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I do sometimes. Feeling down about myself after poking fun at someone in front of others.
Recently found out someone had been gossiping about me and I was a pretty angry for a while, because the actual gossip was completely untrue. It gives me carte-blanche to make something totally heinous up about them now though, so swings and roundabouts.
you can't really gossip about someone in front of them, can you?
Some people deserve it, some don't.
say some stuff for a quick giggle though and regret doing that sometimes
CAN'T BELIEVE I THOUGHT OF THAT I HAVE TO SAY IT. Then think, nah, I shouldn't have said it.
If it's light hearted, then it can be a way to bond over informatoin sharing with friends. But if the content is hurtful, then I will instantly feel terrible about it and chastise myself for ages until the next time. I like idle trivial gossip, but shy away from getting involved in anythign heavy as it makes me too sad. I loathe gratuitous bitchiness too- I think it's unimaginative and a signifier of somebody who is a bit simple.
Might require a PM.
but feel free to pick my brain!
and I didn't even notice? because that would be art imitating life.
Couldn't even think that sneakily
"great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people" as whoever-it-was-that-said-it once said.
never mean gossip though (unless it's about someone i really can't stand and there aren't that many of them). recently one of my friends told me she had a top secret crush on another of my friends and i told the other friend even though i had been begged not to tell, and then i felt so guilty that i told the first friend and then got really worried that she hated me, but now they are shagging so it turns out i did everyone a favour.
(could have gone SO badly wrong though, you naughty tiramisu!)
INVARIABLY comes under the I-am-telling-you-this-because-I-know-you-will-blab-and-I-want-the-person-I-fancy-to-find-out-but-not-directly-from-me category of gossip.
Come at me, bros.
and therefore stay well out.
If I confided in a friend & they passed it on or found they were just generally gossiping about me, they'd be dead to me. Dead.to.me.
(unless you are very very boring)
It's usually more affectionate if you are talking about mates e.g. "Have you met Smiggsy's new burd? He seems happier... yeah... fookin tidy mate"
But are you having a "feeling a bit low about DiS" moment here?
Probably partly why PO is so successful and my life is a total mess, I guess.
Your life is not a mess! You are a BRILLIANT woman. So clever and pretty and funny and kind. great things lie ahead for you- they will come in time BECAUSE you are so brilliant, clever, pretty, funny, kind. don't be greedy for them all at once, thre's so much ahead to savour along the way.
Secondly, I can tell you uncategoirically, that I would be far more successful (in terms of career ladder etc) if I was a bit better at nbeing two faced and needlessly bitchy. I automatiocally alienate myself from certain circles because of an unwillingness to partake in that kind of thing. I'm far too much of a supporter of the underdog. it's why I'm rubbish at betting on horses.
Because I know I often do it for selfish reasons, maybe I'm uncomfortable or don't have anything else to talk about or it will be, like PO says, to bond with someone.
Steved. You heard it here first.
I seem to be someone that people want to confide their secrets in - maybe it's because they know I don't blab.
but i only gossip maliciously about people i dislike, so why would i feel bad about disliking someone? only weirdos like everyone
nasty behind your back sneaks represent