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What a lukewarm term for someone that you're with.
i'm going to say that nothing is bad when you're a bad ass detective (bad as in negative, not cool).
but they're both grown men/not camp, so "partner" seems like a better option than "boyfriend"
But I can't ever imagine either of them saying "boyfriend". One's a bouncer and the other one used to be in the Army.
cause 'boyfriend'/ 'girlfriend' does sound a bit babyish to some people or indicates a far more casual relationship than a long-term partner. totally fair enough for people who feel bf/gf captures how they feel about their relationship of course.
imo 'partner' is more of a catch-all, neutral, ambiguous term that's good for more impersonal situations e.g. work or when you first meet someone. i'm in a straight relationship and i'll sometimes refer to my bf as my 'partner' partly cause i think leaving open the possibility that i'm not in a straight relationship is fine or maybe even good. when i hear someone say 'my partner' i do sort of stop to think '...oh yeah maybe this person isn't heterosexual as i may have assumed cause of heteronormativity'. might be argued that it would be better if more gay couples could just drop in 'yeah my GIRLfriend likes that...' etc. (i.e. to be 100% 'out' in every situation) but again that's totally up to them and whatever they feel is appropriate.
it might sound a bit lukewarm as a way to describe someone you're supposed to be really into but y'know, intimacy is political.
hapee inter-national wimin's day!!!
When I was in a relationship I'd tend to refer to him as my bf with people I knew, but would often use "partner" or "other half" with strangers who I couldn't be arsed getting into a discussion about my sexuality with.
or "ol chain and ball"
You lot know how to pm under the new system, right?
main social board page, prefix the subject with "username:" to address it to that person
that would sometimes say howdy when saying hello.
I often go to 'my lady friend' but implies a casual acquaintance.
is so I could say "wife" instead of "partner." It just doesn't sound great. And in some cases, people assume I'm talking about a fella.
We've been together for 13 years, so girlfriend doesn't seem to give the relationship the kudos it deserves. I need a term that carries the prestige of "wife" without actually getting married.
The lad that cuts my hair refuses to acknowledge or divulge the sexuality of his "partner." When we're chewing the shit, he says things like "my partner likes going out and I don't, so they have to get bored staying in with me. He goes to such grammatical lengths not accidentally throw in a give away pronoun.
If he doesn't want to specify the sex of his partner then that's fine surely?
when one has to go to such massive grammatical lengths to conceal the gender of the subject of a sentence that I think "just say 'he'."
It's not that I want him to out himself to me, it's just that there aren't enough words in the dictionary to have a proper conversation about a person without revealing their gender and then revealing your own sexuality.
He's volunteered plenty of information (in a relationship/lives with partner). If he'd wanted to conceal/not reveal his own sexuality, he'd have been better off not saying anything.
I also get the feeling (probably wrongly) that he thinks his punters won't approve of his sexuality. Or he might be straight and just shit at forming proper sentences and I might have this all wrong.
"is this partner?"
i think it's nice and implies a lot more permanence and intimacy than girlfriend/boyfriend. i even prefer it to wife/husband because those terms are so traditional that they carry a lot of baggage i don't necessarily want to be associated with
APPROPRIATE LOVE OBJECT`
...Smell my fingers...!"
Probably not one for meeting the parents.
But I enjoyed it nonetheless.