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Lets keep all the bedwetting in one thread.
Need some advice? I'm happy to help.
should I spend all my savings on a proof reading course in the hope of embarking on a new, profitable career in which I can stay at home all day and read stuff?
If you believe you will be happier in these new career paths, then go for it. It's better to try and fail than sit and wonder at the japes you could have had in a star-studded proof reading career.
Go for bartending. Sure, the pay might be less, but the booze will be free(ish), and if you are anything like me, that will be your main outgoing!
I'm off to grow another inch of beard and get seven tattoos
This time next year, I will be sitting at home not reading over a pile of proofreading assignments and posting on DiS!
I think I need a non-office job.
I might take a massive step back and become a litigator. Urgh, I dunno. can't decide.
I fancy being a brand ambassador for, say, Johnny Walker. Travelling the country and promoting the brand, getting proprietors to stock it, going to international booze conventions and whisky shows OMG WHERE can I get this job, I need it?
and while there were a few decent, interesting people doing it, most of them were rubs. You'd clean up, I reckon.
In answer to your query PO, you of all people should know the world is your Oyster, especially given where you live now. Go for it.
He MUST know the right people who have need of reps.
I might pick his brian though. There was an opeingin working with Vern at woodford reserve last year but it wasn't the right time for that kind of move (and also it was London ). HMMMM. It's interesting thatnobody has laughed and called me crazy (thanks guys) so maybe I should look into this more closely after all.
Surely the little distilleries would welcome a media-savvy person in getting the word out.
I think I've killed the PR side of me dead (although of course there will always be overlaps bertween repping, marketing and PR.)
How did your exciting news go down at work? :D
CEO doesn't know yet. He's going to get a hernia.
Just decided. How much is the course you're looking at?
altough its all in different kind of parts and I'm not sure how many are neccassary to get into it... they range from about 130 to 200 odd a part. Hopefully the introduction will be enough to start bugging my friends to see if their workplaces want any cheap proofreading work!
I can't remember the *exact* portmanteau, but it's something like xylopagony aunt
Thread is forever ruined due to user deletions though, just looks like the ramblings of a madman now :(
FUCK that word
job hunts are awful. i don't think there's anything you can do to help. i'm just venting. i want to get out of this shitty city
you're shutting the vent after...the..air.. was vented?
It's even harder going for a job elsewhere in the country, as it's a full day mission going to an interview.
All I can say is that you should keep your chin up and keep at it, you'll get something eventually.
I guess you're sick of Oxford? I found it a really nice city, but I got sick of it in the end after 18 months (and I was only going every other weekend). I can imagine it's a great place to go to for university or if you are a bit older, but its a pretty tough place for people aged between those two extremes.
i've been having looks and stuff but can barely find anything suitable. Everyone just seems to be hiring recruitment consultants. BUT WHERE ARE THE FECKING JOBS
which is actually quite quick. i've been at this for a month so far. i keep getting phone calls from the bank and ppi and storage solutions people (?!?!?!?) and basically everyone who isn't someone offering me a job. i need to go back to manchester so i can drink water from the tap again
Do you also find that the majority of the beer there tastes foul?
but the water. ffs, that's bad
i feel like my body is always covered in a thin film of soap. it's fucking horrible
Your perceived need for a "hot" girlfriend suggests that you objectify the opposite sex. This is not the route to a meaningful relationship.
If you do actually want to meet a member of the opposite sex, I would suggest taking up a hobby- you may not meet anyone, but at least you will get out the house and stretch yourself.
How can you expect a girl to invest in you when you think everything about you is unworthy?
Women like interesting people. Go do interesting things. Work out. Start loving life and yourself and the rest will follow with ease.
Take advice from men who score. Take inspiration from men who you admire. Believe that you can be like that as they have nothign you don't.
Also: grooming helps. Not the paedo grooming but looking after your appearance, brother.
and one solid contract offer. Some of the other ones sound more appealing, but going for them might be risky and ruin the offer I've had.
Also, what if I suck at this job I've been offered? They seem to think I'm amazing and now I'm worried I won't live up to their expectations.
First of all, don't worry that you'll be shit. They like you and if it doesn't work out, it's not the end of the world.
With regard to the other jobs, take some time to weigh them up in a sort of pros and cons matrix, with the uncertainty there as a massive con. It might be that you find the others more attractive because they are in your comfort zone (i don't know, just spitballin' here), in which case go for the one you've had the offer for and stretch yourself!
one of the 'worst' situations to be in?
I can literally think of a billion worse situations.
but if you're anything like me I find those sort of situations really stressful. In the past, i've weirdly found being unemployed less stressful than when i've had to juggle and decide on different jobs.
You're much better than John Brainlove <3
this comment made me warm inside, thank you.
but this started it http://drownedinsound.com/community/boards/social/4416017
But all the really nasty/juicy stuff has been deleted.
Like when in an adventure film everyone puts aside their differences to kill the big baddie.
Best bit was when someone posted *my main comfort is knowing you'll die miserable and alone*
It's awful. Everything sets me off. Short of MTFU what can I do?
Or anything in your life that might be an underlying cause?
then maybe talk to your quack.
If you're not unhappy but a bit teary every now and then, I think that's cool. Roll with it.
Look, we all have down moments. Try not to get down on yourself at being down, take each moment as it comes and try and do something to take your mind off things like going for a run.
For such a frump, I'm actually quite vain and would rather be constantly teary than potentially fat(ter) and spotty.
If it were up to me I'd come off hormonal contraceptives entirely, but obv there's not just me to consider.
or more reversible =D
apart from my boobs which unfortunately have exploded a bit out of control over this last year, but they're not sore. My mood is so much better (I used to have PMT so bad they thought it was maybe PMDD) and my skin is good apart form the odfd spot just before my pill free break. I'm on Mercilon. I know everyone is diffeent, but I know a few people who have tasken this without turning into a tubster, and tbh, I think I'd rather take the risk fo a few extra pounds for relative happiness.
She hates it - just trying some new one starting this week. She was on the one that made her burst into tears when I left to go to the shops a couple of years ago. Quite glad that she's not on that one anymore.
I was on that for years. It was fine but because i refuse to stop smoking they took me off it.
Point being that hormonal contraception is not necessarily that bad for you unless you're a high DVT risk, and even then there are so many different lower dosage types to try out. I hope your gf is happy with her new one. It's a bit of a minefield but worth it for peace of mind.
you just need to be very careful about where you are in your cycle and what type of sex you're having. http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/contraception-guide/Pages/natural-family-planning.aspx
this is also to do with me being a bit of a hippy and also a weird fear/assumption/feeling i have that i'm infertile.
i wanted to be on one that meant i still had a period (because i like to be sure i'm not up the duff) but didnt cause spotting or worsen my period pains. been on so many of those things and they all have their problems :(
I want to have whenever and however I want.
i don't find it impacting on me negatively at all. you just need to be... careful.
I always either don’t pivot enough to get power on the uppercut, or I twist too far, selling the punch massively and really messing up my balance. I need to sort this quickly as I’m going for a drink with Fidel next week.
pretty sure that looked like the most hysterical thing in the history of mankind.
use your upper body to power the punches
that I use my upper body too much. I think I just need to spend a few weeks just on my footwork.
i've not boxed in well over a year. Footwork is probably the key yeha, step into the punch, some other platitude
My best advice is:
Break it up into it's component moves- don't worry about the force or speed you are hitting with, just make sure your technique is right. It's easier to build foundations on decent technique.
Somewhat conversely, don't overworry about it. I know from personal experience it's possible to almost obsess over an individual move or combination, to the detriment of your overall development.
but I think it'd look quite laughable to most boxers. That said, I've managed to get much quicker lately so there is definitely something to be said about slowly working through combinations and getting quicker as you gain more confidence in the techniques.
My first foray into the fighting world was boxing, so I think ive got a decent striking base.
Some of the boxing in MMA however is laughable. People trying to jab by just sticking their arm out and cocking their big hand past their shoulder and making it so very easy to read a throw. But tbf who needs to throw a proper punch when you can elbow someone.
That I can’t pinpoint. Is this malaise a byproduct of today’s consumer generation or am I just being an ungrateful, spoilt middle class brat who needs attention and drama just to feel important?
How do I get rid of these nagging issues?
If that doesn't work, pinpoint one area of self improvement and give yourself a project of self improvement. The modern world is a grim place, but as an individual, you shouldn't feel you need to shoulder it all. Improve the world through self-improvement.
You've got to have a dream / If you don't have a dream / How you gonna have a dream come true
I wouldn't yet describe it as 'agony' but it's certainly uncomfortable.
you won't be focusing on the left one then.
so check this out:
and soon, better to get it checked and it be nothing than leave it and it get worse
'NO, IT'S A LEFT ONE'
you don't want to look like an idiot and get laughed at by the sonographer.
I'm working until 9pm tonight. Please advise.
I have a spare deodorant in my drawer for this event though
If all is not well, nip out and get some deodorant during your break.
If this is not possible, walk around with your arms clasped to your side till 9pm.
Gonna follow foppyish's example and get a spare for my desk drawer.
Thanks to all!
short of throwing him in the deep end a few times how can I help him overcome this - he goes to swimming lessons but swims in a weird V shape to keep his ears out (especailly on his back) and the instructor says he has stalled until he gets over it.
If so, it might be worth getting some ear plugs? I used to suffer from Ear infections loads as a child, and used to hate the feeling of water entering my ear canal, so it may be that.
so he had that muffled hearing thing you get and is terrified of it happening again and staying that way
would he still be able to hear with plugs? have thought of that as my 'your hat will keep the water out' trick failed dismally
Perhaps worth a try?
to try out at 1/2 term GOODSTUFF tHANKS
He stays at his girlfriends and only comes back in the morning for work stuff but this is at 4:30am and makes loads of noise and wakes me up which makes me drowsy all day. Would it be acceptable to change the locks? and only allow him access at a sociable time of day?
I think it's reasonable to request that he keeps it down, but if it's house, his rules!
Jesus, man, I thought youd be on my side!
one of my flatmates has now eaten a whole load of my cheese
what's the permitted threshold for murder?
and then returned it a day later
stolen, and then rejected
the cheese though? Cut their face.
Do you, or does anyone in this thread have any recommendations for temp agencies in London and any tips etc
I need part time work while I job hunt for saving the world work
I'm sure one of the great guys here will be able to help
There's some specific Finance ones and that too. If you wanna suck that type of cock.
Apart form my lack of career. I am fed up of always being an office dogsbody.
My job is ending in December. I need a new one for January.
But what CAREER should I be working towards?
Or where you want to end up at and work backwards from there :)
but I am not fat. Why is this?
If not, it could be that you are sweating out the weight!
I'm currently looking to move away from my current place of work, but am struggling to decide where my passions lie. I would like to move into roles and industries adjacent to mine, but not directly corresponding, but when looking at applications, feel like I only apply for entry level positions, despite having four years of good experience and qualifications in my own role. Will my skills be transferrable, as I can't afford to make a leap onto a lower salary than I'm already on, especially when I'm not even 100% sure it will be a ladder I want to climb.
I think a good deal of it is making sure you take the time directly addressing how you have developed the skills and experience to take a job that you desire. Aside from professional jobs (i.e. Doctor), even public bodies use their discretion in hiring people, so work through individual job descriptions when applying for jobs.
On the wider issue of where you want to go, only you can answer that. Talk to a friend and properly evaluate where your strengths and interests lie. Remember, the idea that we are stuck in any one career for the whole of our lives is a complete fallacy- don't be afraid to take a risk.
Desk jobs.org would be a good site
Do you think it's wise to give a relationship another go? Even if you broke up a year ago and have not been in contact until now?
and what works for one person/couple may not work for another.
In your case, if the desire is there, go for it, but always keep in the back of your mind the reason the relationship broke up in the first place. Personally, I feel that a year's gap could well be an advantage, as you will have both had the chance to change and develop separately in that year.
I already scrunched up and ate my Styrofoam coffee cup out of jealousy.
but I don't know what I want to do so I'm just going have to man MTFU up and get something shit I hate
wouldn't quit like to do something in publishing but that probably won't happen. how do I go about doing that?
Publishing isn't a career you can just sort of have happen to you. Decide if you want to do it and then go out and grasp it with both hands
just finished a masters (not relevant to publishing)
don't really know where to begin
guess ... I'll probably attempt get some slave labour (unpaid internship)at a publishing house , and go from there
However, with that industry, they are pretty much necessary
what sort of publishing and what would you like to do?
Editorial? Rights? Legal? Loads of branches you can get involved with.
Do remember your car insurance will cost more though as statistically you have to get battered on drink if you work in publishing.
(publishing, not getting battered on drink, as nice as that would be).
Would mostly be interested in editorial. Not sure what my next step should be, though (English Literature finalist at the moment).
I really like the colour mustard, but fear it makes me look like a gone off banana because I have very light blonde har and pale skin. Your advice/opinion on this is detrimental.
Go shopping with a friend and see if it suits you. Different items affect you differently, so good trustworthy advice is essential
Go to a shop, try some clothes on, do the photo thing and start a thread about it on DIS!
But thanks all the same.
What you choose to do with it is your decision.
max limit is 8 every 24 hours!
I have no idea how to go about this and I lack huge amounts of confidence.
but I don't reckon it'll help.
surely that must help a little bit?
He bashes one out that hard he has constant carpet burn
that's just a vicious rumour
and no it doesn't look like post-modern art.
Don't break into my house and sleep in my bed when I'm at work.
for Miley Cyrus
Not song writing. What do you think I am, talented?
Getting paid for your opinions in the modern world is tough. I know it's not a paid gig, but have you tried writing for this 'ere humble organ?
My best advice is build up a portfolio in a range of different publications/websites.
i've got a preliminary phone interview with vodaphone tomorrow
i'm just pleased. i'm great at interviews, getting them is harder. can't wait to be in the right place!!
You've failed already
when someone types in "Vodafone".
Need to kill myself soon before I get really bad. What's the quickest and best way to go?
but i hope you know there will always be people on here, including me, who will listen to you if that's what you need.
but is very much meant.
Just wrote some stuff then rewrote it and then realised it makes no difference
Just give me a shout dude
I know we've never met, but I have to say you have only ever been civil and a really nice guy to me.
There's not much more I can say that hasn't been said above, but if you ever need to chat or be listened to, please let me know.
Razors pain you;
Rivers are damp;
Acids stain you;
And drugs cause cramp.
Guns aren't lawful;
Gas smells awful;
You might as well live
i'm not sure the correct drivers actually exist
the torrent of advice can be witheld!
it's like half of my brain is running really fast just finding things to feel anxious about, and the other half is just kind of baffled by it all.
How long before I wake up naked and confused next to a smouldering Best Western?
anxiety is really really tough. Are there any particular situations that set it off?
sometimes it seems random; but there are a few things that set it off. I had a bit of an argument with my parents and got angry; and arguments like that with people leave me feeling really guilty (where other people can let stuff like that go) and on edge and mad with myself and everyone else. Other than stuff like that, random anxieties'll just sneak in like when I think about how I have no idea where my life is going (even my creative outlets, I sometimes worry I'll just one day lose all my motivation and talent in) and how most of my friends are quite far away and spread about the country, and seemingly getting on with their own lives.
Loads of stuff just gets to me too much these days, I think.
It's going well in many ways...but won't be paid until the end of Nov. Was unemployed for a while before but only got one payment until I got offered the job (which was actually weeks ago). Money is going to be tight, who should I contact?
(sensible answer: the Citizens' Advice Bureau)
you might be better looking up what other advice is available in your area (google '[area where you live] free advice money debt legal' etc and hav a look through)
shelter are good for money and debt advice sometimes http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/help_with_housing_costs/cash_in_a_crisis. perhaps contact an advisor there.
I have no idea where you live though so can't tell you the best place to go. If you live in Scotland, there's a Scottish Welfare Fund that you may be eligible for. Or in Wales the Discretionary Assistance Fund. There may be very local funding available. Call your council e.g. http://www.manchester.gov.uk/info/200008/benefits_and_support/5946/financial_hardship_the_welfare_provision_scheme as you can see thats quite strict and i imagine in somewhere like manchester youd be turned down if you weren't living in dire poverty and people with kids will certainly take priority.
you might want to discuss your overdraft with your bank.
My local one is great, but thats just out of Nottingham City. Not heard many good things about the one in the city centre.
But in many ways, your situation, whilst not nice, may pale in comparison compared to what other people have to face.
You used to be able to get crisis loans but they have been scrapped (I don't think you'd haved qualified anyway).
What I would suggest is having a good hard look at your outgoings and see if any payments you make can be deferred. I know that many are bastards, but when I had cash flow problems, my landlord was quite accomadating in receiving a rent payment a couple of weeks late- and in fact was quite lovely about the whole situation as it was less stressful for him than chasing up a payment. The same may be true for other outgoings- it might make it easier!
it's shit but in situations like this, all you can really do is not go to the pub and eat really boring food. it's not super cold yet at least.
and do you not have a credit card?
It's pissing me off, partly because I often say things I don't mean to try and be funny, so it's my own fault in a way. What do?
It's not ideal, but they haven't rejected you for it. I think you just have to try and give them the space to realise this is truly who you are. They'll realise soon, I promise
after a while it's gonna be pretty obvious that it's a not a 'uni thing'. just remember how common this sort of reaction is and read lots of stories about parents who've learned to be supportive. it's a very difficult (and important) thing for you to do. it's not your own fault that they're reacting a certain way and you don't need to wonder if its because of who you are. who you are is fine and your parents will know that.
I read this, which was good: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/john-kinnear/dear-hypothetically-gay-son_b_1757663.html