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got a bitof a problem with girls calling me 'mate'

Silkyskillz11 [Edit] [Delete] 90 replies 12:17, 27 August '13

I find it condescending. Not sure why.

Anyone else like this?

Thanks

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  • I find anyone calling me mate irksome

    not sure why the sex of that person matters.

    cocodaLOL | 27 Aug '13, 12:19 | X
    • thinking about it

      i th8ink this is more the case

      chris-budget @cocodaLOL | 27 Aug '13, 12:21 | X
  • agree

    just seems a bit wrong - not sure why

    chris-budget | 27 Aug '13, 12:19 | X
  • maybe ask them to go with

    "you stupid cunt" instead?

    fitzcarraldo | 27 Aug '13, 12:19 | X
    Chip_Batch, japes, and anal_schwarzenegger this'd this
  • sounds like a fascinating neurosis

    really___long___name | 27 Aug '13, 12:20 | X
  • thats golf, maaaaaaaaaaaan

    Jordan_229_2 | 27 Aug '13, 12:20 | X
    • that's golf, mate

      incandenza_ @Jordan_229_2 | 27 Aug '13, 12:28 | X
      oojimaflop, andyvine, Chip_Batch, and monoshono this'd this
  • alright, mate?

    plasticniki | 27 Aug '13, 12:21 | X
  • Heard a conversation on the train between two twentysomething women

    one kept on using the term boy when talking to the other e.g.

    'I tell you what boy'
    'It was off the chart boy'
    'That place is rubbish boy'.

    Seems like this is the thread for this observation.

    jacques_le_biscuit_ | 27 Aug '13, 12:24 | X
    • In the changing rooms at the gym last week

      there were two chubby middle-aged men having a chat about work, and one of them used the phrase "laughing gear" about three times in the conversation, but I don't think he knew what it meant because it seemed to be used to mean he would look at something. One of his sentences was "I'll wrap my laughing gear around that when I get back to the office" when they were talking about an application form. Unless I'm very much mistaken, that means he's going to stick it in his mouth.

      Lucien @jacques_le_biscuit_ | 27 Aug '13, 12:29 | X
      • I reckon they were french

        and he was saying he was gonna wrap his la fingere around something when he got back to the office. maybe his stylo or some patisserie.

        DarwinDude @Lucien | 27 Aug '13, 12:35 | X
        • haha what

          DarwinDude @DarwinDude | 27 Aug '13, 12:35 | X
          oojimaflop this'd this
        • he had an impressive Ray Winstone-like accent for a Frenchman

          I'll give him that

          Lucien @DarwinDude | 27 Aug '13, 12:40 | X
      • Ex colleague of mine liked saying 'have a boulangerie'

        instead of 'have a butcher's'.

        Royter-Hatfood @Lucien | 27 Aug '13, 12:41 | X
        DarwinDude this'd this
        • quite like that.

          meths @Royter-Hatfood | 27 Aug '13, 13:06 | X
          TheWza this'd this
          • Makes sense, you are from Barné

            lemonbrickcombo @meths | 27 Aug '13, 14:02 | X
  • I call a lot of guys i don't know 'pal' would that bother you?

    Natural Glaswegian thing to do mind.

    Lo-Pan | 27 Aug '13, 12:25 | X
    • that would bother me

      the only time i evr see/hear the word pal is on here when someone is being apssiev aggressive

      chris-budget @Lo-Pan | 27 Aug '13, 12:26 | X
      • i use pal a lot too

        even with my thinly-veiled, reckon it's pretty standard in the weeg

        fitzcarraldo @chris-budget | 27 Aug '13, 12:27 | X
        japes and PickledOeuf this'd this
      • I'm extremely polite, would that help matters?

        Lo-Pan @chris-budget | 27 Aug '13, 12:32 | X
        • yes that would help a lot

          cheers mate

          chris-budget @Lo-Pan | 27 Aug '13, 12:35 | X
          • *pal

            Pharyngeal @chris-budget | 27 Aug '13, 12:41 | X
            Lo-Pan, fitzcarraldo, chris-budget, PickledOeuf, justanothersheeldz, and japes this'd this
    • What's your stance on big man/wee man?

      i say mate/pal/man out of habit, but sometimes I get big man/wee man off other people.

      Not sure how I'm meant to feel about it. I'm probably a wee man to most people in terms of age/size so when i get big man it feels a bit condescending, but it would still be patronising to get wee man too. There's probably a logic to it that I don't get since I'm not a big man/wee man sort of guy.

      yes_ @Lo-Pan | 27 Aug '13, 12:43 | X
      • I think 'big man' means stupid and 'wee man' means weak

        DarwinDude @yes_ | 27 Aug '13, 12:45 | X
  • I don't mind if it is an actual proper mate.

    I drop it in casually sometimes to trades people and delivery people sometimes - let them know I'm a good fella, one of them etc.

    Sometimes it pisses me off a bit though. Just depends who says it I think.

    Know what I mean mate?

    Chip_Batch | 27 Aug '13, 12:25 | X
  • i find it weird when men refer to women as mate

    It should be 'sweetheart' or nothing at all.

    wrightylew | 27 Aug '13, 12:27 | X
    DarwinDude, icouldwinarabbit, and incandenza_ this'd this
    • *treacle.

      Ichor @wrightylew | 27 Aug '13, 13:02 | X
      • toots

        Chip_Batch @Ichor | 27 Aug '13, 13:09 | X
        Antpocalypsenow and Raanraals this'd this
    • what about petal?

      petal's great.

      incandenza_ @wrightylew | 27 Aug '13, 17:44 | X
  • yeah, it's because you feel it demasculinises you.

    instantly lets you know that a woman doesn't find you attrative in any way, shape or form.

    complete insecurity on your part.

    mala | 27 Aug '13, 12:28 | X
    the_ravens this'd this
    • *emasculates

      Royter-Hatfood @mala | 27 Aug '13, 12:42 | X
      mala this'd this
    • 'demasculinises'

      :'''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''D

      OvertakenByTractors @mala | 27 Aug '13, 17:53 | X
      • here...

        http://www.thefreedictionary.com/demasculinise

        no worries!

        mala @OvertakenByTractors | 27 Aug '13, 18:06 | X
        • That's only used literally, if it is used at all.

          the word you meant to use was 'emasculates'.

          You demasculinised fat pig!

          OvertakenByTractors @mala | 27 Aug '13, 18:26 | X
  • oh you poor dear

    there there *pats head*

    brusma | 27 Aug '13, 12:31 | X
  • ...

    'it's so good we are such good mates?, you know, great mates. Just really good mates, friends who are just pure and simple mates. Just mates, mates, WE ARE JUST MATES

    labmonkeya529 | 27 Aug '13, 12:33 | X
  • i don't think i've ever been called 'mate' from a girl before

    maybe they're just being friendly. just don't worry about it.

    Antelope | 27 Aug '13, 12:33 | X
  • cos you're imprisoned in the friendzone

    Lucien | 27 Aug '13, 12:34 | X
    • you cannot tap that

      Lucien @Lucien | 27 Aug '13, 12:34 | X
      • not when, not when

        you're inna, inna

        Lucien @Lucien | 27 Aug '13, 12:35 | X
        • friendzone

          Imprisoned in the friendzone.

          Lucien @Lucien | 27 Aug '13, 12:36 | X
          • always one of the more uncomfortable parts of the Crystal Maze

            Parsefone @Lucien | 27 Aug '13, 12:45 | X
            umlaut_ampersand this'd this
  • personally I think it's interesting

    that you'd be bothered by a term that implies friendship if it comes from a woman.

    Don't have a problem with it personally. Although I don't use it myself, I just think I'd make it sound really insincere.

    wewerewerewolvesonce | 27 Aug '13, 12:44 | X
    PickledOeuf this'd this
  • imagine having d?

    Antelope @GayGuevara | 27 Aug '13, 12:45 | X
  • Imagine having mates!

    twentynine | 27 Aug '13, 12:38 | X
    • *d

      GayGuevara @twentynine | 27 Aug '13, 12:41 | X
      twentynine this'd this
      • dates or mated?

        Raanraals @GayGuevara | 27 Aug '13, 12:45 | X
        • Haha, didn't even notice the first one.

          Both work though!

          GayGuevara @Raanraals | 27 Aug '13, 12:49 | X
          Raanraals this'd this
  • Here I am trying to garner honest support for a cycling club,

    and you come rolling in with your sexist trolly thread. I can't compete.

    I'm never going to start a genuine thread again; it's not worth it. For all it's crying about them, DiS wouldn't know what to do with itself if all the trolls left.

    GayGuevara | 27 Aug '13, 12:39 | X
    • good luck with the bicycle thread

      japes @GayGuevara | 27 Aug '13, 12:43 | X
      chris-budget this'd this
    • you don't know what trolling is and you never really have

      Parsefone @GayGuevara | 27 Aug '13, 12:55 | X
  • A lot of people call me by my surname

    when they get a new sexual partner and they call me by my surname, that I'm uncomfortable with, spar.

    Balonz | 27 Aug '13, 12:43 | X
    • ...what?

      NoNoNoRobots @Balonz | 27 Aug '13, 13:00 | X
      twentynine, andyvine, sharp_yet_blunt, Raanraals, TheKennedyCurse, TheWza, Lucien, cheeseandbaconturnov, incandenza_, japes, and shinymcshine this'd this
  • because it implies they will never have sex with you?

    MrBones | 27 Aug '13, 12:46 | X
    colon_closed_bracket this'd this
  • this seems like a really silly thing to get annoyed about

    PickledOeuf | 27 Aug '13, 12:57 | X
    • no one mentioned annoyed

      Just find it a bit odd.

      Silkyskillz11 @PickledOeuf | 27 Aug '13, 12:59 | X
      • you must be a bit annoyed for you to make a thread about it

        But no worries pal.

        PickledOeuf @Silkyskillz11 | 27 Aug '13, 13:07 | X
        • nah

          you're clearly het up today. speak soon

          Silkyskillz11 @PickledOeuf | 27 Aug '13, 13:10 | X
          NoNoNoRobots this'd this
    • Chill out 'mate'

      NoNoNoRobots @PickledOeuf | 27 Aug '13, 13:00 | X
  • My ex now calls me 'buddy' (I believe she does this with many people).

    USE MY NAME I'VE SEEN YOU NAKED.

    Ichor | 27 Aug '13, 13:02 | X
    • thinly veiled "I've watched my ex get undressed through the window from a bush in the garden" post

      saps @Ichor | 27 Aug '13, 13:59 | X
      Ichor this'd this
      • :D

        Elaina_Casoolare @saps | 27 Aug '13, 17:24 | X
  • probaby depends if they're Australian or not

    incandenza_ | 27 Aug '13, 13:02 | X
  • In Ilkeston

    Burly old men call each other duck and petal

    Pharyngeal | 27 Aug '13, 13:02 | X
    Songs_about_ducking and -dan- this'd this
    • y'alreet, flower?

      TheWza @Pharyngeal | 27 Aug '13, 15:33 | X
  • Called Brooke mate once when we were first together

    she didn't care for it.

    She's over it now though.

    ElthamsmateOwen | 27 Aug '13, 13:03 | X
  • Receptionist girls keep calling me 'babez' not so keen on that, would prefer mate

    NoNoNoRobots | 27 Aug '13, 13:06 | X
    • Just reply with, "I'm not your mate, pal"

      MrSteveBob @NoNoNoRobots | 27 Aug '13, 13:32 | X
  • Do people up here ^ really get annoyed by others addressing them with 'mate'

    I use it all the time, for closely friends and relative strangers alike and it genuinely hadn't occurred to me that people might be offended by it/ find it impersonal and rude.

    Phantom_Heart | 27 Aug '13, 13:26 | X
    Antpocalypsenow this'd this
    • This is DiS

      People on here have neuroses about all sorts of stupid shit.

      Personally, I don't care if people call me mate, pal, chief, daddy-o, bruv, geezer, dude, ...

      Raanraals @Phantom_Heart | 27 Aug '13, 13:29 | X
      Matt_was_taken and blimeycharlie this'd this
      • alright chief

        saps @Raanraals | 27 Aug '13, 14:01 | X
        • shit, i didn't spot you'd said chief.

          saps @saps | 27 Aug '13, 14:01 | X
          • No worries, man

            Raanraals @saps | 27 Aug '13, 14:02 | X
    • well not really no

      but it's dis isn't it - i ( and i assume others ) just ham up their annoyances

      chris-budget @Phantom_Heart | 27 Aug '13, 14:02 | X
      marckee this'd this
  • Dude is far worse

    DONT CALL ME DUDE

    meowington | 27 Aug '13, 13:39 | X
    • that's, just, like, yr opinion, maaaan

      chickenbones @meowington | 27 Aug '13, 14:20 | X
    • chill out sugartits

      inside-outside @meowington | 27 Aug '13, 14:23 | X
      Raanraals this'd this
    • LEAVE DD ALONE.

      TheWza @meowington | 27 Aug '13, 15:34 | X
  • Essex thing innit

    Gorkys_Forever | 27 Aug '13, 14:03 | X
  • im actually on silkys side here

    it really really winds me up

    TheKennedyCurse | 27 Aug '13, 15:09 | X
  • imagine if Bon Iver came onstage to a sold-out audience

    and got annoyed because a girl called him 'mate'

    lemonbrickcombo | 27 Aug '13, 15:38 | X
    Antelope this'd this
    • Ho iz Bone Iver

      inside-outside @lemonbrickcombo | 28 Aug '13, 00:38 | X
  • this reminds me of when some lad when absolutely nuts cos my friend called him pet

    and was stood in a chippy screaming 'PET?!?!! PET?!!!! YOU CAN'T CALL ME PET!!!'.

    in short, you're a stupid cunt.

    icouldwinarabbit | 27 Aug '13, 15:49 | X
    • actually it's not like that is it.

      calm down.

      icouldwinarabbit @icouldwinarabbit | 27 Aug '13, 15:49 | X
  • Posh girls calling people mate just rings false

    I try not to let it get to me though

    monoshono | 27 Aug '13, 15:54 | X
  • get over it

    it's the female equivalent of a guy calling a girl "love"

    MadameChaos | 27 Aug '13, 17:17 | X
    PickledOeuf this'd this
    • yeah, it's like a kind of inverse comparator

      Guy trying to appear to be more connected to the female than he is, while female tries to distance male with use of completely non ramantic terminology. you know what I'm too tired to think about this today and my office is too hot. See you later mate.

      PickledOeuf @MadameChaos | 27 Aug '13, 17:22 | X
  • in what region of England do they call people "me duck"?

    Gorkys_Forever | 27 Aug '13, 18:14 | X
    • !!

      http://drownedinsound.com/community/boards/social/4435502#r7677992

      Songs_about_ducking @Gorkys_Forever | 27 Aug '13, 18:52 | X
  • well

    Depends. You wanna bang her?

    zahidf | 28 Aug '13, 01:09 | X
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