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Sometimes I reckon it's not that different really and that seems depressing.
"I used to be a woman" post
...and of course you don't have the auld penis size thing to potentially worry about.
But that might not be because I'm a woman.
I mean people would obviously treat you differently but I don't buy all the men are from mars, women are from venus battle of the sexes type stuff - I don't think there are fundamental differences in thought processes...
like men being logical problem solvers and women being erratic emotional wrecks and that?
Most of them use this forum...
If its anything like being a bloke then fucking shite
Cheaper car insurance.
Masturbation's probably a bit more interesting.
Loads of perks.
Or the getting there?
Male masturbation, y'know, has its limits.
(plus the whole stock of ann summers etc)
EU put its clumsy foot in the insurance market at the back end of 2012 and now everyone pays the same (higher) rates.
With you on the wanking though.
you disgusting sexist.
judging by what I've read on the internet those lasses know how to get shit done
I've got the girly emotional/sensitive thing in excess already, so not that different.
I reckon it's easier to be interesting if you are a woman, as in in this sexist society a woman with a proper interest seems like some sort of maverick.
And really sad! Everyone should have the right to be eccentric, I know it seems like a minor thing but its not.
'Ite not that different' cause our brains are the same or w/e fair enough that just attests to the performative nature of sex and gender (ie there's nothing essential about being a woman).
Clearly though our predetermined gender roles, that exist for us in advance of us even being born, mean we are socialised in very different ways, are treated differently at all stages of childhood development, have very different lived experiences and ultimately understand ourselves as people/ subjects in different ways that we can never really mutually understand*
*arguably trans people, because they have lived experience as more than one gender kinda does offer this but that's never going to be quite the same because of socialisation as a boy/girl, passing and so on.
I think your intuitive argument that its not that different to be a woman probably seems compelling because it shouldn't be that different to be a woman! But empirically there is a huge difference in experience.
I guess there's no getting around those facts but I reckon the basic thoughts like what being hungry/horny/sad/angry/happy feels like in the female mind is probably the same, or as close as one gender shares with itself.
I doubt women will ever be treated equally, we should all be ashamed and embarrassed at that
Unquestionably men and women are treated differently but how different we actually 'feel' is ear-impossible to tell. Obviously the entire question also rests on the idea that there is a shared male experience and a shared female experience - probably true - and that that shared male experience or shared female experience is in some ways more powerful than individual experiences - more questionable. And that's before good old intersectionism comes into things - does a woman who grew up in poverty have more in common with a man who grew up in poverty or a woman who grew up a millionaire?
I'm guessing the truth is that I actually don't feel or think particularly differently at all to some women and I think and feel completely differently to others.
Ears aren't impossible. I've seen them.
I think we're missing a lot of stuff here especially about what form of power is actually at play, particularly since its a form of power that's managed to stop the proliferation of different, non-binary, gender roles so successfully. If the 'thought processes' you're having are similar to some women (who the fuck knows) , that doesn't actually mean very much as that similarity cannot be existing in a state of predetermination and also our experiences are much broader than our direct and conscious thoughts (which are not prediscursive either).
I don't think this is predicated on there being a shared experience, it's predicated on there being a shared category which is undeniable. But as you correctly point out a working class black lesbian disabled woman has an unfathomably different reality to a woman with various privileges. Even looking at this outside vectors of inequality, sme more arbitrary differences could produce similarly 'different' experiences. (However its only the characteristics which are subjected to oppressive power that actually really matter if what were trying to do is oppose yet more layers of oppressive power)
So in any case its pointless and misguided to compare experience in this way or to attempt a sort of mapping exercise as whatever people are 'feeling' is not outside of the strict gender regime we currently all live in. We do however know enough about who is oppressed and how to address those problems.
Haha night guys
Why don't dis people exist in the real world?
I want to do something good and leave the world in a slightly better place than I found it. being respectful of different opinions seems a good place to start...I guess that is a bit self-centric but it would be a shame to waste the potential I have to create happiness.
Goodnight all x
but going bald would be a more harrowing process, so there you go.
Giving all your love to just one man.
You'll have bad times, and he'll have good times,
Doing things that you don't understand.
But if you love him you'll forgive him,
Even though he's hard to understand.
And if you love him, oh be proud of him,
'Cos after all he's just a man.
but you could look at a wang and say 'oh man that's a good wang' without anyone questioning your sexuality. That would be neat.
because it's a bit uncomfortable when they look at your boobs