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Dilemma I had last night
Was driving home down a fairly dark, rural bypass (single carriageway) and just managed to make out up ahead someone trying to flag down a vehicle. A dangerous thing to do; as I mentioned, it was dark, and the person was walking in the ''wrong'' direction, wearing dark clothing, there is no pavement and the traffic is fast on that stretch.
Being the good samaritan, I stopped. It was a young 20-something girl who, as it turned out, was trying to make her way to Derby and was a little bit drunk. I told her that I wasn't heading that way (true) and that I was nearly home (also true). I suggested that she needed to get over the other side of the road, where there is a path and walk down to the pub which was about half a mile away. She started getting verbally aggressive then because I wouldn't take her to the (rough) part of Derby she wanted, and she stormed off.
I carried on my way but worried about if I had done the right thing by not giving her a lift.
Discuss
should have called the police, or something
Or a taxi.
another good idea
what you DEFINITELY shouldn't have done is just leave her there
probably best you don't buy the local rag for a few days, maaaaan
Wasn't my immediate thought, but
you're right. I thought about that later. Having said that, I could imagine a police car rolling up half an hour later and she wouldn't be there.
By and large, sounds like you did the right thing...
...you need to trust your instincts in such instances. Could you have given her a lift to the pub down the road?
The way the road is set up,
I would have had to drive about 4 miles to the next junction to do a U-turn. It would have been quicker to walk - even half pissed.
Also, I had this feeling that if she got in the car I wouldn't get her out of it unless I took her where she wanted to go. I could also envisage all sorts of potential outcomes in that instance...
No one in this thread knows the circumstances as well as you tbf...
This won't make you feel any better, but at least you stopped:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-348342/Hit-run-victim-run-times.html
monster
Sorry but I could not have just left a young woman on the road
In a rural area late at night/early in the morning.
Personally for me I would rather have helped out and at least attempted to help than to spend sleepless nights worrying if she got home didn't get raped/killed.
easy to say I know. But what is 4 miles taking her to the pub for her to call a taxi?
4 miles is nothing.
Plus 'rough part of Derby'
Surely it doesn't matter if she lived in the rough part of the posh part, she's a young woman trying to get home.
I feel like society is just completely de-sensitised these days to trying to help anyone out.
nah, you don't let her in the car
she could go batshit, cry rape, anything. you wait around for the police.
or get the bowl of rice out the boot
Yes, I know, I know
I just had a really bad feeling about what might have happened if she got in my car. I tried to make sure she was safer but...
idk
nah
Although its a relatively minor problem in the grand scheme of things, you have to be REALLY careful as a male in situations like this. You cant just go around picking drunk girls up in your car from the middle of a rural road. Added to that, its not Noahvales responsibility to look after her. I know you'll disagree, but thats the real world
What about offering her at least to use a phone to contact a parent or something?
I just couldn't leave someone stranded. I've been stranded before and it's terrifying.
'the real world'
I'm well aware of the real world mate.
haha
you're very het up.
I'm het up because human beings are shit.
Yeah I didnt mean it to come across like that
I just meant it in a THIS IS THE SITUATION US POOR MEN FIND OURSELVES IN
See, this is thing mits
She wasn't terrified. I think that is what made me uneasy
dunno really
from what noah has said this girl was drunk and abusive to him, sounds like he didn't really get an opportunity to explore all available options.
Didn't mean to ^this that
But yea, okay. You all win. Made your point, yea. Great.
You are 100% right in what you have said here
And if it was someone else that started this thread I would be right there ^thissing your posts.
I was once accosted by a seriously drunk girl whilst walking home in York
Well, I stopped to see if she was alright cos she was all over the place, but she then grabbed me, and asked if she could stay on my sofa. When I said not really but I'll call someone to help you out or something she said she'd been kicked out of her house by her housemates and had no one to call. Offered to walk her to the petrol station. She insisted she stay at my house. When I said, no, not really, she flipped and told me her dad was in the army and he was coming to get her and when he arrived he'd do me in.
There's just no helping some people.
ideally, it would have been nice and decent to give her a lift,
but it's not your responsibility, and if it felt wrong, then it's probably best to trust your gut on these things.
dude!
you do not let a pissed up stranger drunk girl into your car. EVER. chances are it would be cool, but you never know..
why not?
fuck sake, man!
do i have to tie your shoelaces, too? its been mentioned above on more than one occasion above
i don't really understand what the drunk bit has to do with it tbh
ok, man
drunk/sober whatever. men have to be VERY careful in these situations. Cynical - probably.
also i think you have to judge these kind of things on a case by case basis
but whatevz
also
velcro ftw
had to be!
To be honest mate
On another night, with another woman, I might have done.
Is this a reply to me?
You were right not to murder her
^this means a lot
I will sleep easier tonight
come on Lynn, i'll give you a lift the cab rank.
You did the right thing
Never, EVER take anyone to Derby.
something about Brian Clough taking Dave Mackay to Derby
and winning the league
Good knowledge
1 indie football point for you
^has watched The Damned United
Good film, mostly made-up though
you have to trust your instincts in these situatons
You stopped, you didn'ty think she seemed particularly vulnerable (or if you did, that was trumped by somethinbg else that you picked up on, which turned out to be correct when she turned abusive.)
You have to trust yourself thast you did the correct thing at the time with the information and instincts that you had at that time.