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Would probably be a positive thing, imho. Let's be honest, people only drink regularly because they're boring and/or don't like themselves.
That's probably not gonna change any time soon, though.
It didn't really work out. Not saying it wouldn't in the future but I do spend A LOT of time in pubs. <3 the pub
they'd probably hate it though. Have you ever been sober around drunks? It's shit
I guess I'm just an old fuddy duddy
Get her to drive.
No fannying about with trains, taxis or *shudder* busses...
If your relationship needs booze to work then you gotta question YOURSELF son.
I didn't drink for the first couple of years I was with my missus. It was fine.
If it's been established that they fancy you what's the point in getting them drunk?
so they'll never leave you
me sipping a coke or J2O whilst I booze away. Even going out with someone that can't drink coffee is irritating. I'll ask for a cappuccino etc. whereas she may ask the person across the counter "Which fruit teas do you do?". That gets on my nerves.
Yep. Grumpy old man alert.
I felt violated
I joke that my boyfriend annoys me with his dislike of hot beverages, especially coffee. But thats such a small fraction of our life that I'd have to be an utter knob to get properly annoyed with it.
Very small issues really irritate me big time. My last girlfriend (yes, I did have one once) got on my nerves as she'd make a complete mess of my bathroom after showering; she's spray water everywhere. I'd have to clean my bathroom very early in the morning before going to work. She's also would like to change the direction of my toilet roll. I prefer it to hang next to the wall rather away. I have Larry David type issues. I was being serious in my first reply. A lot of my time is spent at gigs and at pubs; both alcohol nights. I'd find it hard to go out with a non-drinker. Obviously, not as hard for any sane girl to date me. I'm well aware of my oddness.
But I think on those nights that I did have drinks and she didn't would make me feel odd/uncomfortbale. Probably more the next morning as I may forget the stuff I had said the previous night. I always enjoyed getting nicely drunk with a girl; it's fun. I'm not sure I could date a tee total-er. As I said, there's few who'd want to date me anyway.
If you feel odd/uncomfortable drinking near somebody who isn't drinking then what is the feeling derived from? I'd hazard a guess that it's a result of some misguided view that she'd be looking down at you in some way?
The assumption that non-drinkers are all teetotal for some moralistic, take-the-high-ground reason really bugs me. I don't drink because I don't like the taste and don't experience any of the perceived benefits when I'm drunk. Simple as that but whenever people find out I don't drink they assume I'm judging them because they do which just isn't the case.
Everyone gets irritated at household things but its not the be all and end all. I get irritated at the fact my boyfriend leaves things to soak for days until its my turn to do the washing up and I have to wash up the shit items.
The tea thing is insane though. How could it possibly annoy you if someone drinks fruit teas rather than a cappachino? Its not whats in their cup thats important. Its the fact that they're taking time out of their day to spend time with you!
Just because its an alcohol environment, it doesn't mean that everyone MUST drink alcohol to have a fun time.
single at the moment (obviously). Don't worry, I don't live with my mum ( I own my London flat). Worryingly I have become very uncompromising on a lot of small issues which I know I'm wrong on but that's just me. The alcohol thing would be an issue for me. Strangely, as an atheist I wouldn't have a problem dating a religious person as long as she drank. I'd love late night tipsy conversations on transubstantiation and filioque.
I dont expect people to go to pubs and drink fucking tea and read a book
DEAL WITH IT
Is getting a short sharp glare for a couple of seconds
a pub. Sometimes they then pay using a card. These are the worst people in the world. Simply the worst.
and I literally flick my wet hair around the bathroom before putting it in a towel. I image we'll get on well.
i mean, you CAN, but why? ... uncongenial spaces for such things.
would save on taxis!
I dunno it was kind of odd, I felt guilty most of the time because I just couldn't get into the right frame of mind to enjoy myself. So then I started drinking and have been ruining my life ever since
If they just go KERAZY when drunk then they're probably a mental anyway.
If they're completely anti putting anything bad in their bodies then we probably wouldn't get on.
If they just don't want to and have a fine time socially without it then sure.
can't deny some of the most fun i've had with girlfriends in the past has been after a few drinks
plus pretty much ALL of my friends drink so it might be awkward for the person being the only one on a night out completely sober
and likes me trying different beers all the time despite hating beer herself. It's strange but awesome, never feel like I shouldn't have a drink just because she's got a pepsi or whatever.
bar the odd glass of wine during the week and a couple of beers on a friday drinking really isn't a big deal to me.
It's a shame for her, because she loves beer, makes sloe gin and vodka etc. just can't have very much.
It's fine. I accidentally got drunk on our first date, and we go to the pub, beer festivals etc together. I'm not really a fan of getting properly twatted very often anyway.
cumpster for a couple of rugby teams
with this particular container being routinely filled by many sources
As long as she was lovely and had nice hair
so I would be able to go out with someone who doesn't drink at all. But when I drink, I am a pain in the arse and throw up quite a lot. My boyfriend is very much used to my drunkness now but its probably helped that he is also a very loud drunk and sometimes voms himself. We are known as the couple that vom a lot. We do.
really cheap to take out for dinner
would it bother you that they'd order something veggie off a restaurant menu?
as in the hassle of having to possibly prepare them an entirely different meal
vegetarian wouldn't be as brutal as vegan though
although, to be tbf, i was (and still am) a veggie. and she's turned and become veggie.
and love cheese etc
vegan's a no go
But I really like cooking and would probably end up doing the bulk of the cooking. I like vegetarian food but I get bothered if I have to cook a different meal to my partner. It causes hassle.
if only so we wouldn't run out of wine so damn fast.
Also it might be easier for a girl to put up with me with a hangover if she wasn't suffering one herself.
I drink almost every friday, saturday, and most sundays which leads to me getting in at stupid o'clock and then sleeping in late.
It would be proper annoying waking up bright and early, and waiting around for your useless sack of shit partner to wake up before doing anything with the day.
Its mildly annoying when your boyf/girlf has been out the night before and there are household jobs to be done but they can't get up as they're too hungover.
It's not a problem really. She drinks less now though apparently.
Fuck it, I can't even be bothered today (that's what she's never said).
But I'd certainly have unprotected sex in a shop doorway with them.
That's disgusting, whatever fucking thread we're in.
How's your love life, pal? Pulled any chicks recently?
she went to meetings at least 3 times a week, even when abroad. Was fine as i am not a problem drunk but i was young and didn't want to settle down, whereas she kind of did. Would be interesting to see whether it would be different now as I am older and more suited to settling down a little. Anyway, it's easy to date somebody who doesn't drink as long as neither of you are judgmental twats (turns out though, her sponsor thought it was a bad idea that she was with me, therefore she was a judgemental twat)
and it's not usually a problem. In fact dates are usually more interesting now as they don't always revolve around going to the pub like they used to, although I don't mind going to them still.
People have preconceptions that are more their issues than mine. As if people who don't drink alcohol aren't up for having fun, messing around and having a laugh. I don't mind being around others drinking but it bothers me sometimes if it makes people self-conscious as if they think they're going to contribute towards me having a relapse if I see them enjoying themselves drinking. Chill out, enjoy your pint, it won't.
Going out would have just been shit for everyone, either to clubs or bars or whatever. Now however, after settling down and having a kid, it wouldn't be an issue at all. I quite often relax with a beer on my own, we often go to the pub and one of us drives. Clubbing is a massive rarity and I wouldn't care if I never went to one again to be honest. Gigs aren't a problem.
It was absolutely fine* and the only thing i missed was the social aspect of sharing a bottle of wine with a meal.
*only fine until he did have a drink and I realised very quickly why he had to be tee total. Crazy violent prick. So in future i would question far more closely why someone chose not to drink.