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I'm at number 4
But I'm BACK.
Paddling in the shallow end of 1 here.
could risk heading towards a 'life' burnout, I suppose.
the more it's exactly where I am. Even 1-3 are exactly the lead up to it:
"the person has become aware that what they are doing is not right, but they are unable to see the source of the problem". Amen to that.
Might quit my job and become a writer. That's easy right?
Obviously my job gets busy on occasion but I'm not even close to being in Number 2 territory.
but now happily back at 0. I am quite old though so have had plenty of time to try all the levels. It definitely helps that I have just started working for myself and don't feel I need to prove myself any more.
Give me your wisdom about changing my career.
but the mid to late thirties were the worst. Pressure to take on more responsibility blah blah blah. Plus the trappings of a middle class existence to pay for. Took a fairly significant crisis to get sufficient perspective to change things.
I'm fortunate enough to work in an industry where freelancing is fairly common. YMMV. Also I imagine the correct response to your situation depends on whether you are feeling under unsustainable pressure or just unfulfilled by what you do.
which has been so long-standing that it's becoming a bit criminal that I'm wasting existence, not just potential.
I hear ya about the mid-30s issues.
because they're not much fun. In my case it was good to discover you can move on and live without many of the things you previously considered indispensable, but I like to think a more progressive approach would be possible for some people.
There are loads of life-coach type websites that advocate 'doing what you love' which I think sets unrealistic expectations. I love sitting in my dressing gown bingeing on TV box sets but I don't imagine anyone will pay me a wage to do so. But being honest about what you want rather than what you think you're 'supposed' to do helps.
Part of the problem is when you're fed up it's hard to summon up the energy to make a change. Catch-22. My solution was to engineer some time out which gave me time get some perspective. Although technically, when I say 'engineer some time out' I really mean 'go on the sick'.
Seems a bit incongruous, like.
Wasn't meant to be as bitchy as it came across.
I only fire off the odd thoughtless post these days on my lunch break - bit busy at work to spend all day on here now. :)
given that you're on here all day...