Or do you pretend you don't fancy anyone else?
Try to rein in the vocal appreciation of certain celebs who've got attributes I know she's a bit insecure about mind.
So, yes, but it's sensitively tailored.
I just keep my mouth shut.
without even looking up
"look she's beautiful"
"OMG CAN'T BELIEVE YOU LOOKED"
I dunno, maybe she was right
If you can't handle the idea of your other half having a daft crush on some Hollywood A-lister or whatever then it's difficult to see how your relationship is going to function. Having said that I absolutely cannot feel anything by way of attraction for famous people. If I've only seen them on tv I just can't bridge the reality gap.
Never done the whole celebrity crush thing for the same reason. If I'm watching something and someone on it is beautiful then I may comment, but even then it's generally irrelevant and not worth mentioning. More often than not she'll be the one to mention how fit someone is, of any gender, and most often I tend to agree.
i had to make up a crush during the world cup (Daley blind) just so I could wind him right up and he saw through it instantly.
so he wanted to watch rush and I was like 'nah, man, who's in it?' and he said Thor and I said, go on then, and he said OMG you fancy him so much
I love him, course I know his name
It's mainly making fun of other's stupid teenager-like mooning though.
One of the funniest listener e-mails I ever heard on Adam and Joe was about something like this. A couple had another couple over for dinner and asked the other two whether they had a 'Freebie list' (like Ross and Rachel do in Friends). The other couple said that they didn't, so the hosts asked them if they did, what two people would they sleep with if they had they had the choice. The guy instantly named his partner's sister and one of his colleagues.
You know your mate xxxx she looks like Pamela Anderson who I would love to fuck in the arse.
but this has properly done me.
I find it really weird when people are in long-term relationships and can't do it at all. We can talk quite openly about finding people in the street attractive as well. Just a trust thing, isn't it? I guess it's a bit easier for same-sex relationships as you can kind of agree or disagree, rather than feeling threatened.
"Oh i bet you fancy the pants of her, you do dont you, you f-ing, i cant belive your doing this, im right here! Jesus christ Phil"
Of course. Georgia off Neighbours. Yes. Please.
...are all my 'type' and therefore have at least a passing similarity to the thinly-veiled (dark hair and pale skin).
but then he has always been well aware of my love for Bruce Willis
if it's someone i can see the appeal of.
But she called Colin Farrel a hottie, and now i think i might leave her.
As long as it's Hollywood A-listers.
Apparently suggesting local Scottish TV personalities isn't the way to go about this.
One manages to tread the wonderful line of national news and (former)internet music columnist. Perfect indie crush territory.
recently I have been telling my boyfriend about my newly discovered love for the French actor/director Tahar Rahim.
He has expressed an interest in Dawn O'Porter (which meant I got away with watching that vintage clothes programme she's doing).
She walks infuriatingly slowly.
(not the joss stone version)
I don't want to hear about who my partner might fancy. Not for one fucking moment.
Does this make me insecure? Yeah probably, if don't like it don't go out of me. Yeah, maosm I'm talking to you, you insensitive fuck.
I don't ever make comments about other people because I know I don't like it. Really bothers me.
and b) I don't actually have celebrity crushes. I might notice that someone is attractive but that never means that I go out of my way to see their picture or watch things that they're in.
I'm not a hypocrite about it though, I want the person I'm in a relationship with to feel beautiful and I don't see how that's possible if I'm gushing about people on tv.
Do you think it might be a bit of an unrealistic expectation though? I mean making your partner feel beautiful (perfectly honourable thing) and finding other people attractive aren't mutually exclusive. Just seems a harsh repression of a perfectly natural instinct, which adds unneccesary pressure to relationships (which, let's face it, aren't the easiest/smoothest things in the world at the best of times).
I find it's better to be open about these things but sensitively so, myself. But every relationship's different.
I know all about couples having lists of celebs they're allowed to fuck etc.
And it's great that they're comfortable with that. Maybe not so great when one's less comfortable than the other.
I want to emphasise I'm not asking anyone to repress anything. My partner can fancy who they like. I just don't want to hear about it.
9I really need ot start typing replies into woird, spellchecking and C&V-ing as i simply CANNOT type.)
it's not the not-fancying- you can't ask peopel not rot be like PHWOAR evcery now and again, but not everybody is compfrtable being reminded of it.
I used ot go out with somebody who was THE WORST at double taking whenevr osmebody he liked walked past, or walked into a bar, and te girl would always notice and look at me with a kind of pity and that would piss me off. I don't want some random girl's pu
ity just because my man can't keep his eyes in his head.
I tihknkthat one of the loveliest things is when I'm walking with my bf and we get about ten paces past somebody and turn to one another and whisper JUGS ON THAT, but at the time you would NEVER have noticed that we had clocked it, we didn't break conversation or slow our step. Classic pervos.
To be honest my worst attribute TERRIBLE at clocking other girls when I'm out with my gf. Nothing as bad as you've mentioned there but doing it so she notices occasionally and it makes her feel bad :( It's just clumsiness but I'm still a knobhead for it...
I got caught checking out a guy's sartorial flair. I was thinking "fucking hell, that's a great combination of suit and silk scarf."
And then looked down to my gf, who was looking up at me questioningly. And I went to explain and she cut me off and just said "I know." And rolled her eyes :( I WISH it had been a girl I'd been checking out.
I don't see the value in talking about how much you fancy someone else when you're in a relationship.
Why stop at celebrities? Why not talk about people at work or on the bus?
As does my GF. I know she is dangerously hot for the guy in the coffee shop I go in daily, and she knows I would like to make sweet love to one of our daughter's nursery workers.
But of course, she wouldn't and I wouldn't and it is fun, and stupid, and proves you are human.
I love the idea of a couple pretending to each other that they are definitely the only other person in the whole world that they find anything other than unattractive.
Is about trust.
no way of knowing that
I'd caveat that though with some people having life experiences they can't let go of with regards to that stuff. Like if you've been cheated on repeatedly in the past and been really hurt by it. I can imagine you wouldn't be especially comfortable with that level of candour with regards to expressions of attraction to other people in real life...
But it's all just about knowing and understanding the person you're with really. As with most of these things.
taken to the other extreme, i find it pretty toe curling when couples are so totally Right On with their open admiratoin of thrid parties. there's no need to hide it particularly (anmd it can make for a bit of fun gentle teasing) but to be too overt about it is I think a nbit odd and I dunno- disrespectful? i odn;t think it mkaes ouy insecruer not to have ot want to listen to your partner talk about people thta they fancy that aren't you. bit I do think you could maybe loosen up a wee bit about it because there's a good chance your partner will fancy somebody else- even just a wee bit- at some point in the future, whether in real life or on the telly, and that is a fact.
handy in a relationship.
Nobody is saying thath just because your partner finds somebody on tv atractive menas that they want to sleep with thewm/ would sleep with them/. wnat tyo sleep with naybody else. That's irrelevant. It's about finding a balance as a couple that makes oyu feel ok about hearing the detail of somebody else that they fancy. It doens't bother me in the lsightest 9perhaps because it's not something anybody has every relaly mentoined all that much apart fomr light heartedly and rarely) but I can see how somebody who was a bit more sensitive might feel it wasn't something they were comfortable hearing. sopmebody like that probably wouldn't be going out with the kind of person who would feel the need to go on about it ad nauseam anyway.
I just don't want to hear about it.
Horses for courses isn't it.
I had an ex (long time ago), who I mentioned once looked a bit like Tina from S Club 7. She then trapped me in a "well you fancy me so do you fancy her" mega-trap and she totally lost her shit over it. Was insane and proved her many insecurities.
Anyway, Tina and I are now very happy together.
that is so insance and also shows the pitfallsa about really open and cool with thsi flow pof informatoin. My bf is like a really gorgeous and taller version of geolrgios samaras (who is probably as close ot a celeb crush as I get) but even then, i don't bloody og on about iit (ok actually i do have I LOVE YOU SAMMO tattooed across my mound of venus, but that's ok, yeah?)
it just shows she was insane, and totally insecure. Yet of course she cheated on me and we broke up, so not sure what that says!
But yes, doc, I was ready to pin my hopes on stupid old trust again.
I hope that I've not appeared to suggest that I have the moral high ground here. I've acknowledged I'm insecure about this and I'm not telling other people how to act.
Saying that you want to bash Karen from Accounts back doors in is a bit different to contextually mentioning someone is attractive, for whatever reason (nice picture, looked nice that day, someone who is particularly stunning draws both of your attention)
different for different people though, and some people are fine with it, some aren't. Just make sure you're with someone who is pretty much on the same page and then it should be fine, right?
my gf says "Oh look, my boyfriend".
She has terrible taste*
*Pre-empting your jokes here.
i fancy her now
She enjoys the eye-candy, I enjoy the matey banter and insight into our proud industrial history.
blokes with messy hair and sideburns
That's some powerful magnetism he has.
I wonder if she could guess. She might be able to. At least hers is only Jake Gyllenhaal so I mostly don't suffer too badly from having to watch shite films because of it.
Would be the easiest cheating to deal with. I think I'd just shake their hand and congratulate them.
'you left me for Ryan Gosling? fair enough I s'pose.'
'you left me for Dane fucking Bowers!?!'
at least Dane Bowers isn't fat. A fat z lister would be the worst. James Corden.
-Man brings up which celebrities i might fancy
-redhead girl with fringe (now blonde with fringe) hears about how they like Scarlett johannasson/marina and the diamonds
-she tells him she loves Patrick wolf and morrissey who he bears no resemblance to
-date over :D (symbolically)
When was the last date you went on??
Was memorable in his stupidity. I still love Patrick wolf though :D
I don't date anymore, I think i haven't anything in common with the 27 year old boys of London so I'm leaving it for a bit.
people say you look like a band.
When I was younger some lad I knew used to call me `Verve` because he said I `Looked like The Verve`. Top bants.
As long as any man that enters my life is cool with me loving Jared Leto a little bit more than them, it's fine.
then when I'm walking home from work or something I'll see about 10 ladies that i think i love a bit
Although he seems to fancy less people than me.
When one of his ladies comes on tv I'll let him know his GF is on screen.
Besides I find Anna Faris cute too and I used to have a bit of a crush on Alicia Silverstone. We sometimes have similar taste.
Ever since mrs_ravens pointed out how Natalie imbruglia was starting to look like Carol vorderman... #currentcelebs
Not sure she'd be happy if I rubbed my thighs and made chimp noises at the TV though