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because of the problems her fella had with you last time.

It sounds like you and her are fine, it's him that has the problem.

So, go along, chat to her, chat to him, spike his drink, take compromising photos of him, then post them on tinternet.

But my life is going pretty well and I have a super hot boyfriend so I won't really care.

Easier that way.

put "looking for interesting opportunities" on their LinkedIn profile, where it says "employer." ?

Bumped into each other and kind of had a clear the air in the summer, after a pretty nasty breakup and afters. Don't really see her around that much, but when I do it's not really a problem. Also my new gf is awesome.

I bump into my exs sister more though, thought it might be strange to talk to her at first, but it's kind of like I can view her as her own person rather than just my ex's sister.

A day or two after I've drunkenly unfriended them on Facebook.

and the intentions of both parties. If you have both ''moved on'' then exes can often get on well/be polite. If there is lingering love/hate then things can get messy. Whenever I have been in this situation in the past I have gone out of my way to avoid contact for a while. That can be difficult (emotionally and logistically) but I found it better in the long run.

and she was having an argument with her bloke and generally having a shit time.

Made my night that did.

if enough time has elapsed it is really nice, catching up finding out how they're getting on.

If not enough time has passed it is awkward and horrible.

If he/she was mega shit, you'd probably be angry if you saw him/her.
If he/she was well nice and you ended on not too bad terms, it'll probably be alright if you bumped into them.

It caused no end of weirdness when we'd see her out and about with her new boyfriends in town, and I'd have to continue with my charade.

One didn't end great, she dumped me, I felt rubbs about it. Didn't see her for a month, then bumped into, literally as I was going to the loo at Afterskool. We were pleasant enough but it made me really sad and I had a shit night. #emo

Another time I was up in Newcastle for a friend's birthday and I bumped into my first ex (she went to Uni there) in the o2 shop. She was all like coy oh how are you? Proceeded to tell her how absolutely fucking brilliant my life was. She was a junior doctor working a ridic amount of hours and not going so great. Made me feel like a big man

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_0qDFuViH6M

YEAH.

It's her that is a little awkward around me, I think it's my manly persona.

I was the last person they dated before their wives/fiances.
When I found out my first love was having a baby with his wife, my heart sank a little. :(

three times

- the first time it was fine until she started shouting at me. i told her to fuck off.
- the second time she noticed i was smoking and then was outside crying; that was unrelated to me mind.
- third time was great. her new man was cool, chatted to him for a while and then she left. not bad.

not seen her since. looking forward to bumping into her with the puppy.

Had a brief chat. She is and always has been friendly enough.

I then saw her parents in the pub a few nights later and her dad bought me a drink :D

Exes have added an interesting element to the recent spate of emo-ish nostalgia gigs. Been a few times now that mates I didn't know when with the ex have worriedly nudged me and asked why a demented woman in the corner is glowering at me while slowly sharpening a knife.

I very maturely went to the other side of the club to avoid talking to him.

Mega awkward. We basically ignored each other until I got off, and there was a strange 'Hello'/nod type thing as I made eye contact. He never really liked me anyway, and it wasn't the best of breakups either with his daughter which didn't help things...

Generally get on really well with most of my other ex girlfriends though, only the one above who I don't talk to or see any more and that's probably for the best.

I make sure every rehearsal and every gig are as awkward as possible.

I have seen one of them from afar, twice but I've always been a 'safe' distance away or on a bus or something.

I think it'd be genuinely awkward to bump into at least 2 of them but the other one I still get on with so that would be ok.

she told me she's started going to church again (Roman Catholic) which came as a bit of a surprise given that she was sexually abused by priests whilst at school in Ealing (London Irish/catholics types will know where). She then told me that it was a good thing we hadn't decided to marry because for her the catholicism thing was non-negotiable and I'd have had to convert.

I told her that in my opinion the catholic church was guilty of a vast and coordinated policy of covering up child rape on a near-industrial scale and that it beggared belief that she would want anything to do with it, especially given her experiences.

Narrow escape there.

And remembered how nice it is bumping in to an actual ex rather then someone you terrible, drunk adolescent sex with. I don't think I'll be going out at Christmas.