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Kid, 13, creates Nuclear fusion in classroom.
Though I am now 20 so it's becoming a common occurrence. Devastating.
I could cry when I go to games.
moker's post could be epic
when more and more people younger than yourself achieving stuff, it doesn't trouble especially much but it is something I notice.
Everyday things that make you feel inadequate is more interesting - anyone can look at a sportsperson or actor and feel they don't measure up.
One of my friends is incredibly successful, is only 1 year older than me and has started several businesses and is incredibly intelligent. She's amazing and a good friend but sometimes I just think... 'damn, I suck'
People who started in my workplace after me who have since been promoted above me.
Seeing someone on telly with a decent pecs and six pack.
I feel sick about it.
I’m just starting out and feeling my way around being a freelance writer. To be honest, I’m still unsure if this is what I want to do, and perhaps, this is why I always hesitate and feel inadequate about taking on projects.
I tend to accept those that are comfortable for me.
I think conquering inadequacy for me in this case means really figuring out first what to do with my life.
I imagine the hard part with that sort of thing is getting over The Fear to start being confident about stuff
youre gonna fail, thats reality. Even a great person is going to fail sometimes and it can be completely devastating when youre going through it. You just have to keep trying and one day, no matter how many times it takes you WILL SUCCEED. If you keep at it, if youre heart is in it. You will come out on top. Guarenteed.
I take home just over £1600 a month, pay a mortgage on a terraced house in Salford, do very little by way of entertainment, never go on holiday, don't have any kids and buy very few luxury items. But I'm still skint, have no noticeable pension fund and am 35 next birthday. FML.
and fracturing my wrist
that I lifted up with one arm? (do you feel any less inadequate now?)
Lift occurred in december 2012. I was able to walk again by march 2013.
but yeah, you struggled, but still impressed you managed it!
I've not done it again since I failed at lifting the landlord of a pub I go to back home (he is about 30 stone though. that's teh place that does free pies at half time when the match is on. and he eats most of them.)
Thin 'attractive' people make me feel really fat and disgusting. Not in like a jealous way but it makes me less confident and wishing I was skinnier and prettier.
When people are really confident and charming in situations where I'm shy and boring.
I got into my current profession (software development) pretty late, and there's people here five years younger than me who've been at it five years longer. I wonder if I'll ever really be on their level. Also sit next to a load developer who can code without actually looking at the screen and was once courted by Google...
he's completely right. But saying this we open oursleves up to floodgates about being old of course. It's true though- the older you get, the more you probably SHOULD worry about having squandered your existence. You just don't though (in my experience anyway). You realise that none of that comparative stuff matters and that the only helpful yardstick is You (now) versus You (as you genuinely could have been had you done things differently with the facts you knew at the time). Nothing else should make you feel inadequate. Comparing to others, thinking about things outside your control, are unhelpful and futile.
I just want to add that everybody has good qualities and bad qualities. A lot of time the people we admire or are jealous of have their own set of problems that maybe we don't know about. You'll grow more comfortable with yourself when you learn what your interests are and you know that the way you act is genuine, not putting on a front for other people. Confidence is sexy!!! Just be who you are!
who skipped lectures a lot, did crap degrees, were not generally amazing at anything apart from socialising. I thought they would be destined for a British Gas call centre but they seem to have wangled amazing jobs as freelance writers or social media advisors. They now post pictures of themselves at exotic locations. Another guy got a job in a casino as a student and managed to get a really good job there and gets chucked loads of tips. He goes out on the piss and pulls out wads of cash.
is pretty much guaranteed to be virtually dead inside, don't worry
quite grasped that ATMs/ debit cards are ten a penny these days.
...the more you realise that the correlation between `working hard at school etc.` and financial success in the world of jobs isn't as pronounced as you were told/hoped it would be.
Can be a cruel realisation for some, but dealing with it is one of the planks of inner peace for sure.
but not actually more skillful, so I just end up getting held down for 3/5 minutes.
Hate 'em. Not afraid of what's on the other end. More I become a bumbling fool, and memories of idiocy distracts me even more. Comes to the point where I've got to plan out whole conversations.
Probably accentuated by workmates thinking it's so fucking funny getting stressed. Maybe it is. Certainly creates inadequate feelings.
Fine with friends. Takeaways are a grey area. Can deal, don't want to.
at other dudes' profiles on Ok Cupid for inspiration
20-somethings running around with absolutely no concept of the sort of aches and pains I will suffer in the morning and for 2 or 3 days afterwards. I sounds so trite and clichéd but if you are under 30 you should make the most of your health and fitness
There are some fine looking young bastards on DiS! What about Bamnan? Who knew??
I can be fairly forgiving of the numerous flaws that are entirely mine but feel like an absolute waste of space whenever home owning, something so ludicrously unequal it is essentially beyond my control, comes up
I thought I was some kind of lone prodigy here.
So I'm actually about 17.
What do people think happens when you have more status? Life is exactly the same. You'll have exactly the same feelings towards the new next level up. I know it's said a lot, but it really is a guaranteed path to unhappiness. Amazed how many seemingly intelligent people buy into it so much.
How is that 'wake up sheeple'?
You're a moron.
People will value your opinion more in whatever field you have status in. Which usually means more responsibility, more stress, more jealousy from others.
Although, I can't believe the contestants who appear on Young Apprentice (although they all look about 26 despite being 16). I basically only just mastered wiping my own bum at that age.
When you're a young person, if someone of a similar age or younger is already making a fortune despite having not even finished their education, then I'm afraid the natural reaction is jealousy. I'm only resentful though if the fortune is made solely on their looks rather than actual talent/intelligence/hard work.
who was appalling at school (dyslexic), earns three times as much as me (in a job where he started from the bottom and then got me the same job when he'd been promoted, which i then completely and utterly failed at and quit), has owned his own house since he was 24, is happily married for 2 years. he's less than three years older than me. he got some really bad sports injuries when we were at school, but is still infinitely more active than me, and has travelled a lot through work.
i know people much more successful and much younger than him or whatever, but no one who's had essentially exactly the same life as me and made a great job of it whilst i've bumbled along and am doing fairly ok
not very impressed by that tbh. he just followed some instructions he found online and blagged a couple of grand off his school for the PR