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Got to be better than being an only child, surely?
Shes 18 months older than me. We never got on when we were younger, but I'd have never been without her. Now that we're grown up we get along much better. Idk how to describe it, but it's really good having someone of a similar age who you can talk to and rely on and who loves you unconditionally. I love my sister.
It'd be nice to have that sort of relationship with someone who wasn't a parent and could relate better to things I do/think because they were of a similar age.
On the other hand, I always wanted a much younger brother to teach stuff to/be a generally awesome example for. I've got a half-brother but he lives in Scotland and the two sides of my family aren't really in touch any more.
Might make my Mum go through with fostering like she keeps talking about.
Yeah its like even the best of friends can lose touch slightly but this is less likely (in my experience) to happen with family. On the other hand I'm sure some siblings lose touch with each other over time.
Can't say it's ever particularly bothered me to be honest.
i'm 24 next month, they're 22, 20 and 20 (twins, obviously). when i was, say, 15 and they were 13, 11 and 11 they were incredibly annoying but now we all get on really well :)
just goes to show doesn't it
and we were sorta brought up like brothers. also my parents didn't earn much. hmm.
and I think I heard her mention something about being an only child the other day and thought "ah that explains it".
Fair enough on their part. But, yeah... my best friend has an older brother and they get on really well, just seems really fun. Yeah, that'd been cool
earlier today i happened to see somebody on faecbook with the same surname as me (it's a relatively uncommon surname) and this guy has striking resemblance to me. i always heard about how my dad fucked around, so it kinda freaked me out.
contemplated messaging this guy for over an hour but i'm gonna feel like a fucking moron if there's no connection, but the fact that he looks just like me is genuinely creepy.
and I have a really uncommon name and she looked a bit like me and she had my birthday BUT SHE WAS A YEAR OLDER.
We had a chat though and we weren't related.
The moral of this story is: don't message this guy it's not myspace and you're not 14 you fucking weirdo.
but what if he's my BROTHER? i genuinely hope he isn't his music likes were pleb as fuck.
on facebook. Mine seems to be quite a popular name.
on there for a while. Removed him when he started posting about UKIP, do miss him though seeing as all his other posts involved him getting smashed on glitterbombs and listening to Madonna. Talk about stereotyping!
that i only keep for entertainment value.. Or because i hate them so much that i love to torture myself with their constant shite talking.
helped her out quite a bit last year when her bf cheated on her with another man (!!) and she thinks we're a lot closer than we are. I feel obliged to keep her as I still see her around, but her music taste is abysmal and half her posts are about how she likes Stereophonics or The Enemy.
though inevitably see less of each other as she has her own family. But now and again you get an amazing conversation where you talk about fun childhood memories and see different perspectives on events that happened 30 years ago. I don't mean to sound cruel but I certainly wouldn't like to be an only child.
There are some good things about it (independence, parents are prouder of you for little stuff and aren't always comparing you to your siblings, own room, toys and presents as a little one), but yeah, I do wonder what it would've been like with someone else there.
On the other hand, my Mum is seeing someone off the internet and he has two sons, so if that goes well...
I don't want children so I'd like to be geographically closer to her when she does (she lives in north waffles). I think she'd like to see me more too. In the long term I think my bf wants to move back to the north west so it suits everyone. And if I do end up having children if like them to be close to their cousins as they'll probably be quite similar in age. Tldr, sorry.
someone would have offered to fuck your mum by now
A brother though, not a sister, can't be dealing with her turning into a slut at 15 and me having to deal with it.
There are a lot of financial perks of being a spoilt only child and I like it.
and then i just read hateful stuff like this and it makes me think that maybe there's something to it
still think i'll only have 1 or 0 kids though
i hope he's reading this
he's a year older, left school at 16 to work as an engineer and is currently seeing a 25-year-old (we're 19). I talk about my failed love affairs and lack of confidence and he gives me advice. It's shit, virtually without fail, but I appreciate it anyway.
Just feel like talking about friends and family for some reason. Shut up TBO.
I wish I wish I wish that something would happen...
we used to be dead close. Only three years between us, so we hung about with the same people for a few years. Now in different cities and he has two children i don't see enough of.
You're better off without them. They just make you feel guilty, and give you dead arms.
My mum would kill me, but I really want to.
But if it's something you want to do, i dont think you should let what your mum thinks stop you.
He has all the good practical no fucking around bits of brain that I am missing, and yet in some ways he is like me, makes me feel cooler. Plus I'm an uncle because of him and I adore my niece she is fucking amazing
he's two years older than me, not much of a difference and we've always liked the same stuff (football always and music the last couple years)
Didn't use to get on with my sister as much as she was an annoying stroppy teenager of 15 when me and my brother were 18 and 20, so was quite a difference in age. Now she's 18 and i'm 21 we get on really well, especially seeing as my brother doesn't live at home anymore. We were at the same club the other day which was kinda weird as she's only just turned 18, but it was funny as she got really pissed and threw up when we got in.
...but haven't spoken to me since Christmas, other than a time I accidentally saw her out. We exchanged an awkward greeting and then ignored each other. She texted me yesterday with "Just bought ticket to see Postal Service with Jenny Lewis in London in May :-)".
No 'hello', no 'how are you?'.
Like, why would you even do that? Weird.
Idk, we used to get on well, but don't at all anymore. Don't get why.
but have much older half sisters from my dad's first marriage. I loved growing up on my own but am really thankful to have my half sisters as well, especially now that I'm older. I have the best of both worlds!
Being an only child could be lonely at times sure but I've come to really appreciate the perks, from the closeness that I forged with my parents to essentially being the sole recipient of their resources.
and dad cant tell me off properly anymore.
I wish I still did :(
we don't really get on.
REALLY didn't get on when i was younger, he was an absolute prick and I've never really forgiven him for that. I think i only want one kid (based on my experiences).
pretty sad really - well jel of people who have great brother / sister relationships.
Older Sister - She's married, lives in Canada, does eventing and belly dances
Younger Brothers - Options are: 1- Arty, works in Advertising, loves drum and bass, 2-loves football and comedy films. 3 - recovering addict. Lots of tattoos
Younger sisters - Options are: 1 - Has small dogs, loves pink, bit like Paris Hilton but with brains. 2 - Still at school, likes Justin Bieber and photography.
Essentially a decent guy, perhaps a bit of a LAD but that can be changed.
Hope you enjoy your new younger brother. His name is Mike.
I'd think most people have had massive horrible fall-outs with their siblings, but all the good memories make it worthwhile.
not speaking to my closest sister atm because she was really horrible to me the other day, but I'm sure we'll move on.
it's strange; I've not felt like we had that much in common for a while, and I don't feel like she understands me as a person, but it's like we share a soul or something.
I mean, we kind of do; when you've spent a childhood together, you're like two sides of the same coin. maybe we aren't so much on the same wavelength as we used to be - as is natural when you grow up and become more complicated - but we'll always have an unbreakable bond.
doing tough mudder with her in the summer
she's moving abroad at the end of the year though
When I hit 18 and we could go to the pub together though, we became tight. Alcohol is a great thing.
But it's great now since the three of us finally grew up and started to appreciate each other properly.
My older sister has been married for 5 or 6 years now and has a 2-year-old and a 4-month-old. So basically I get to hang out with little kids whose diapers I don't have to change. Winning.
do people not understand that the money spent on them would have halfed? and you'd have only craved even more attention?
Sigmund Freud had this problem, see. He thought that everybody else was just like him, so his psychological issues became the roots of unjustified diagnoses for the rest of mankind in the following centuries. At this point I've forgotten how I was going to relate this to your post. How's your day? :)
sorry mate you don't get it do you
Money spent - not a problem. Parenting via money thrown at kids isn't parenting, so it's only an issue if you can't feed them.
Attention available - not a problem. The more siblings you have, the more people there are in your family to potentially give you attention, so parents are less in-demand.
But seriously, not everybody wants that much attention to begin with. My main hobby as a kid was reading - kind of difficult to do unless left alone for hours at a time.
that was my main hobby too. but, in my experiences, being brought up by parents that worked more than one job for not much money, and, concequently, not having much time to spend with them can be an issue. i also know for definite that it was for my mother (single parent who worked three jobs per weekday and a separate job on top at weekends).
oh god i hate the internet what am i even doing on it bye
her mum was actually her nan and was a child
My dad's a high-school teacher and never made a whole lot, so I suspect that when my mom quit working to raise us three kids, her 'job' became saving money. Seriously, I have a lot of respect for how well she managed things and wonder if I'll do that well myself. So my perspective is skewed, I'll admit.
older sister, younger brother.