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because she was going on holiday for 2 weeks? :D amazing

it can go either way depending on the office - I've worked places where it's strictly office hours only and places where I still retain close, proper friends.

a few of my current crew hang out on weekends; I haven't yet but have had the odd offer and will probably take them up on it sometime.

Well you probably see them more than you see your own wife/friends and family.

I've employed half of my friends to work with me and that can get problematic sometimes.

The rest of the group I try and have some sort of professional distance, but it can be hard can't it? Not getting on with colleagues can make life hell.

into friends. Mostly because I'm just not that bothered by it. Always got on well with a decent number of people wherever I've worked and always been happy to go for a beer or two with colleagues, but there's only person I've worked with who I still see regularly and that's mostly down to them being really good at keeping in touch with people.

I don't think it really matters how people make friends so long as they're happy with it themselves.

is whether you would go out for a drink with them at the weekend (unless you work weekends). In my whole working life, I've only ever had one work friend that I would do stuff with at the weekend.

In the 10 years since I've graduated, I've only stayed in touch with one person I used to work with. They're a friend, just about. But we only see each other by virtue of the fact that we coincidentally now work in the same building again.

But, yeah, no work friends at all. Can't be arsed.

and would definitely consider them friends, some close friends.

Fuck seeing them on the weekend though.

you guys are my work friends

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I don't get why you wouldn't.

and as such some of my best friends work here. however, i know EXACTLY what you mean.

The person I've got on with the least in my entire working life was a girl who also didn't like me, and her boyfriend was also one of the biggest pricks I've ever met - worked in the City for a bank naturally - but invited me and every other person in our office (and even some from another company we shared a floor with and who she'd barely spoken to) to their wedding.

There were about 150 guests in an expensive hall in London, and I'd say the make up was 30% family, 65% people from their respective offices, and about 2 actual friends for each of them (all the best man/bridesmaid positions were brothers or sisters as well).

It became apparent very early on that we were all basically props to flesh out their vision of an ideal wedding that they were too unpopular to have ever had otherwise.

As I get older, I grow more attached to my old friends though. Most people I work with are really into sport, or music I don't like, everything I don't like basically. There are some good bods here though, I'm just busy enough with my other friends to do stuff with work people as well.

Never talk about work outside of work. If that is happening, drink more.

wouldnt add people i actually work with on facebook

Would consider a lot of my colleagues friends now as well

Don't need to see the fucker outside of work.

I guy at this company I work with took a long weekend off, came back in afterwards with a wedding ring on. never said a word about it to anyone, no one even knew he had a girlfriend.

i got the whodini reference bc i'm a cool guy 8)

with most over the years, leaving about 2 people per job at the end

Kind of a situation I was more forced into than actively sought though, nearly of my friends from my Masters here left Paris and the working hours here are really quite long, so it can be difficult to make friends outside of work, and of course when you're mid-twenties it feels like most friendship groups are already established and set in stone, because they have a common background . Work colleagues were just the easiest network to integrate myself with - we spend a lot of time together so we may as well make the effort to get on with one another.

But mitigating factor: everyone here is really quite young (company is only 5 years old), so there's a good degree of separation from the older directors and managers which really helps keep us unified. Plus a lot of my 'best' work friends work in our mother company who we share a building and offices with, so we don't collaborate day-to-day...

That said, I do yearn for some friends from different parts with interests similar to mine. But overall the guys and girls here are great.

I used to go clubbing with Jess and was comfortable enough to go clubbing just with Jess. But now I don't work there so don't keep in touch.
They're temporary friends I guess

I had lots of people that I still consider good friends. I trained there though, and we went through the rigours of being trainne solicitors together and thath's quite a strong bonding experience.
since then, i've preffered ot keep work and social extremely separate (save for those ex volleagues that I'm still very close to)

This week I've worked closely with one of the people on our tax team and I think we would be great friends, but for the fact we work together. She's getting married in august, I wonder if it's too late to work myself up to Bridesmaid.

between sales/events and editorial/design.

Sales people's lives seem to revolve around work. Understandable in a way, as it's commission based and what they bring in directly impacts their income. they're quite cliquey with events and spent a lot of time together through work (they inevitably attend the same things). Fine to get on with but keep them at arms length outsdie of work for me.

The editorial/design people a lot more fragmented, and a lot more diverse in terms of background - some married, some single, some live near some far - so you don't really get that 'camaraderie' sales have (though cynical me aki that to work bull shit). But as you're often working late on the same projects you do develop friendships and that, and we ocassionally go out for beers like. Got a few i see sometimes on
weekends which is right, but like having any other mate really.

but then I work in a pretty differen environment to most people here I guess. Being thrown together with other sociable people the same age as you, most of whom have just moved to a new city, will do that. And we don't work together really, just in the same hospital, so it's not like we see each other all the time through the week, and the friendships tend to be formed around doing social stuff together more than work related things.

Going on a stag do this weekend for one that left at Christmas. Me and one other from work. They're probably the only two I would call friends from where I am now.

Still keep in touch with a 3 or 4 people from my previous job - out of about 50 that worked there. Only hang around with them I really like them, why bother otherwise? Could be different if you've moved to a new town or city I suppose.