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JFC, my friends.
10 April 2014 12:30pm
What if I write them a polite note?
Can someone bullet point it then I can make sweeping judgements?
don't be a dick to women
- CG has been trawling the Guardian womens blog for troll bait
- He's found something and posted it "without comment"
- He's crap
I'm going somewhere else now. Somewhere where you're not being depressingly dismal.
I find the people who complain the most about unwanted sexual advances tend to be the ones who get them the least
we don't ban CG for being CG, so as much as I personally find hir crushingly tedious we can't really ban in_limbo for being shit copycat CG.
it is an existing gender-neutral pronoun.
it was Verbal's idea, and I personally think a good one.
He's the kind of guy that throws a live grenade into a room and runs away. I'm the kind of guy that bursts in with a machine gun and ends up shooting himself in the bollocks.
I just mean people who get sexual advances the least
Keep digging son.
"Well, there's no need to panic! Feminism simply means wanting everybody to be treated equally regardless of their sex. It's as simple as that."
To be honest. I saw a guy on a date who the door and and pulled out chair for a this woman he was with then said the meal was "on him".
I was disgusted. It was also obvious he was lusting over HER BODY and wanted to have SEX with her like some kind of shallow, misogynist monster.
Nearly chinned his sexist face with my equality fist.
YOU the door!
tom pulls out the chair for jerry and spike pulls out the chair for tom, then tom and jerry both get up to pull the chair out for spike
know they could all be back at each other's throats.
to that conclusion.
it *is* a bit depressing when he turns them on the wimmins, though.
I'm lampooning the need for the article.
but I'd be surprised if that's what feminism means and that it's as simple as that.
good to brush up on this stuff
and hardly speaking to the people i do know. i'm lonely but meh, can't upset anyone this way
i was planning on being up north at some point because i have the week off. what's the plan?
It'll be like those dogs playing poker. except the dogs will be dissers.
Fuck everybody, that's what I say. Why justify yourself to anyone else? Everyone's so quick to judge others. Especially on here.
As Paulo Coelho wrote 'Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.'
If people are nice and decent, then they're not going to get all upset over something stupid or small or "offended". If they're looking to call you out or persecute you because they're bored / don't agree with you, then that's their fault.
I'VE GOT YOUR BACK BRO.
"No one can lie, no one can hide anything, when he looks directly into someone's eyes."
which is obviously balls
'When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.'
again - bollocks
'All women have a perception much more developed than men. So all women somehow, being repressed for so many millennia, they ended up by developing this sixth sense and contemplation and love. And this is something that we have a hard time to accept as part of our society.'
WHICH IS SEXIST!!!
'Everything that happens once can never happen again. But everything that happens twice will surely happen a third time.'
which is non-sensical!
get over it - you made a stupid mistake, you don't have to become a recluse, you're not an evil monster that has to be locked away
Like, his solution isn't to just not be a sexist pig again, it's to not engage with anyone to avoid having to change the way he behaves, and thus avoid being called out for being a sexist pig again.
It was a bit mean.
I don't know
is getting me down a bit, mate.
Strangers love it when you loudly compliment their physical form from 20 yards away.
Is that your boyfriend next to you, with the tight glutes?
and making them feel uncomfortable or awkward. That's not a bad thing.
do you want to try some out and we'll 'this' them for you if they're inappropriate?
When I was walking from the train station to my house at pub-kicking-out time the other week, a drunk man mumbled 'alright darling, do you want some sex' at me, then didn't even wait for me to answer or look at me, he just carried on walking. Not sure what he'd have done if I'd said 'why, yes!' to that enticing offer.
There's definitely a fine line between complimenting someone and making them feel a bit uncomfortable and awkward
do you wanna do the examples thing?
I'm not convinced you're telling the truth, mate
I'm not that convinced it's very difficult to pick compliments that won't make people uncomfortable.
but the important thing here for any unfortunate readers to take from this exchange is that DiS moderator fidel_catstro doesn't think men should ever stop and consider how the things they say to women might make them feel
you've never been awkward around someone you fancy and panicked and said completely the wrong thing and made yourself look like a fool and them a bit uncomfortable?
because it seems to me a lack of confidence like i described can cause, even with the best intentions, someone to come out with attempted compliments that do make the recipient of said compliment uncomfortable.
and i'm fairly sure that's a pretty on-topic reply to your last comment? unless i'm missing something?
are you worried you're going to panick yourself into telling someone they've got a wazzo pair of jugs?
having the best of intentions (for a teenager) but zero points for execution was pretty much most of my youth right there
you simply go by one name: 'Fannyslayer'.
A comment like 'you have very nice eyes' is kind of odd but it's the sort of thing that could easily be said if you were nervous because it's a cliché of conversations you have with an attrative. And when you're nervous, clichés come really easily.
Saying 'the wrong thing' (regardless of situation) is hardly an original idea. Of course, I think part of the issue here is whether or not you still say said 'creepy' thing if you're already second-guessing stuff you say being 'creepy'. In most cases I'd guess the fine line DK mentions is one you only notice you cross *after* you say something that plummets like a lead balloon.
DiS is again starting to lean toward the view that nobody should say anything ever for fear of upsetting/offending someone else.
May I lick you?
No awkwardness or discomfort.
not that some ridiculous leering dork couldn't make about anything uncomfortable.
whether you meant to or not
because they fancy you back in a dorkish way?
Being uncomfortable/awkward doesn't automatically have negative connotations.
reminds me a little of that Vice (yeah I know) article
if you're genuinely worried (can't really tell if people are or just trolling). Don't compliment people on things about their body they have no control over, eg 'you have lovely eyes' could come across as a bit creepy, but 'I like the colour you've dyed your hair' is nice. And personality compliments are fine too, eg 'I think you've got really good music taste'.
Might not be the same for everyone, but that works for me.
could i get away with that?
"Your music taste is great. I used to hang out with a woman who had great music taste but then she brought in the restraining order..."
(Sorry, I really should stop going through all those old zxcvbnm messages I copied down during Notes-Gate.)
I don't think I've ever got stressed out about it- if I've thought 'maybe this compliment is not something the other person wants to hear from me', I've just not said it and moved on with my life.
Not you so much (you always seem lovely), but the internet has a habit of pretending something like worrying doesn't come in wildly varying degrees of severity, and that all worrying about contact with the sex you generally like having sex with must be crippling and lead to shame-faced sheet-washing. At a tangent to the OP of course, but all I meant was plenty of men are conscious about how what they say to women will make them feel, and that is healthy- more men should be the same.
that aren't their wife or girlfriend? maybe if you were at a party or something, maybe. Nobody actually gives compliments at work though, like 'Carol, I like your new hairstyle'. Just creepy, innit? You don't like Carol's new hair, it looks like shit and that's a weird thing to say you big creepy creep.