Just ask; I'd be happy to!
I've been trying to diet and exercise lately it's really tough! Maybe just miss some meals for a while? I am trying that to see how it goes
I don't go to the gym purely to loose weight, I go so I can be fit mentally and physically. Or at least try and feel fitter in both areas.
Is there anyone in particular you feel you need to live up to? Seems to me that you know you are intelligent and it has been proven academically and that you are well liked here and have many boyfriends so nothing to worry about right?
Of course none of that makes any difference, the best way I have found is to work on something solitary that you value...In my case writing choons
and no motivation
Just out of curiosity?
probably finished uni altogether (it's just not worth the anxiety for me and it only gets worth the longer you're at it cause it gets more and more competitive and target-driven and soul destroying) and working somewhere nice for a decent wage. and in my own flat with some pets and a bit of cash spare to do nice things in the evening.
Cos of anxiety and stress, didn't even make it a year...my life's kiiiinda shitty now but I imagine I would have drifted into a job that asked the least of me anyway as I'm afraid of failure.
So it's more a bit of stability and predictability for you maybe? Seems like you are a bit too idealistic to work "somewhere nice" but who knows? people's ideals mellow as they get older.
there's definitely a shortage of "nice" places to work. bit more stability and predictability would be good and actually would probably enable me to do more fun stuff cause i'd be less scared.
you strike me as one of DiS's most thoughtful and articulate posters.
just ask if so :)
does it exhaust you physically? I kept nearly falling asleep/felt like i was gonna pass out at work today because I was getting so psychologically worked up about something really isn't going to happen/doesn't fucking matter.
I enjoy it, the times when I am so wiped out from stress that I space out and stare in a half dream state for 30 minutes or so are my favourite actually, it's often a welcome relief,
This is a good idea.
I get dizziness and muscle ache. when my anxiety was bad last year I couldn't even be around busy traffic cause it made me faint.
but the physical toll of anxiety is completely exhausting
But have you ever tried CBT? I can relate to what yr saying and therapy has genuinely changed my life - I'm able to enjoy so much more of my life as a result of engaging with the principles of it.
Again, I don't to pry and am glad things are better than they were ",
I've kinda just relied on medication and then mindfulness but I think it's a much longer term problem that i probably need to address with regular therapy. being able to actually enjoy my life and not just get by would be fantastic.
Also if you have any experience in how not to lose your shit in important interviews when you are a complete dickhead that'd be great too
"What would Karagounis do?"...
(Seriously, I've done lots of interviews on both sides of the table - how does losing your shit manifest itself?)
Drawing a lot of blanks, not being able to remain as calm as I'd like
I'm switching into jobs in a different field from what I used to do, and I'm finding my lack of practical experience is making me feel pretty silly
The main thing I realised from interviewing is that the way that you answer questions is at least as important as the answer you actually give. (The exception being in really technical jobs where saying the wrong thing just rules you out instantly.)
That can kind of be terrifying at first – especially if you’re concerned about freezing up – but once you embrace it it’s liberating. So you get stumped by a question you weren’t expecting, you’re struggling to think of an answer and you sit there with your mouth open = looks awful. The assumption from the interviewers is you can’t think on your feet. However, if you take a second or two, look at the interviewers and say with a smile “oh, that’s a great question, I might need to take a moment to think about my answer” you buy yourself some time and you look in control of the situation (as well as flattering them a little too). Some props – looking at a copy of the JD, writing in a notepad – are also good ways of taking a second. There are lots of little tricks like that.
One thing I always do is to take the approach recommended in media training – pick three or four key points I want to get across and make sure I do no matter what. You can’t ignore the questions asked, but you can make sure that those key messages get through as often as possible and even take some time to sign off with them at the end if it seems appropriate.
Maybe that’s all obvious, I don’t know. Chances are you’re nowhere near as bad as you think – although if you’re doubting yourself, that might be coming through, so try to bluff confidence if you have to. If you’re switching fields, you may even just need a few practice interviews with a friendly face to build some confidence. Most interview questions are pretty predictable.
I can tell it is a case of bluffing confidence and taking a moment rather than panicked rambling. I'll prepare a few things to mention if I can too.
You know how films and plays work on the suspension of disbelief? Same thing with interviews. You know you're nervous, they know you're nervous, you just have to let it show as little as possible.
Good luck (and feel free to PM me if I can help at all in the future...)
how do i make enough money to, you know, do more than just exist