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is it all going well?
do you have some plans?
Well, I have a new job - As long as the last bit of references and all that goes ok. I haven't said as it's not 100% contract signed.
It's in a very corporate environment and in another office, and it's gonna be a ball breaker - but it's a change and it's nice to feel employable.
This means several things however:
1) Escaping the office was a failure, mainly because I got scared. Watch this Ted video for a dose of the truth about changing career http://bit.ly/P5i0Y0
2) I will effectively be leaving DiS at some point in the near future. This is possibly good news for some people.
3) The entire process has been nuts - The panic, the sleepless nights, the tsunami of people telling me I'm an idiot (literally LOADS), the soul searching. Been good man.
Yeah, boring post but that's facts for you. Boring.
there goes the dream.
hope the new job is good for you - but i am a bit saddened that you've not given it a shot.
good luck with it!
I thought you left your job because it was shit, not because it was an office job.
Well, good luck with it all. At least if you get this job you get to cock a snoop at all those people calling you an idiot.
What did you intend to do not office-y if you don't mind me asking?
And why didn't you?
I want to escape my office.
I totally did all those free-thinking exercises, went to a talk about finding an inspirational career run by Escape the City, "networked" afterwards, created a new linkedin profile for my alter-ego, sent my writing CV out to certain people. Stuff like that. Also, I've always wanted to work in radio so I looked at that too - got an volunteer application for to do shows at my local hospital radio station.
But it got very WHERE'S THE MONEY? My wife was defo supportive but was also like "what's going on?" after a month or so with no progress. Everyone at work was lining up to tell me I'm a prick for quitting. That was difficult.
I started having mini panic attacks even though I was reading really good stuff on www.careershifters.org (recommended!) and reading stuff like The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho (all about chasing your dream - it's a bit weird and fluffy but has some gems in it).
So I reverted to type and the idea was to go contracting as it wasn't like another prison sentence, but then I got offered a permanent role somewhere quite respected for more money.
Look, it was my first attempt. I think it'll realistically take a few to get "out" of the office life. It was much harder than I expected. and I haven't given up.
As the Ultimate Warrior said "Live strong, act bold, be brave. Nothing's too hard to do, ALWAYS BELIEVE".
Good luck bro.
from what you have said here (and i might be wrong ), i think you maybe tried to run before you could walk. all that stuff is great, but should probably have been put into practice at least a good 6 months before you handed your notice in. but it's all good - you've kindof laid a primer down.
new job you can go in straight away with the view (if you like) that it's a means to an end, squirrel away that extra money from day one so you've got a safety net for the next try, work on the writing on radio stuff in teh evenings and weekends (lunchbreaks), stuff liek that.
build on it all i guess, learn from your mistakes this tiem round so it's easy when you do take the plunge
that place sounds like hell! Thank fuck you're out of there.
What a great post that was, so self aware and honest. I say well done!!!
people who are still working in the office take it personally. You're highlighting their misery and you're also kinda saying "this is wack and I'm better". Even if you're not, that's how it's taken.
So I had lots of people who'd been here for years explaining why I need stability and they'll be CV gaps which employers hate and the market's bad and there's no money in blah blah blah.
There's no money in anything good. If I wanted stability or money I wouldn't have quit.
It was just MUCH harder to drop out of the rat race than previously anticipated.
EGO TOP UP
He's probably at the point where that's become obvious
he's removing himself from a situation that he wasn't happy in, and hopefully will be happier in the new situation
...and instead you've gone MORE corporate?
Son, I am disappoint.
“Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure.”
See the graphs I posted below. Try, fail, repeat. It's all in the game. Take something from each step and grow.
Not making excuses, I've not got the answers, nor am I a shining beacon of inspiration. Don't look to others for approval or inspiration, look inwards. Be your own hero!
going on about it in threads and then went and got a similar job anyways?
hope the new place is at least a little less soul destroying, good to change it up even a little
and more importantly, don't be afraid to fail. Failure is an inevitable and important part of progress. That's golf, maaaaaaan.
Everyone has the power inside of them to achieve and have what we want, but it's no direct line to success, it's perseverance that matters.
I also like this one:
*plays Rocky theme*
embrace mokerism, and someday you may even moke successfully yourself.
Trust in the tenets of Golf, take them into your heart. Truly then, you will understand that Everything is Golf, maaaaaaan.
Now that he is no longer with us in the corporeal sense, he has left it to us, his followers, to bring the word of Golf, to the wider word.
even if you end up in something similar, resigning from a job is liberating innit. reminds you that there's no need to be on the same relentless treadmill. i'm not really one for citing phrases, etc, and 'change is as good as a rest' is an overused one, but it's very often true. gotta mix tings up, even if just a little, maaan.
there's nothing intrinsically bad about office work. Millions of Britons who had to work themselves to death in factories call out from the past saying, "Fucking hell, give me an office job anyway, you whingeing bastards!"
Moker isn’t comparing his office job to working in a mill. Or even to working in a factory in an emerging market country. He is comparing it to realistic working practices and jobs that he could in theory have.
Maybe working in a modern, British factory would be enjoyable for Moker? Stop being that guy Theo.
what is that guy saying? Like what's the end point? I don't understand
these are the reasons why 99.9% of people don't do what they want and how they rationalise it.
The end it is "unless" you're one of the people who can.
But as he said, almost no-one can because they're scared, nice, normal people not mental driven fearless people. Er, I think.
but then I'm not really sure what he's talking about when he's talking about a 'great career'. It seems to be all about accomplishment and achievement, whereas for me it's much more important to have a career that's satisfying and fulfilling. Which he didn't seem to even address. Achievement in and of itself is ultimately meaningless.
I don't think you need to be particularly driven to do that. I know lots of people who have that. I'm making changes in my life as an attempt to gain that. If you focus on achieving great things, you're always facing a mountain, and you're always going to feel unsatisfied with what you have achieved. Whereas if you're satisfied and motivated by what you do, it's both much easier to do and much easier to actually do lots of positive things. So I think we should all be more focused on that. And the guy doesn't even seem to address that as far as I can tell.
extra strong chains are needed initially because the elephant creates a fuss to free itself. Once the elephant learns that it can't break free it no longer tries to break free. The strong chains can be replaced with thin weak ones, the elephant still won't attempt to break free.
The best time to plant a tree was 50 years ago, the second best time was 51.
Nothing really to add to this, but there was a Moker lookalike on the DLR today. Dead spit of you. Just thought you should know pal.