Your are viewing a read-only archive of the old DiS boards. Please hit the Community button above to engage with the DiS !
Was it useful? Did you feel a bit guilty in case your concern was trivial?
(hope you're ok xx)
Wouldn't touch their counselling service with a barge pole.
Absolutely no shame in you or anyone else using their own service though, no one should be suggesting otherwise.
(which it probably doesn't), then yes. Was ace. I'd heartily recommend giving it a go as very little could conceivably go wrong. I always worry about the triviality of stuff when talking to people about it, but if your thing is affecting your life enough for you to consider counselling then it almost definitely isn't trivial.
and all 3 of my full time co-workers off with stress or relocated. The company had a phoneline counselling service. Think it was supposed to be anonymous but even then I was cynical about the anonymity of it all so didn't use it.
Think if needed support I would look externally rather than in house, but that is probably due to bad experiences of working for shit companies that don't give a damn about staff welfare or confidentiality.
The first bit. Yet to find out how much they care about staff welfare...
I know its easier said than done, but just quit, surely? If its too good money to quit, then maybe thats why its so stressful! I dunno, not trying to cause a ruckus or anything.
Jesus didn’t get where he got to without touching a few lepers, Mother Theresa didn’t top the league without hanging about with the old and sickly far too much, and that new Pope has already hit the ground running hugging the facially disfigured.
You don’t get your canonized, Greek Adonis physique carved in bronze (or lowly marble) and stuck in some London park by shying away from the threat of the odd punch or stabbing while being a modern day hero of the people
I've actually already called the wellbeing service, and a counsellor should call me back this evening. It isn't because of work though, but could potentially affect it. Hope that falls under their brief.
I don't blame the counselling service themselves, but it seems their primary role is to explain that you are justified in your feelings. I know I am, now how do I deal with them!
Think I'd better seek out other help, been listening to The Flaming Lip's Try To Explain on repeat for a while now...
they've outsourced it to a company to do all that sort of thing for them. first person I spoke to over the phone stopped me about a minute in to say they were closing two hours early, so could I call back tomorrow instead, which was somewhat annoying, but the second person I spoke tow as actually really helpful. didn't really give me any massively useful advice or whatever, but the process of just talking it through really helped.
used a similar service at uni after having massive issues before some of my final exams, but they couldn't fit me in til after, by which point the issue had obviously gone. still went to see what it was like, don't think I found it useful. the only thing I can remember from it was one of the sessions being rescheduled for half an hour later and then when I went to the rescheduled session the counsellor started asking how I felt about it being out back half an hour and that I'd seemed quite negative when I was told it was being put back half an hour and she wanted to discuss why that might be. I couldn't recall being even remotely bothered by it being out back and was fairly baffled by the whole exchange.
I think the reason I found this useful was that, even though I don't feel like my problems are massive and stuff, that's what they are there for so talking to them was fine. I have a couple of friends who I can talk to about similar stuff, but I always feel like I'm taking up their time so don't like to do it that often.
I didn't know companies had this kind of service, no business I've worked for has had one available.
If it#s a free service thenI don't see why it can't harm. When I went through a bad patch I was put on the NHS waiting list for ages to see someone and so if it's available to you, perhaps you should try it. I always think it's a good idea speaking to the same person if you are going to see someone - there's nothing worse than repeating your feelings to different people and not building up a sense of trust with one person.
I hope you're okay. x
Keep bottling it and cancelling on the day.
I actually helped set the one at my work up. I think it's been very useful...and all their feedback (usage etc) was completely anonymous, so even if bosses wanted to know, they couldn't.
I remember them saying the vast majority of calls are sorted in the first meet/call, it's often the wee things that cause the most anguish.
Didn't realise this kind of thing is so prevalent. Even less aware of how widely used it is. Good it's there. Bad it's apparently so necessary. :-/