if someone is being a dick, but they are very much putting their hands up and saying - "real sorry but i am a dick - that's how i roll' -'
and someone else continues to have a relationship with them, despite being upset by their dickish behavior, which of the two people involved is ultimately responsible for the bad relationship?
is it he person who is being a dick, knows they are being a dick, but doesn't want to change at all and is happy as larry in the relationship.
or is it the person who is not being a dick, is less happy in the relationship, but won't take action to force a change?
hmmmm
badly explained i think
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You dick.
The person who is putting up with them being a dick
is a twat. And dicks fuck twats.
But seriously, don't they value themselves enough? It's you isn't it. You're not asking for a friend, right?
ha ha
it's not me.
AT ALL
honest guv
the secondary person in question probably does not value themselves enough. Its a bit sad really.
They're both responsible
or neither of them is
the dick will be long term responsible for dying alone
whereas you are long term responsible for dying surrounded by hollow shells.
Happy friday.
The dick is the dick
I hate it when people acknowledge that they're dicks in that sort of 'hur it's me!! live with it' way as if that makes it acceptable. IT DOESN'T, SORT YOURSELF THE FUCK OUT.
Fucking hate that
You either love me or hate me, I just speak my mind etc
*I tell it like it is, if people have a problem with that, tough luck!* = I do not have the social skills to moderate my thoughts
i dunno really
i think things are made acceptable when people accept them, i mean its a sliding scale isn't it, obviously actual proper BAD stuff is just being a terrible person, but there's more subtle uncompromising behaviors which might be totally disruptive to the other persons life. I think people have a responsibility (to themselves) to leave those kind of relationships.
i dunno
The thing about me is, I speak my mind, and if you don't like it, you have to deal with it.
^Every prick reality show contestant ever.
Is it okay if I say this in an argument about how messy I am?
like if I go IVE BEEN THIS WAY FOR 24 YEARS AND IM NOT CHANGING NOW or should I change and start being tidy? hmm.
Difference is your messiness now affects someone else's comfort
cat_food for thought
no, they're choosing for it to affect their comfort
if you start a relationship with someone you should accept them for who they are. no expect them to change
i think most relationships require some change
i don't think you should expect people to shift their core values or anything, but i don't feel like i've compromised myself by making an effort to put my pants in the laundry bin.
nope, it isn't
But what used to wind me up was just how little effort it takes to sort out all those little things that cumulatively result in living with a messy prick. Because then it means the messee doesn't even care enough to exercise that tiny slither of thought and effort.
I'm still irked about this. It shows.
i've fallen out with people in the past over this
if someone is horrible and unacceptable to me, i'm going to confront them
if someone tells me they notice it too and continue to complain about them being a shit yet don't tell the dick it's a bit annoying, tell them they're being a dick if they are one. you're the one suffering in the long run cause they're the ones that have to put up with them being a dick.
Thanks cat_race
i guess he IS choosing to be annoyed by it. I've always been mess.
i wouldn't take advice from a man who belives this
http://drownedinsound.com/community/boards/social/4420993
that is a great thread
That's true.
Taking my crusties off the kitchen worktop before making dinner isnt THAT big of a deal.
"mate that's just the way I am, I just like speak my mind and if people don't like it, then I just don't care, that's how I roll"
That kind of person is usually a dick, knows they are a dick but if anyone "just like speaks their mind" against them, they go apeshit. What a dick.
listened to a girl say this
on the bus last night for about half an hour non-stop. never leaving home without my phone charger again. fairly sure she was on a date too.
I imagine its a vicious cycle
of the person being a dick continuing to be a dick because the other person is letting them be a dick.
i think you are right
WISE MEOWINGTON
They should both just call time
then the dickhead person should find someone who isn't willing to put up with them being a dick and would probably change so they get to spend time with the person who doesn't put up with them and the person who puts up with dickheads should find someone who isn't a dickhead and then they'll be happy in the knowledge that not all men are dickheads.
yeah but
the DICK is perfectly happy in the relationship and THE WET is too wet to end it.
nightmare
Both dicks for different reasons.
Although the second person might not be a total dick, just completely wet, and therefore a bit of a dick.
Dickety dick dick dick.
What's going on here?
This reminds me of a friend telling me about their friend
So this girl was going out with a bloke and she had told him she loved him. He, on the other hand, said "I don't love you and never will" but was "happy" to keep going out together. WTF?!
So anyway, they carriedon going out and lo and behold, he eventually dumped her. Then she's all crying going on about how she loves him and how she wants to get back together.
It's like - how little do you respect yourself to actively seek to be in a relationship with someone who has said they'll never love you? There's a million people out there who'd love her but the stupid human mind says "no! I want what I can't have".
Stupid emotions.
Throw a few twee keyboard sounds and major chords in there
and you've got yourself a bright eyes song
this situation is kinda similar
:(
That didn't happen, it's Two Out Of Three Ain't Bad by Meatloaf
:D
Was listening to the Loaf the other day. Objects in the Rear View Mirror. Absolutely outstanding.
Our £2 second-hand copy of Bat Out of Hell was hands down the most played CD in my undergraduate house
When I'm drunk I honestly believe that Bat Out of Hell is the greatest song ever written. It's got it all.
It's incredibly well paced for such a long song
All those tempo changes yet the momentum is retained
^ half-cut
if the dick wasn't a dick the other person wouldn't be with them
it's the other person's fault.
by the way
why are people in this assuming I'm the wet one?
it's not me in this scenario, but when i was in this scenario, I WAS THE DICK! I was young and stupid then tho.
i hate it when there's like a dick in a circle of friends and everyone is like 'but he's our dick' to justify him being a dick
i say that cause it's almost always a male sorry but it's true
bit of a dickish thing to say tbh
Relationsmash
Dump that loser dick boyfriend once and for all and treat yo' self
i imagine the dick is some guy
and the person putting up with the dick is some girl who you are in love with
you can imagine what you like gonad
who am i to spoil your fantasies with FACTS?
I dated a guy once
who used this as his excuse all the time - " I talk to you like you're shit, because I'm a dick"
It didn't last very long. And now he's fat.
sinister
*a lesbian
must be all those
gladiator meals you got him from kfc
didn't realise cat_race was so mean