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I'm quite awkward. Even with my close friends and family. I think my housemates think I'm scared of them.
im fine unless its a big group thing then i get really nervous
plus, meeting people off the internet is so much easier because you know they must also be quite weird.
I mean, I was feeling pretty awful and self-conscious when I met you. plus there were so many proper, well-adjusted adults, arty adults (artdults) around...
you can generally tell how I'm doing by my voice. if it sounds stupid, I'm all stressed and speaking from the throat. if I'm relaxed, I sound fine.
i feel like i'm pretty awkward usually, but my friends say i'm fine. unless i fancy someone. we all agree i'm pretty terrible if i fancy someone
Think it depends on the place however. If I am in a nightclub or bar with a lot of people that I would have very little in common with I would feel a bit worse about my ability to talk to them. If it is a concert or something I usually have no bother at all.
This goes down a point with every other drink i consume. Until i hit 1 when i start snogging people then it begins to go back up.
then i wakeup with a hangover and everything's back to normal
kyle's good though because he's obviously a character: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hajzDV8f0Bs
then i discovered there were other people out there similar to me and been fine since.
I think my old housemates and their acquaintances thought I was scared of them / borderline mute for the first few weeks, but then we became very good friends.
So it's OK.
I can usually talk to new people alright and put on a front of being confident, but then I usually end up avoiding those people and getting quite paranoid.
Any other situation I'm cool as a cucumber
still got really bad anxiety.
with new people there are plenty of easy getting-to-know-you conversation generators, but with people i kinda know and encounter socially on a regular basis but am not 'friends' with there is the pressure to small talk which makes me nervous and weird and so i very often do the 'pretend not to have noticed them to avoid stop-and-chat' and other avoidance techniques and so mostly come across as more unfriendly and standoffish than awkward
not in a fancying way even, just people that i think are really cool and want to be friends with. i can get way more comfortable with people who i think are a little bit lame or annoying in some way, and my friends that i like the most are the friends that i am most awkward with which is stupid and annoying
Given that I have a small group of friends who I really like a lot, when I've not seen one of them in a while, I tend to get really nervous about meeting up. Usually (though this realisation doesn't stop my nervousness), it goes well after about a minute though and everything's back to standard.
i was waiting for a train the other day, had like an hour to wait, saw someone from my football team, pretended not to see them, they came over and it was horribly awkward for the next hour. Then i sat near them on the train. Was so bad
sometimes a bit weird. I hate new people, unless they're from the internet cos then if all else fails you can be like SO THAT INTERNET THING, HUH and it's fine
but i just pass it off as rudeness instead i think. Making really bad excuses why i don't need to be near them. Tbf i assume they don't wanna spend any time with me either unless they fancy me so they're probably well relieved.
like with not quite friends not quite strangers as mentioned above. I also suck in nightclubs and busy pubs etc.
But I'm awful with casual acquaintances and strangers. I basically come across as personality-less if people don't know me. To be honest thats probably a good thing as most people who know me well think I'm a little bit unhinged. But yeah, because of the above I don't get laid.
so even if I'm being awkward (which I probably often am), I don't notice :D
and I don't really know what is just typical shyness and what is more than that. I think it probably hasn't helped that I've had one friend from when I was very young and the vast majority of people I'm friends with now are people she's made friends with for us.
I get it into my head that I can't talk to certain people and then find it really hard to break out of that and end up ignoring them, especially when I think they're really great. Then I feel hurt when they don't make an effort to speak to me which is ludicrous.
I can be quite charming the trouble is about one in every 10 times I'm ever out somehwere I do something insane or horrible.
not sure why but I've kind of snapped out of it.
Still find some situations a bit daunting, but on the whole I'm nowhere as bad as I used to be.
But sometimes it does depend on the situation.
Sometimes I am fine when someone is feel awkward. I think there are more things in play than I can quantify.
probably in the highest percentile
I'm pretty good generally. Unless you put me in a nightclub, in which case I tend to freeze up socially, just suddenly can't think of anything to say to people who I'd otherwise have no problems chatting away to. Especially if I don't like/know the music, because then I feel awkward that I'm not getting as into it as other people and that makes it worse.
it's mostly just talking to people I see every day when I feel really shy.
You're only doing it out of politeness, they're only doing it out of politeness. It can become so forced the last thing it feels is polite.
Straight, pretty awkward
Try too hard to be affable and nice when I'm nervous about meeting people, specifically groups.
With alcohol it gets worse as I either just go very quiet and look moody or I act like a twat.
Although I talk so much I embarrass myself quite often.
And I feel shy when I meet new people but apparently I hide it quite well idk.
but then I burnt the book as it was shit and no one wants to hear what I have to say anyway.
I think I was probably shyer when I was younger but I've never really felt awkward.
I hate networking situations but I don't think I'm alone in that. No problem meeting new people, starting new jobs or anything like that.
Really, really awful. And because I'm conscious of it, it's worse.
Unless I've had a drink
until my gap year when i just started going off and doing loads of stuff on my own, like travelling and shit where there's no point in being awkward because you're not going to meet these dickheads again and it's going to be shit if you don't have a chat with someone so you might as well get on with it. sometimes rears its ugly head again though and i feel like a massive fraud
Awkward but not cripplingly so when actually socialising. I'm a great responder but I'm a really bad initiator/conversation-driver.
I'm mostly ok in pub settings, even when sober. Or at parties. Or general meeting people and chatting.
I'm however, utterly racked with nerves and have full on imposter syndrome at work - Mostly in meetings. Fighting off going red / blushing is a problem and I'm in my 30s.
Weirdly, I can be with the same people at lunch or going for a drink and I'm fine. I think it's because that's on "my terms".
Or I'm mental.
very rarely feel awkward or uncomfortable.
i am 32 tho - i think you grow out of it