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Does this happen much? LOVE TO KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS HUNS
sleep deprivation is the leading cause of bickering.
But after the first few weeks/months, try and find a way of getting some time together, just the two of you (grandparents doing some babysitting for a couple of hours or something). Much easier said than done.
just proper creeps me out.
Arguements are quite different from bickering.
their resigned mutual hatred
Do you mean 'couples who are unable to resolve any disagreement like adults', because it feels like that's what you're saying.
Maybe you had a different childhood to me. I'm definitely not a fan of arguments, thanks.
Mainly over trivial things like FOR FUCKS SAKE PICK YOUR SHIT UP OFF THE FLOOR (not actual shit)
so when arguments happen they often tend to be pretty final....
Like that time he drove the moped in to the sea with me on the back of it in Cyprus. It was all rather exciting at first and we used to enjoy making up afterwards. Then it just got a bit crazy. Then a bit boring. LIKE WHY ARE YOU IN MY LIFE.
My best mate and his husband have been together 15 years and they constantly bicker about menial things, but i hate it. I get all uncomfortable. I don't want to hear it, why are you bickering all the time over the most stupid things.
uncomfortable. A good mate and his missus used to do this all the time and then try to drag me into their squabbles. Dangerous
I knew a couple where it was just constant sniping and point-scoring. Horribly uncomfortable. My mum used to do it a lot to my dad.
one of them asks for your opinion...
Not sure if I can recall this happening. They did split up, I told him how relieved I was and how little I cared for her and then they got back together :(
however much my loyalty lies with my best mate. His husband makes little sly comments to me sometimes about me when we're all together too (my appearance, behaviour or whatever) if he's narked and then my best mate jumps to my defence, and it's generally a bit like oh GOD SHUT UP. I generally try not to hang around the husband.
So my tactic if my gf tried to start having a go was hugging them really tightly so they cant move shouting "I love you too"!!! until they started laughing or crying. Usually it was crying.
It starts off small like last night for example, I asked him if he'd cleaned the kitchen and he said 'somewhat' and mooched off , he hadn't touched a thing in there, so then I'm like, right he's fucking getting it. And he did.
I think I like the cut of your fella's jib, Casseroles
A good spanking whilst over the cooker I hope!
like it burned
they weren't really the kind of person where they'd just start an argument over something menial so it meant we could usually talk through things before they escalated.
Now there are regular snippy conversations about whether we need to pay that amount of money for stuff or whether we need to make stuff ourselves.
out of bin bags and sticky back plastic
save a ton
they're probably some sort of venting mechanism for some people, but not me.
is the way they'll have little muttered high-pitched squabbles with each other. So glad the missus and I are nothing like that. If you've got company you address everyone in the fucking room you cunts.
married for 7...7th anniversary coming up on Sunday. have only had one major argument, never row about anything. when we disagree it's over fairly quickly without resorting to hostility. we tend to share the same opinions on most things and want to achieve the same things, so when we disagree it's only about the minor details and it doesn't matter much whose opinion gets the go ahead.
This is quite a boring response really. but my marriage is not. woo!
unless one of us is hungover or properly exhausted then tend to get a bit snippy but we know one another well enough not to take it seriously.
used to argue a lot years back but that was because i was being an immature twat.
where people can be super snippy/argumentative in their first adult relationship, and then either grow out of it, or break up and suddenly be less shitty in subsequent relationships.
for our parent's generation this could take until divorces in their 40s/50s, but it's happening much younger now.
Could just be talking bollocks, mind.
as in in your first adult relationship you're still finding out what you really want from that type of thing, how you feel comfortable acting etc?
arguing is healthy and it's part of being in a relationship."
Bollocks innit? That's just a way of justifying arguing when you know it's
Like when her clothes get left everywhere it does do my head in but it's not worth bickering about, I either put them in her wardrobe or just ignore it and get on with my life.
The one thing that does sometimes lead to bickering/arguments is the amount of shite she watches on TV. If there's something on TV you want to watch, fine, but just putting it on to speculatively flick through and end up wasting two hours watching repeats of Who Wants To Be A Millionaire on Challenge isn't really the best use of time as far as I'm concerned.
says the man who produces Football Manager for a living =D
is that sometimes I'm just a bit TOO quick-witted.
gonna laugh it off as one o' those catstro things
I don't know how I'm going to recover from this
i can't stand public bickering, or when couples put each other down in public - really try not to do that at all
do the math
Human existence is so fleeting and futile I don't really see the point.
so i have to argue with you guys
If we are tired or the kids are began ng a pain and we disagree on how best to sort them out
Mainly as we have been together so long we have kind of had all the big arguments
you two should come around some time. mr 'gandhis' up there can come too, if he promises not to yell at us all. everyone bring a film etc. not this sunday but next?
will just be back from hiking up ben nevis though so there's a good chance my legs wont work, but if n_r can make it i'm sure we'll manage
I make the buddha himself look like, uh, someone known for their short temper
I think I'm outta the country that weekend though
yeah I think I'm free
I'm free that sunday, as in the 27th
Make sure you're all there middayish so I can boot up the Rivette
just want a nice, easy life innit?
Sometimes though, but I don't like to let it fester.
I think I should be banned from conversation when hungry
than it does about the overall health of said relationship to be honest.
Bickering's bickering. Although how you conduct it (i.e. not in public; not making others feel uncomfortable) is key.
My mum and dad have been married 27 years, been through loads of ups and downs and I've only heard them argue about 4 or 5 times.
I on the other hand almost like to cause conflict to try and get under peoples' skin and see how they react - I could do a lot better at this aspect of my life.