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I also met his (44-year-old) fiancee.
She has three kids, one of which is older than him.
Who left her (35-year-old) husband to marry her mother's (75-year-old) ex-lover! Then they had a child together.
there was a really dull 25 year old who'd hooked up with her mother's (60 something) ex-boyfriend.
I was well pissed really early on at the works' Christmas meal and responded to a jibe by shouting 'well, at least I'm not fucking my dad!' just as the girl and her old man walked in.
in either case.
it totally is
for "glue of love", in which love is a noun.
in the context of your post?
and it's at least less than three.
People change (physically and emotionally) over time and that can have a major effect on relationships.
I mean the whole having-children issue is gonna be RIGHT THERE.
I had a thing with a woman 20 years older than me - she was the age I am now, in fact. I'd say she was in her prime then but I know that I am a totally different person now due to 20 years of life experience
The issue is more with people thinking long term relationships won;t change rather than relative ages, if I have understood your point correctly.
Difference, I would say, is that partners of a similar age tend to experience new things together whereas those with age gaps don't. For a younger partner, these experiences tend to have emotional effects that result in significant changes in outlook, personality etc. That's where things can get tricky
For me is about what stage of life you're at rather than specific age, so you migjht argue that a world weary 18 year old would be better suited to a 28 year old with fewer than average life experiences than they would someone of their own age.
(I'm enjoying this discussion in the context of the Cat_race goading elsewhere in this thread)
I basically still feel like a kid, and I don't think I want something too serious, which is what anyone over 30 or something would be looking for. Plus I'd always feel like the dynamic in the relationship was really unequal. I couldn't go out with anyone much younger than me either, as I'm only 19 and that would be a bit fucking weird.