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SHOULD WOMEN TAKE THEIR HUSBAND'S SURNAME?
YES ----------- NO
Can't quite tell whether that straight-up undermines everything or not
says it all
it's code to indicate you are a low ranking member of the illuminati
David Icke is losing his shit right now
cyberspace's shadowy tedium elite
on all the points she raised. Though it does read like it was scrawled on the back of a fag packet, but it is the Mirror, so, know your audience and all that....
had kids a year or so ago and neither of them were married and they all got married this year (this makes it sound like a complicated four way marriage or something, it's not, it's old fashioned two separate couples with two separate weddings) but when the kids were born they both took the fathers' surnames and I thought that was interesting
I assume they did, they're Strong Independent Women (who actually both earn more than their husbands, you know). Sup to them innit. Dunno what I'm getting at here now tbhtbf
i can understand wanting them to have both surnames but i have a massive aversion to double-barrelled surnames and would feel ashamed giving my children one (don't say it)
Double barrelled is too much of a mouthful if nothing else.
Incidentally I read this as "I can understand wanting them both to have surnames" and I was like "well I think we can all agree on that"
another friend has his dad's surname even though he never met him. His parents were never married and split up just after he was born. That's kind of interesting
could be an amalgamation of the two, could just be something brand new. we're not in game of thrones guys, The Family Name isn't really a thing and it literally doesn't matter what your surname is so GO WILD
Actually used our email address. Well, the first bit of it, left out the @ and everything after.
We don't know what we'll do, probably just keep our own names and not worry about it.
But it's weird generally how angry people can get about those trying to deviate from the standard, no matter how archaic those traditions are.
Not taking a name is at least more more normal now, as is being walked down the aisle by someone instead of/in addition to the father, which due to a divorce will happen at our wedding too.
But the amount of piss-take I've had for wearing an engagement ring from friends has been kind of mind-blowing. To begin with lighthearted but then there's always a tinge of something else there. Meh.
And wearing one is to deviate from the norm?
You're right about the way people seem to get angry. It's just cos it undermines their cosy assumptions innit.
Lady man with yr engagement ring
you're softer than me, son.
i think maybe it was such a low blow that he's still writing about it in his journal?
It can only be to warn off potential rival mates. Can only be that.
would be to say ENGAGE in a Patrick Stewart voice
but I'd do it over and over again
A mate of mine had a kid with a Spanish bird recently and they gave the kid her surname as a middle name and his as a surname, which is quite nice, sort of keeps both family names going without the fucking massive nobhead double-barrel thing.
Each to their own, though. Guess it depends which person has the closest links to their families past. Perhaps some people would like to move on, others might have strong links to their grandparents or whatever.
The only absolutely unforgivable scenario is when grooms take their bride's surname. Genuinely a crime worthy of hanging which has surely not happened more than about twice outside of London.
welcome back champ
Yeah, I posted something about Arsenal in the football thread.
I like it
cos i'd have trouble communicating to my family why i was going out of my way to abandon their name. would be fine with my theoretical kids taking my theoretical wife's name tho
It's partly selfishness, though. You've known them for so many years under their proper name and suddenly they're someone else.
it's more about having a family with the same name, and having the same name as their children.
My boyfriend has said he wants to take my surname, just for the psychological effect of us both having the same name. Personally, I'm not bothered and don't think I'd ever want to change my name, but I think there are a lot of reasons people do, and if people want to, I think it's kind of nice.
I didn't know. I promise.
"I like it when my friends give their children double-barrelled names, so instead of being named after a man, they can be named after two."
Still, I guess the change has to start somewhere.