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Wheres my mojo?

at a physical, mental and financial cost to yourself. Worked for me

stop comparing yourselves to others
use the internet less
stop taking things so seriously
be more selfless - voluntary work is good for this yeah
stop overthinking things and reflect/chill/practice mindfulness or summat

follow that rule
the rules are good

more badly than I do

It makes life easier

really would recommend charity work/volunteering.

Makes you feel a lot better about yourself

You can't inject charity into your toes.

Indulge your natural instinct to constantly screw over your fellow man.

All the nice people I know are terribly depressed.

If it is a reoccurring thing which it sounds like it is as you say you don't want to be hated 'anymore' .. it could be your surrounds that are bring you down and affecting you.

It doesn't have to be abroad.

Also exercise is a saviour. It doesn't have to be full on it doesn't have to be in the day. I did a lot of exercise in the evening and I did it often and it became an indispensable part of my road to happiness and sanity. Try taking a speedy walk for thirty minutes each evening and see how that help.

it might not be the complete answer.

Contemplate all the other people that have felt like you, now past and present, all across the globe, feel at one with them

maybe to be yourself would naturally cause some friction with the modern world or people who have adapted well to living in it.....although there are steps that you can take to let you take it in your stride

i can choose something for you if you want

try to overcome them.

try to believe that you are a good looking and worthwhile person - you are, so this is a possible thing.

also: learn to control your breathing better. and do exercise because among its many benefits are a lower heart rate.

it'll help you become calmer and more content.

Steps to immediately make me feel calmer and more confident
1. Eat something healthy for lunch
2. Do some exercise
3. Return library books
4. Cancel bills from previous house
5. Call a friend/chat with someone nice
6. Do something nice for my new housemates like cleaning or biscuits
7. Finish unpacking
8. Do anything URGENT for work
9. Focus on all the amazing things I'm going to do when I don't hate my job
10. Remember that the best/most thing I can do is approach life and work with a positive attitude and that nobody's life/livelihood depends on me so it's ok that I'm a bit shit.

General advice: I find overcoming anxiety is the most difficult thing and feeling anxious and over-worrying means I cant do anything. I try to practice mindfulness which allows me to separate myself from the things I need to do and approach tasks dispassionately. Relaxation is only half of it. You also need to be able to accept your challenges in a calm, thoughtful way. Almost as if it was someone else's problems.

If you dont suffer from disordered anxiety or low mood, that's good you're in a better position to start. Then I guess you start thinking about goals and purpose and what feeling content would be like.

and got all stuttery and couldn't talk much and went a bit red.

I'm in my 30s.

FML

I also get very anxious, stressed and paranoid.

One small change that I made last week was to severly cut down on tea and coffee, and I only have 2 or 3 a day now. Instead I drink loads of water. I feel a lot better for it and don't really get as anxious as I did.

My nan died last week, and normally the stresses of work and helping my dad sort stuff out would have left me completely messed up. But i'm not too bad.

Going to bed a bit earlier and not drinking cafeeine after 9pm also helps.

Tonight I'm going to football which will normally result in a few beers beforehand, but I'm going to cut that out too. Well I might have one.

I'm also making more of an effort to go to the gym, i'm also starting 5-aside next week too. Should mean I get fitter and socialise more than I have been.