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Fuck man I think I'm actually the most boring person ever!
I like that guy...sorry balonz
I'm just joshin
I feel like I've said what I'm going to say before, actually, but you know that bit in 'The Picture of Dorian Gray', where Basil or someone talking about Basil (I forget) talks about how artists are boring, because they give themselves to their art...?
my plan to rectify this (ongoing) is to take inspiration from characters in films and television. any 'interesting' people, really; the kind that can shoot the breeze in a really interesting way.
I think you've just got to be less inhibited and, like, think out loud.
say things about life and stuff using video games as an angle, like how my friend, a computer games designer, speculated that in life, there are some people who are like the characters in RPGs with a few lines and no depth, and there are others who are more like the main characters with loads to say.
he put it a great deal more eloquently than that, but you see what I mean?
there's no way you're a boring person, I bet you're just really deeply inhibited.
I just want to do the same routine thing every day because they are comforting, I wasn't boring years ago
some people just don't have a lot to say when you talk to them. obviously there are different reasons; some people just aren't really that thoughtful or articulate, others are just really inhibited, etc.
massive over-reaction to what is just the musing of a frustrated games nerd.
dehumanising people is gross.
people who can only really converse when talking about something more substantial, routinely finding themselves alienated by regular people who mostly deal in small talk.
it's not excessively misanthropic, it's just an analogy for how it feels to be a nerdy outcast-type.
you just wrote "regular people" and everything.
"regular people" is a thing, you know. people with less esoteric interests, people who fit in with the rest of society, people who actually do talk more about normal, day-to-day stuff as opposed to more specified stuff.
feel free to feel to take this the wrong way, totally irrationally, and feel "disgusted", though. ffs. didn't have you down as one of those DiSers.
Everybody has different interests, fears and desires. Everybody has some kind of nuance to them.
People who tend to be a bit self absorbed, in their own little world (I'd probably count myself as one) tend to forget that others are living their own distinctive lives.
so sorry about that.
i don't understand your point of view in the slightest, i don't think it's cool to assume that people you don't click with are shallower than you are. probably leave it there.
this isn't an analogy for how it actually is, it's an analogy for how it feels to not be able to connect with people except if you have something deeper to talk about.
I know what people are really like, all hidden depths and that, but a lot of people don't tend to engage in deeper or more niche subjects in casual conversation, for lack of interest in a given subject or just lack of interest in talking about the subject or preference for lighter conversation.
but I make notes on my phone of stuff I've read that's interesting. Stuff out of books that I'm reading and from The Week. It helps me remember interesting talking points that I can drop into a conversation if required. It's a bit lame, but it's a good technique for remembering stuff.
I wouldnt watch films or TV series, read books, listen to new music or even play computer games if I was the last person left alive. I do like watching football and playing building stuff though.
I'd imagine the holder of that title could command some celebrity prestige with something like that. Maybe in the top few thousand, if you put your heart in to it, but who's going to want the 1785th most boring person ever on the cover of TIME magazine? In short, be more boring.
when you see yourself this way......yes it seems to go on forever with no prospect of ending perhaps.....but....you see it s boring cos you want more, but something else keeps you from getting it.....you dont necessarily want to force the hand of that which is 'keeping you' because it might also be keeping you from harm from actions that might be artificially arbitary.
Being yourseld is a good thing, sometimes when that involves some melancholia as well, because who is to say that it is not an appropriate human response to whatever your situation is.
yes too much angst and ennuei means you can get trapped by their mechanisms and your analysed response to these.
I havnt found you to be a boring person (I hope im not either, although I acknowledge that many of my behaviours can be intensly boring (like a lot of my posting is......and sometimes i might go into repeating cycles of expression)) but i've learnt to move my life along now, I do not fear getting old so much etc. And if I dont adjudge you to be a boring person(although you are capable, like me an everyone of some boring behaviours (cycles we get trpped in?)).....well thats all that matters to me, because i am selfish.
What i mean is <3 you and hope you bear up alright and that you find you know you are on your right path soonish
That's a thoroughly nice response :)