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Don't want compliments or anything. Just advice.
try having to face the fact that for the last 18 months you were essentially just filling in for someone!
The feeling of being replaced is a horrible one I must admit.
acknowledging you're just a square peg though. welllll...
jesus herbert walker christ
Na, I know what he means. I'm not a sociopath.
works for the majority of the guys on here
Though even the imaginary friends have abandoned me! Bunch of sycophants.
Loneliness is often a beautiful thing.
Get a hobby that has lists, and something creative and practical for when its light. Apart from 6 months (which was literally torture) Ive lived on my own for 5 years and never once felt lonely.
Some of us are so hideously ugly and lacking charisma we need computer games to fill the gaping void. A steam keycode will never laugh in your face when you offer it a drink.
I didn't find it funny in a mean way, I thought it was really sweet and innocent, like advice a little kid would give
Like advice a kid would give!
Its lovely and snuggly when youre cosying up to a 17th season Serbian regen whos bossing your central defence
don't shut out your friends and family
have meaningful interactions with other people every day, even people who aren't your friends
allow yourself time to appreciate when other people are being wonderful
if you don't have people who you love, get a pet.
Join a club/society so you can meet other people with the same interests.
Go to events/gigs/clubs you're invited to, even if you don't know the person that well.
And even if the initial people you're hanging out with don't set your world alight you may meet other folk through them.
It works for me, anyway.
hard to be lonely when you're surrounded by adoring babez
and then after that just pretend to feel stuff.
1. exercise not for buffness (although that's a byproduct) but because it will clear your head and give you more energy and make you feel a bit better generally
2. make sure you have a decent sense of humour. if not work on it.
3. don't worry too much. hang out with the friends that you do have even if you dont have much in common with them, theyre still nice people to be around.
to be on your own. Don't get too close to people, as they could one day decide to tell you to fuck off, and then your the bad guy for not accepting it.
Buy loads of comedy box sets to watch again and again. Simpsons, Scrubs and Arrested Development are always good pick me ups.
it's not even funny anymore
But endlessly repeating the same unfunny schtick is the worst
thought the final season showed some promise too
Steady downwards progression after that though.
The best episodes was the Brendan Fraser ghost one and the fake sitcom one. And the house rip off.
I think just cos of Elliot and Heather Graham. I liked it when that man said "Turkleton" also. Maybe it was okay
just a bit sad that someone's so intent on pretending to have the mentality of a violent ex-partner (or in this case just an obsessed creep).
I've not said that you yourself are violent. But your posting on here is quite reminiscent of an abusive partner.
then bake people cakes, people love cakes
Sounds a bit cannibalistic...
and I agree - I always found hobbies that doubled as achievements were the key. Something like exercise, you'll see yourself constantly improve in what you can do, which gives you a real boost and goals.
I also read lots of books - mixed up "the classics" and easier stuff when I needed a break.
Of course if you really don't *want* to be lonely (at the time I did - I didn't really want to spend time with people) then you need to get out there.
That's what Daniel Kitson said. He didn't seem mega happy with his lot but it's still good advice
Maybe do that.
Do you live on your own?
If you do then move into a shared house. Don’t move in until you’re sure that you’ve got something in common with the other tenants. Chances are they’ll be in the same boat as you – if you’ve moved to a city then then they will have.
I moved to London when I was 30 and didn’t know anyone. It took a couple of years but after making friends with various people that I’d lived with, then keeping in touch with them – joining bands, going out with people that I worked with and meeting people through them, I now have a pretty big social group from having no friends at all.
It’s a cliché but it really does work: Take up an interest and join a group or something. Most of the time you’ll find that the other people have done it for the exact same reason. Do you play an instrument? Why not join a band?
I realise how simple I’m making it all sound but I was in the same situation once and I can remember how horrid it was and this is how I changed it.
*you've probably told me several times.
I moved to London when I was 23 and spent a year in near with barely any friends. I met people through playing open mic nights and then getting involved with my local music scene.
Took another year or so to properly make a break through but it subequently led to me having a good social network and most of my best friends are people I met either then, or as a result of it music stuff.
Finding hobbies and going out to do them is a great way of doing things. And joining a band defintely works. Doesn't really even matter how well you play an instrument (or if you've never played one before) if you're doing it for the social side...
See I'm about to undertake a Diploma in Education and I'm currently jobless. Just moved and feel a little dislodged. These posts are making me feel better though. I found your insights pretty inspiring.
Maybe I should join a book club.
Yeah I play bass. Had a gig kind of thing. It's not that bad really.
On Monday, start to believe that those made up things really happened.
old ma dots is a massive slag.
another person can never fill that void inside you and anyone who says otherwise is kidding themselves
i can't tell if she's kidding or not
but she also keeps bringing it up
could be just the shot in the arm counselling needs
She was talking about how she'd slept with her best friend and it had been weird since then and I basically told her it'll always be weird from now on and it won't go back to how it was and she just needs to accept it and move on.
it is hard to lose a best friend.
even better for loneliness avoidance
I find a combination of drinking heavily and time-travel rom-coms more helpful.
Money, check. Functioning dick, check. Immaculate record, check.