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Tricky at times
This is, of course, a purely hypothetical problem.
"...without even the trousers."
You'll be fine.
you could end up in a Mrs Doubtfire-style comedy farce scenario
Not really my thing, I can barely focus on one person at a time let alone two, but horses for courses.
but eventually he realised he was flogging a dead horse.
due to events and silly choices
I dont like it.
pumped by other fellas, in which case its even
but anything serious in this realm is a bad, bad scene
casually dating/getting to know several people at the same time is one thing, but if it's more serious it's quite important that everyone is aware of the situation.
everyone on DiS.
he can't leave us in the dark on these things.
something about 'having a great time last night'
Just shrugged my shoulders and dumped myself
Not really. I had a party acouple weeks ago and I totted up 4 women (with new partners) that I'd had pitiful sex with.
they slept with you out of pity?
Struggle when with one person.
Just remember to shout "Oh Jesus" at the point of climax rather than trying to remember their name. Failsafe.
Fucking around with peoples feeling...pretty naughty
but I've always ended up liking one person more than the others and thinking about them all the time, even when I was with the others so felt like I was just doing it for the sake of it in the end.
Sometimes I think I'd like to try having an open relationship but my bf isn't into that at all and I also really wouldn't want to fall in love with someone else so I suppose it's better not to put myself in a position where that might happen.
Can you not actually tell what you yourself are comfortable and morally ok with in your particular situation that none of us know anything about? Do you want more rules???
have a banana
through seeing someone and finding out they were seeing other people. hurt, I did the same. It isn't great. All I honestly want is to be honest and with one person. A person I can get on with that doesn't treat me like plop.
If she says, tough luck I want to see other people, well, sorry but she ain't the one for you.
there's not like a universal moral rule about 'dating' that we can tell this person about. they can go out with 50 people and the universe still wont really care. its almost as if people want there to be more unspoken social rules and etiquette about what's ok rather than just deciding for themselves what kind of relationships they wanna be in. obviously its really cool to find yourself in this 'predicament' too. must mean a lot of people fancy you.
buuuuut it can become a bit of a problem if you tend to see both often at parties and things and have to eventually break it off. Impossible to do without feeling like a cunt. So it's easier to just no fuck around with multiple people eh.
where you're more likely to be dating a bunch of people at the same time. Whereas when you had to meet people at parties or through friends the chances of you meeting several potential partners at a similar time would be much less.
I don't think there's anything wrong with it so long as everyone knows it's a casual situation (doesn't mean they need to know the details just that the situation isn't serious or exclusive). I did it for a while, it's fun but not sustainable long term.
That said people who try and lock something down into a relationship after a kiss (or worse a date) are fucking weird, let the relationship develop naturally. I've a friend who met a guy online and after they'd kissed he asked if they were going to stop the online dating thing. I thought it was a bit odd but she seemed to go for it.
But often you do meet someone and there's an instant feeling that you don't want anyone else.
I think it's more that if you've met online and not met them before and had one date them someone going 'we're a couple now right?' seems a bit needy and desperate.
I've heard stories of that happening from a few girls I know.
presumably they'd chatted for a bit beforehand online, the date had gone well, they'd (sort of) taken it to the next level and he was sort of trying to find out if it was more than just a casual thing.
Haven't got time for this bullshit maaaan.
is that when you're seeing someone, other women look at you differently. Like, whenever i've been single (heh) i've barely noticed even fleeting glances from chicks, but as soon as you've actually got a bird on your arm the vibes change, maan, they really do.
I've never worked out whether it's because women are just devious and are more likely to make a play for a guy that's attached, or it's just a subconcious thing they do, or whether, idk, you're just coming across as a bit more confident 'cos you're stepping out with a tidy lass, etc, etc.
Without having to worry about you taking it the wrong way 'oi oi, this ones up for it, over I go' :D
...but we're not just talking eye contact and that, for many people that's just, y'know, part of their job, like. I'm very careful not to misread signals from women, used to be really bad at that. I think there's something in women being intrigued, even just subconciously, by guys they see with women who are a bit too attractive for them. Maybe it's just a thing women do to annoy other women, idk. I've probably just imagined it.
So it could be that they're attracted to that
I am George
if the girl you're with has done better/worse than them.
I think there's numerous positive traits (generosity, empathy, gregariousness) that are often assumed about people in relationships, which can make them more attractive.
Not to say that all people in relationships are like that but, it's much harder to be selfish etc if you're in a relationship.
see what that does. my wife says it's because women get more attracted to the idea of security and manliness it gives off (she said more than that but I can't remember, that's essentially the jist)
anyway, whether you agree or not, no one was interested in me before I had a baby, and even fewer people before I had a girlfriend/wife. So yeah, I agree, and exacerbate it with a baby
don't actually follow up on any of that interest.