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Hypothetically...how insane do you think that would drive you?
to make the move to oxford possible. it drove me completely up the wall. absolutely batshit. awful.
It's much, much worse than I predicted.
Wasn't too bad. I spent a lot of time at the cinema.
would send me fucking cuckoo
(albeit I then went abroad for a month.) it's been fine. I mostly stay with friends at the weekend to keep out of their hair (ETCETERA). I've quite enjoyed it. I'm moving on saturday and I'll miss them. I'm looking forward to a bit more freedom though and not having to lug a fucking overnight bag with me everywhere at the weekends.
They wouldn't take any rent off me which was rather nice of them. I took them for dinner once every couple of weeks in lieu of that though and they like to drink, so I probably haven't saved much cash.
All in all- not bad, would do again.
And as I'm saving up to go back to uni, there's no end in sight :(
it's that my parents live in a small village on the outskirts of Bristol, I can't drive and the buses are expensive. It's still a very hypothetical plan D if plans A, B and C don't work out at the moment in any case...)
The problem for the short-term is
a)this'd be in two months time and I'm not sure I'm going to have time to get a provisional license, pass the theory, learn to drive and pass a test beforehand.
b) I'm guessing buying a car and insurance would eat up a fair chunk of what I'd be saving by not paying rent...
plus my Grandparents are quite elderly and ill so seeing them a bit more would probably be a good idea...
(but we are extremely close as a family- probably a 'bit much' for most people actually.)
although I just got my dad to teach my how to drive (as anyone who has been in a car with with me will probably say is quite evident). he took me out every day before and after school and I passed in no time.
b is probalby trickier unless oyub get a low emissions banger (which is no way to talk about wilkit's maw, I know.)
any more and it would be hellish for everyone.
I wouldn't want someone moving into my flat, so I appreciate my parents need for space. They'd obviously say different and always welcome me, but it's their house and I wouldn't feel comfortable moving back there.
...lasted three days. My mum is semi-actual proper crazy however.
and is alone in the house we grew up in with an amazing garden so I think I'd be fine.
If I moved out to SF with My Dad, his wife, and my half brother however, I think I'd last less than a week.
my dad and stepmums. Theyve got two young kids (4 and 7) so they wake me up at about 7 every morning.
Until last week I hadn't cooked a meal for myself since december (this isn't a good thing)
At this point it feels like it would be literally impossible to move out again. I know its far from impossible, but my confidence has hit rock bottom and it feels like my world has shrunk. The only reason I managed it before was due to the big institution of the uni helping me out... I'm never gonna get that chance again.
Dont ever go back.
it's been pretty terrible to be honest.
I also just found out I didn't get the funding I needed for my masters, so I'm gonna be here for another 2 months job hunting and saving for the move back to London.
to take care of my mum after an operation last summer.
i got pretty low.
on the one hand i get on well with them and my sister. But on the other hand, i'm unemployed, living with my parents in a boring town and there is no end in sight and it's driving me insane.
As they didn't charge me rent and I couldn't find a job, I traveled almost once a month. Living at home made me feel 16 again (not a good thing), but getting out regularly for week-long trips made it slightly more bearable.
...I could move back in with my Mum. Would be nice. Couldn't envisage a scenario where that would happen but, you never know.
My Dad wouldn't let me live with him. Not that I'd want to to be honest.
new year's resolution was to never spend a night there again
I spent far too long there before I got my own place - would never ever move back.
moved back for a year during my placement year, moved back after uni and then moved out properly last November.
I've been back for a few days every month or since and it's never really a struggle. I think I'd feel kind of...sad if I felt like I couldn't spend a week there without going mental.
It was fine really, I felt quite sad moving out again (though I still go back and stay on weekends sometimes like big child)
and I couldn't bear being there for more than two days without wanting to die.
so yeah, there's no way
Was OK but testing. I think if you have an end date it's fine.
I get on with my parents.
It's not too bad. Not enjoyable, necessarily, but not so awful as some people might apparently experience it. I'm moving in to my new house far, far away on the 20th September so I know I've only got 7 weeks to go...
I'm between flats, and supposed to be finishing a dissertation so it works out quite well. It's saving me money and work has meant I've been travelling places and then when I'm at home I can lock myself away to "work" if they're getting a bit parenty.
Having said that, I'm going a bit stir crazy due to the small town thing. I miss the small freedoms but am lucky that a couple of mates are in a similar situation so are close by.
My parents especially my mum are amazing. Already theyve made me loads of nice food, let me take all their changero the bank (£42), set up a standing order to keep me going until I find my feet helped me with my CV, given me wine, asked me how I want stuff decorated. My mums giving me driving lessons. Oh yeah they've sad my bf can move in until he gets a flat. My mum pumped up my bike tyres. I'm loving having really good Tvs/stereos, good dinner chats etc.
Negatives are how messy the house is and not having a job yet. My parents are lovely people though. Oh yeah we're going to Italy together. I'm so spoilt haha. I do housework though and promise not to complain.
It was great. Didn't have to spend any money and they paid for the shopping so I could cook everything everyday.
Because I'm not likeable and I will never earn enough money to move out. It's ok though, my mum loves me
Obviously it can be quite uncomfortable living in a generation gap household as an adult. You'll have a bit less freedom, naturally, and generally parents will want to make an effort to look after their kids, irrespective of age. It can quite easily get suffocating, but you should have more a bit more respect. The slight discomforts are surely a small price to pay for suffering the company of people who've made you, wiped your shitty arse and spent hundreds of thousands of pounds to bring you up.
I've not lived with my parents properly for a few years, but every now and again they've come to stay, or i've had to stop with them. So long as you're a grown-up about it then it's really not an issue. Just have a sit down with them and be open about things right at the start. Tell them you'll need your own space, will give them theirs, maybe make it clear early doors that you don't need feeding or chores doing on your behalf, etc.
Irrespective of the those involved, it's just hard to live with people. Honestly think i'd struggle to spend a couple of weeks in the company of anyone, even best mates. I've shared flats with people i really liked but you always end up getting under eachothers feet. Honestly think it's as simple as saying it'll be absolutely fine if you're an adult about it, but a nightmare if you're a giant baby about it.
Also, don't want to bring anyone down or owt, but your parents won't be here one day, and you might regret having not spent more time with them.
My dad had a serious health scare last year and I've had a pretty shit time over the past year for various reasons. The response of my mum and dad - full, unconditional love and support - made me really learn to appreciate them as an adult.
I still catch myself being moody and impatient with my dad but I've found a new kind of compassion for them that I don't think I could have had before. I think I'm incredibly lucky to love my parents for all the normal reasons but also respect and admire them as individuals. So weird typing this out as my dad sits to my left reading the paper and my mum to my right playing candy crush :D
My parents are both in their late 60s and not in brilliant health. I can see myself being at the very least a part time carer for them. I don't see this as an issue at all though I know it'll be very hard work. Sometimes I think people go on about how much they dislike their parents or how they couldn't live back at home for a day just to prove how independent they are.
often. Moving in wouldn't be too hard at all. It all depends on how well you get on with them and how rock n'roll your life is. I lead a fairly dull life and get on with them and so wouldn't be too much of an issue for me.
But when I last moved home, I didn't have a job and found I was being constantly nagged at every time I went out and "wasted money"
I since found a job down south and buggered off. As I say, if there were any decent jobs near home, I think I'd happily live with them properly again for a while. I get on well with my folks.
Its not terrible as they spend a large amount of time they spend out the house, but for some reason they keep all their clean clothes in my room so I'm rudely awakened at 6/7 most mornings. Plus I miss having my own schedule and not living communally really, in my student house everyone buys their own food/cleans their own mess/doesn't invade other peoples privacy etc. Been feeling really homesick today actually.
And I like my parents a lot more now and spend more time with them doing things than I ever did living at home. I do miss speaking to my mum every morning but she made me late by keeping me talking all the time.
I probably could move back as I had no rent so will have shot loads of money to waste but id miss my freedom
I can confirm watching sex scenes with your folks is always awkward.
So awkward when your dad comments on there being too much sex
Living with them for 2 years now after coming out of a long term relationship that left me with nothing to my name.
Mum, Step-Dad and Half Brother. Live in the bottom storey of a three storey house, have own bathroom, come and go as I please, get left alone 95% of the time.
No real issues with them at all, miss cooking and have almost entirely forgotten how to look after myself because my Mum is pretty domineering in the domestic arena and tinkering with her plans throws the entire universe out of balance and threatens to swallow existence into an apocalyptic dimension where clothes remain unclean and you'r always short two ingredients when you're cooking.
Have really appreciated their respect of my privacy and independence, for the most part.
made sense to do so as i could spend that time living like a nun to save for a house deposit.
this was 2 years ago.
it's been alright i suppose.