alright?".
I was so in shock at the time I just took it all in my stride, agreed to everything he said and headed off to help my dad (got him into hospital, they pumped his stomach and he's much better now). But the more time passes and the more I think about it, I get so angry that my manager could've prevented me from going to help my dad just because he didn't want to be a staff member down for the day.
It's the most horrible and unsympathetic thing a colleague has ever done to me.
sorry to hear about that, and your situation and everything involved. though glad to hear it's improved somewhat.
i think some people are just pure work drones and this makes them abandon all sense of compassion or decency towards other human beings.
I had a cunt of a boss and even then when I went blubbing into their office after I found out my partner was in a car accident, they just said "go. Just go. Now". They did dock my afternoon's pay though...
some people are truly awful.
I wonder if we have the same boss. when my dad's friend hanged himself a few weeks ago, my sister called to break the news, and I was understandably very upset. When I cam off the phone my boss didn't ask what was wrong, he just glared at me. I told him, and he said, well why don't you take 5 minutes to pull yourself together and them we can go over these documents when you're more capable. It was 7pm on a monday night and I was starving and tired and in shock. he is an inhuman CUNT. I had to go over his head to get a half day for teh funeral. A half day's HOLIDAY that is. I've also had to go to the board to have my summer holiday approved bvecause he keep asking me to move it and then blocked in altogether. CUNT., cunt cunt cunt. I think I might just leave actually.
I don't understand why you're only allowed to be upset or off work if it's an immediate family member who has died - God forbid you be shocked or upset by the death of a friend, or person you considered family! Do employers really expect the staff to make up deaths of people around them so they can have a skive? FS.
Do employers really expect the staff to make up deaths of people around them so they can have a skive?
Because it's an entirely unverifiable event that shit employees have been known to use as an excuse for a day off. So a policy gets put in place. And someone has to define the scope of that policy.
Not great, but there you go.
possibly the worse one i had was when i worked in a supermarket part-time during uni. we took the piss that much that it was kind of to be expected though.
but my manager at whsmith was a horrible horrible man whose management style was to bully all of his staff and he shouted at me a number of times for not doing things i'd never been told about let alone how to do
all of the managers i've had at my current job have been good to great, not perfect and they'll do things that annoy me sometimes but generally they're fine.
for calling in sick. Also, one of her colleagues faced disciplinary action and being sacked for being unable to make it to work because she was having a miscarriage and the boss didn't believe her - he wanted proof of her being in hospital, what ward she was in etc etc
He also sexually harassed several other members of staff and sacked anyone if they called in sick even once. All his staff, including the "part time" members were working roughly 40+ a week with barely any days off, 12 hours shifts and no 11 hour gap between their shifts.
But the other day she pronounced the surname Waugh as 'Woff' and she went down in my estimations.
i think it's related to it being a pretty specialist career, so you need to be quite good to become someone with some responsibility.
however, i've worked with some absolute fucking useless cunts.
yr boss hedgehog sounds like a proper thick cunt.
his father died later in the year and all of us felt awful for him naturally, but he didn't seem able to empathise with anyone else. He was very selfish and lazy, not a good person to work for.
Who were completely out their depth and tried to bully anyone below them. Screaming and making us work 12-14 hour days without lunchbreaks then refusing any holidays once the rota had been done as it would mean work for them. One of the last days they screamed in my face to pick up a call when I was already on the phone, and if it had been a man, I'd have sparked them THE FUCK OUT. The weekend holiday I'd been rejected for I handed my notice in on that firday afternoon and told them to shove it.