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CHAIRMAN_LMAO [Edit] [Delete] 64 replies 12:24, 27 February '14

How many of us have them?

Was thinking about this after a girl I've worked with for 6 months gave me a hug last Friday because she was going on holiday for two weeks. Then she made a big thing about everyone going for a beer to 'see her off'. I didn't because...
a) It's only two weeks
b) She's just someone I happen to work with

Then it occurred to me that she doesn't have a lot of friends outside work, and that she's not the only person I know like that. I went to a wedding a few years ago of a girl my wife used to work with. Half the guests were from her work. My wife had worked with her for a year and was asked to do a reading and organised the hen do. Since leaving that job, she hasn't seen or spoken to her. Not once in 3 years.

Does your office have people like this? Are YOU one of these people? Am I being weird for finding it weird?

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  • she wanted a bit of a do to see her off

    because she was going on holiday for 2 weeks? :D amazing

    labmonkeya529 | 27 Feb '14, 12:27 | X
    fitzcarraldo, Antpocalypsenow, Epimer, SenorDingDong, 8stepstoperfection, NickDS, andyvine, deadonthestairs, and marckee this'd this
  • massively boring reply

    it can go either way depending on the office - I've worked places where it's strictly office hours only and places where I still retain close, proper friends.

    a few of my current crew hang out on weekends; I haven't yet but have had the odd offer and will probably take them up on it sometime.

    fidel_catstro | 27 Feb '14, 12:27 | X
  • Hmmmmm

    Well you probably see them more than you see your own wife/friends and family.

    I've employed half of my friends to work with me and that can get problematic sometimes.

    The rest of the group I try and have some sort of professional distance, but it can be hard can't it? Not getting on with colleagues can make life hell.

    marilyninthesky | 27 Feb '14, 12:28 | X
    • ^big shot

      Smee @marilyninthesky | 27 Feb '14, 12:31 | X
    • Can I have a job?

      andyvine @marilyninthesky | 27 Feb '14, 13:26 | X
      • I'd employ you any day Andy Vine

        marilyninthesky @andyvine | 27 Feb '14, 13:59 | X
  • I'm really bad at making people I know and like through work

    into friends. Mostly because I'm just not that bothered by it. Always got on well with a decent number of people wherever I've worked and always been happy to go for a beer or two with colleagues, but there's only person I've worked with who I still see regularly and that's mostly down to them being really good at keeping in touch with people.

    I don't think it really matters how people make friends so long as they're happy with it themselves.

    DanielKelly | 27 Feb '14, 12:33 | X
  • a good way of testing whether you a truly 'friends' with a work person

    is whether you would go out for a drink with them at the weekend (unless you work weekends). In my whole working life, I've only ever had one work friend that I would do stuff with at the weekend.

    Elaina_Casoolare | 27 Feb '14, 12:34 | X
    • I'd do stuff with my now work friends at the weekends

      after I'd stopped working here. But seeing them 9-6, 5 days a week then hanging out with them at the weekend....hmmmm....

      Me: Hey, hows work?
      Them: you know how work is
      Me:..............

      meowington @Elaina_Casoolare | 27 Feb '14, 12:36 | X
      andyvine and Royter-Hatfood this'd this
      • you should probably talk about things other than work with your friends meo

        fidel_catstro @meowington | 27 Feb '14, 12:39 | X
        • I do...

          9-6, Mondays to Friday.

          meowington @fidel_catstro | 27 Feb '14, 12:41 | X
          CHAIRMAN_LMAO and cocodaLOL this'd this
          • Brilliant post tbf

            cocodaLOL @meowington | 27 Feb '14, 13:22 | X
            foppyish and fidel_catstro this'd this
      • good point

        Elaina_Casoolare @meowington | 27 Feb '14, 12:39 | X
  • I don't have a single person I'd call a friend at work.

    In the 10 years since I've graduated, I've only stayed in touch with one person I used to work with. They're a friend, just about. But we only see each other by virtue of the fact that we coincidentally now work in the same building again.

    But, yeah, no work friends at all. Can't be arsed.

    GetOffMyLawn | 27 Feb '14, 12:34 | X
    • And, no

      I also find it weird that some people's core network of friends have been gleaned from where they work. But that's just me...

      GetOffMyLawn @GetOffMyLawn | 27 Feb '14, 12:35 | X
      • have you mostly lived close to the place you grew up/went uni?

        Elaina_Casoolare @GetOffMyLawn | 27 Feb '14, 12:37 | X
        • Nah, not at all.

          Currently live in London about 2 hours from where I grew up.

          95% of my friends are from `back home` or who I went to university with though.

          GetOffMyLawn @Elaina_Casoolare | 27 Feb '14, 12:39 | X
          • where did you meet the people you go out with?

            Elaina_Casoolare @GetOffMyLawn | 27 Feb '14, 12:42 | X
            • friends from back home/uni live in London now too?

              Elaina_Casoolare @Elaina_Casoolare | 27 Feb '14, 12:43 | X
            • I do different things every week with different people.

              My `core` group is made up of people I went to school with though. Got another little group of people from back home who I didn't go to school with. Got 2 groups of mates from university (mates from halls and mates from my course). Got a smattering of people from just living in London/housesharing and from when I was in a band. Another group of people I see from when I went out with my ex. And this is before factoring in the obligatory hanging about with my girlfriend's mates...

              Balancing all of these things is a painful, painful task. I probably treat my workmates with derision because I simply can't be bothered to get any more friends. The drawbridge is up, people!

              GetOffMyLawn @Elaina_Casoolare | 27 Feb '14, 12:48 | X
              • Pint?

                Balonz @GetOffMyLawn | 27 Feb '14, 12:50 | X
                • Not until you reply to my email about

                  my engagement party. You cunt.

                  GetOffMyLawn @Balonz | 27 Feb '14, 12:52 | X
  • I love the people I work with

    and would definitely consider them friends, some close friends.

    Fuck seeing them on the weekend though.

    meowington | 27 Feb '14, 12:35 | X
    jontosh2001 this'd this
  • you guys are my work friends

    :(

    japes | 27 Feb '14, 12:35 | X
    monoshono, CHAIRMAN_LMAO, mfmcd57, and sharp_yet_blunt this'd this
    • :)

      Lo-Pan @japes | 27 Feb '14, 12:37 | X
      japes this'd this
    • ^ Haha, this.

      This is the reason I waste all my time on here because I view almost everyone I work with with contempt.

      This place ain't perfect but at least I can banter.

      GetOffMyLawn @japes | 27 Feb '14, 12:38 | X
      amyblue this'd this
    • aw japes <3

      marilyninthesky @japes | 27 Feb '14, 14:00 | X
  • https://www.dropbox.com/s/12vdk3twphhqyna/20140211_111843.jpg

    Balonz | 27 Feb '14, 12:37 | X
    japes this'd this
    • http://i.imgur.com/fYqtPt0.jpg

      japes @Balonz | 27 Feb '14, 13:09 | X
  • of course I've made friends with colleagues

    I don't get why you wouldn't.

    colon_closed_bracket | 27 Feb '14, 12:38 | X
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    • I have made friends with quite a few colleagues...

      ...and they've stayed friends, but as GetOffMyLawn says, I'm always wary of people whose whole social circle is basically their office.

      What happens when these people resign? Do their new colleagues become their friends?

      CHAIRMAN_LMAO @colon_closed_bracket | 27 Feb '14, 12:45 | X
      • Yeah there's a distinction between

        becoming mates with people you work with and relying on your work for a social life. Some people where I work absolutely LIVE for payday drinks. As in, it's the first thing in their calendar. They don't understand why I never go either, like `Oh you're ALWAYS doing something on a Friday night.` Damn fucking right I am!

        GetOffMyLawn @CHAIRMAN_LMAO | 27 Feb '14, 12:51 | X
        colon_closed_bracket this'd this
        • YES. I hate that.

          "Oh, off seeing your real mates are ya?"

          "Yes. That's exactly who I'm seeing".

          CHAIRMAN_LMAO @GetOffMyLawn | 27 Feb '14, 13:44 | X
          • I don't get invited out any more. Ever.

            Thing is, I don't actually mind going to the pub with work so long as I've got nothing else to do. Went out and got smashed with a load of them on someone I genuinely liked's leaving do last year. Was a good crack. But, yeah, very rarely am I free to go to the pub on a Friday night with them lot.

            GetOffMyLawn @CHAIRMAN_LMAO | 27 Feb '14, 13:48 | X
      • fair point:

        I have some friends who are colleagues, some who are ex-colleagues, and some who have nothing to do with work. The workplace is just another place where you might meet people you get on with...

        colon_closed_bracket @CHAIRMAN_LMAO | 27 Feb '14, 13:02 | X
  • i work in the industry my degree was in

    and as such some of my best friends work here. however, i know EXACTLY what you mean.

    justanothersheeldz | 27 Feb '14, 12:45 | X
  • The wedding thing has happened to me too

    The person I've got on with the least in my entire working life was a girl who also didn't like me, and her boyfriend was also one of the biggest pricks I've ever met - worked in the City for a bank naturally - but invited me and every other person in our office (and even some from another company we shared a floor with and who she'd barely spoken to) to their wedding.

    There were about 150 guests in an expensive hall in London, and I'd say the make up was 30% family, 65% people from their respective offices, and about 2 actual friends for each of them (all the best man/bridesmaid positions were brothers or sisters as well).

    It became apparent very early on that we were all basically props to flesh out their vision of an ideal wedding that they were too unpopular to have ever had otherwise.

    Lucien | 27 Feb '14, 12:48 | X
    • But you all went anyway.

      Free bar?

      Jamienaz @Lucien | 27 Feb '14, 13:18 | X
      • correct.

        And it was only about 5 mins from home. Anywhere out of London and I would've made my excuses

        Lucien @Jamienaz | 27 Feb '14, 13:24 | X
    • Please tell me you vomited on an ornate shag carpet...

      amyblue @Lucien | 27 Feb '14, 14:30 | X
  • I used to, few years back I made a bunch of friends though work.

    As I get older, I grow more attached to my old friends though. Most people I work with are really into sport, or music I don't like, everything I don't like basically. There are some good bods here though, I'm just busy enough with my other friends to do stuff with work people as well.

    Never talk about work outside of work. If that is happening, drink more.

    Ichor | 27 Feb '14, 12:58 | X
    • p.s I would have a send off for my best friends/family if they were going on holiday for 2 weeks.

      It's two weeks, I go 2 months without seeing people all the time.

      Ichor @Ichor | 27 Feb '14, 12:59 | X
  • added a bunch of people i temped with on facebook

    wouldnt add people i actually work with on facebook

    alcxxk | 27 Feb '14, 13:01 | X
  • no way, pal

    ethricdouble | 27 Feb '14, 13:01 | X
  • Work with two pre-existing friends

    Would consider a lot of my colleagues friends now as well

    Antpocalypsenow | 27 Feb '14, 13:02 | X
  • Work with my Dad.

    Don't need to see the fucker outside of work.

    Jamienaz | 27 Feb '14, 13:21 | X
  • I guy at this company I work with took a long weekend off, came back in afterwards with a wedding ring on. never said a word about it to anyone, no one even knew he had a girlfriend.

    japes | 27 Feb '14, 13:26 | X
    • now that is a level of derision for your colleagues

      That I can totally get behind.

      Epimer @japes | 27 Feb '14, 13:38 | X
      chris-budget and CHAIRMAN_LMAO this'd this
      • everyone was totally raging :D

        I thought fair play to the guy.

        japes @Epimer | 27 Feb '14, 13:53 | X
        blimeycharlie this'd this
    • Amazing

      CHAIRMAN_LMAO @japes | 27 Feb '14, 13:51 | X
  • hey CHAIRMAN_LMAO

    i got the whodini reference bc i'm a cool guy 8)

    ideserve2 | 27 Feb '14, 13:28 | X
    • :D

      CHAIRMAN_LMAO @ideserve2 | 27 Feb '14, 13:50 | X
  • I tend to make new friends at every job I'm at, and then gradually lose touch

    with most over the years, leaving about 2 people per job at the end

    Si_Badvibes | 27 Feb '14, 13:31 | X
  • yeah I have a few

    TheKennedyCurse | 27 Feb '14, 13:45 | X
  • I'm very close friends with some of my colleagues

    Kind of a situation I was more forced into than actively sought though, nearly of my friends from my Masters here left Paris and the working hours here are really quite long, so it can be difficult to make friends outside of work, and of course when you're mid-twenties it feels like most friendship groups are already established and set in stone, because they have a common background . Work colleagues were just the easiest network to integrate myself with - we spend a lot of time together so we may as well make the effort to get on with one another.

    But mitigating factor: everyone here is really quite young (company is only 5 years old), so there's a good degree of separation from the older directors and managers which really helps keep us unified. Plus a lot of my 'best' work friends work in our mother company who we share a building and offices with, so we don't collaborate day-to-day...

    That said, I do yearn for some friends from different parts with interests similar to mine. But overall the guys and girls here are great.

    lemonbrickcombo | 27 Feb '14, 13:46 | X
    • How do you meet all of that pussy then?

      GetOffMyLawn @lemonbrickcombo | 27 Feb '14, 13:50 | X
      • by treating women with respect and not as objective extensions of their genitalia?

        That or at colleague's parties/in smoking areas at bars and clubs/on tinder

        lemonbrickcombo @GetOffMyLawn | 27 Feb '14, 13:54 | X
        • *grabs notepad*

          Yep - keep going...

          GetOffMyLawn @lemonbrickcombo | 27 Feb '14, 14:05 | X
          • maybe try talking with a french accent

            I have an english accent when I speak french and it is apparently very hot/cute. Maybe the inverse is true.

            lemonbrickcombo @GetOffMyLawn | 27 Feb '14, 14:14 | X
  • Amy said to visit her in canada when she's back there

    I used to go clubbing with Jess and was comfortable enough to go clubbing just with Jess. But now I don't work there so don't keep in touch.
    They're temporary friends I guess

    fluffybum | 27 Feb '14, 14:09 | X
  • IN my first proper job

    I had lots of people that I still consider good friends. I trained there though, and we went through the rigours of being trainne solicitors together and thath's quite a strong bonding experience.
    since then, i've preffered ot keep work and social extremely separate (save for those ex volleagues that I'm still very close to)

    This week I've worked closely with one of the people on our tax team and I think we would be great friends, but for the fact we work together. She's getting married in august, I wonder if it's too late to work myself up to Bridesmaid.

    PickledOeuf | 27 Feb '14, 14:10 | X
  • it's a bit of a split

    between sales/events and editorial/design.

    Sales people's lives seem to revolve around work. Understandable in a way, as it's commission based and what they bring in directly impacts their income. they're quite cliquey with events and spent a lot of time together through work (they inevitably attend the same things). Fine to get on with but keep them at arms length outsdie of work for me.

    The editorial/design people a lot more fragmented, and a lot more diverse in terms of background - some married, some single, some live near some far - so you don't really get that 'camaraderie' sales have (though cynical me aki that to work bull shit). But as you're often working late on the same projects you do develop friendships and that, and we ocassionally go out for beers like. Got a few i see sometimes on
    weekends which is right, but like having any other mate really.

    Verbal | 27 Feb '14, 14:45 | X
  • I've got some really good friends from work

    but then I work in a pretty differen environment to most people here I guess. Being thrown together with other sociable people the same age as you, most of whom have just moved to a new city, will do that. And we don't work together really, just in the same hospital, so it's not like we see each other all the time through the week, and the friendships tend to be formed around doing social stuff together more than work related things.

    OceanStorm | 27 Feb '14, 17:35 | X
  • Got some friends at work cheers.

    Going on a stag do this weekend for one that left at Christmas. Me and one other from work. They're probably the only two I would call friends from where I am now.

    Still keep in touch with a 3 or 4 people from my previous job - out of about 50 that worked there. Only hang around with them I really like them, why bother otherwise? Could be different if you've moved to a new town or city I suppose.

    Chip_Batch | 27 Feb '14, 22:40 | X
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