if someone is being a dick, but they are very much putting their hands up and saying - "real sorry but i am a dick - that's how i roll' -'
and someone else continues to have a relationship with them, despite being upset by their dickish behavior, which of the two people involved is ultimately responsible for the bad relationship?
is it he person who is being a dick, knows they are being a dick, but doesn't want to change at all and is happy as larry in the relationship.
or is it the person who is not being a dick, is less happy in the relationship, but won't take action to force a change?
badly explained i think