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Just a lightning rod for parental disappointment. Broke all the ice when we were kids - no matter how naughty I was, it was always nothing compared to what she'd done just 24 hours earlier. Funny thing is, she's had quite an extraordinary life and is extremely successful by pretty well anyone's measure - but the parents are still disappointed in her. I guess they just got used to it, it's like their default setting where she's concerned. Fortunately she couldn't give a shit.
Not so much in ME, but I guess at some of the decisions i've made and the turns my life has taken.
i was a very academically smart child with difficulties with general practical application of myself. think they're disappointed that i'm not excelling in any way, but surprised and delighted that i can, you know, pay my rent and not die.
am i a disappointment
i doubt it - but y'know - who has the right to be disappointed in people.
i don't really believe in it
My parents are pretty chill dudes on the whole though.
and all his pals are lying about their kids, they hate them just as much as he hates his
go fuck yourself
but they should be
i'd hate him to be my dad.
and to answer your question, nah doubt it, i'm clearly the worst out of the three of us in terms of academic achievement/hard work. My mum often says stuff like as long as you're happy (i think she also thinks i'm gay)
I'm seriously considering moving back in with them and doing a masters in Glasgow cause I want to spend more time with them. <3 my parents
That makes it sound like they'll be disappointed in you when you move back in with them
such as no corporal punishment, allowing children to make their own decision etc. He shouldn;t be surprised when they achieve nothing.
You're going to get your nuts kicked off you naval cunt.
They'd never say it but I think they secretly hope I'm the one that has children.
and they don't want their happiness to be invested so heavily on my achievements. they're happy that i am happy.that's enough
It works both way, remember. Just cos you're family doesnt mean you can't tell them to fuck off
Well I'm pretty sure he is.
That bloke in the article sounds like a bit of a cunt.
funny, don't think you've mentioned that before
Please submit punchlines by close of play.
Who's laughing now, eh?
That's for sure
as I got progressivley lazier through Secondary School and then essentially flunked college, did art and flunked that and then moved in with a nutter for three years.
After I came back and decided to do an Access course a year later, which I am now doing, they seem totally not bothered by the fact i'm doing really well at it.
Not bitter or annoyed, I made my bed etc
or accessing golf courses?
see also: a contractor at my work just got paid £500 a day to 'develop' an access database. bastards got a 2 litre bike but he's 30 stone
YOU could be that £500 a day fatman. Maybe not even be fat too. maybe just slightly obese. (not sure if programming skillz and obesity are separable)
my mum wants me to breed, she's going to have to f**king wait
and the first of the family to uni. they fucking love me
but i'm the youngest and only son so it doesn't matter does it
I think it's because they all brush their hair and have boyfriends and don't embarrass her constantly.
but my two brothers do and one of them is like his ideal son so I'm sure he's pretty happy.
I think my mum likes me. I'm a uni dropout but my two oldest siblings had sufficient uni/career success while the one just older than me never went to uni at all, so the heat was taken off me as I'm somewhere in between.
i'm rubbish and i used to be really smart and stuff. i think my mum worries about me a lot
Think they're quite proud actually, naw
MD of a flourishing company, managing 700 people, how could they be?
exponentially week on week eh, you must be a real whizz
He wouldn't tell people I was a music journo, didn't see it as a real profession. Then when I started making more than him he got really weird - still dissappointed but angrier at the world. He used to be a dick, basically, for that and many greater reasons.
And then the past three years since I've been working my way up through business, he's been suddenly completely proud. He doesn't even know what cloud computing is but i think because it sounds expensive he's into it.
My mum has always been understanding of what I've wanted to do with my life, she's a wonderful woman.
I only have one parent and I think she's just petty relieved I'm not 'mental' anymore
who is seemingly sickeningly proud of my every minor achievement
Don't live with them anymore and earn enough to feed myself despite majorly fucking up at least twice so far in life.
My sister had always worked hard and done well and now she has a good life and stuff, but everyone has always known she'd do well.
My dad has started trying to remain in contact; in the way that he tells me to phone him on a certain day and at a certain time and gets mildly shitty if I don't call when I have been told to call but he has no real interest. He is basically looking for someone to look after him now that he's got old and his friends have died and he is trying to put a bit of work in the secure emotional blackmail in the future. I wish him the best with that!
My mum pretty much told me I had to get a job and get out at 15 because I was wiping her out and taking the food from her mouth. I didn't move until I was 17. Whatever I have achieved she has shown little interest in and reminds me of times when I have failed when I show signs of resilience. The only thing she has remained constant in is making me feel like I have failed in everything that happens to be impossible to achieve.
So, yeah. I suspect that guy in the paper is a cunt and above is my argument as to why I have come to this conclusion.
I was supposed to join the Royal Marines as an officer. I never had any intention of doing this. As a result, everything I've ever done is merely a crushing disappointment to my father.
My dad was army, but never once was I pressured to join.
And often depressed and that I seem unable to make any decision to sort my life out, figure she probably blames herself for it which makes it pretty hard to think about. Since she's become a grandma though I don't have to worry really which is great!
I'm merely the cool uncle!
She should have sorted it out when I was younger
It had this's and everything...
My dad's pleased with me because I've got some qualifications, a job and haven't ended up with a chronic drug problem or in prison.
Mum's pleased with me because I'm a nice person who she gets on with.
after doing brilliantly at uni (probably just cruelly raising their hopes before the life of disappointingly wasted talents that is inevitably to follow since university is about the only thing i'm good at)
but nah in general neither of them are pushy types, as long as i'm happy they don't mind what i do. think my mum is relieved that i grew up to be a relatively functional human after a childhood of crippling social awkwardness, but a bit disappointed that i don't show much interest in having kids (not that she would ever be pressure-y about it, but has pointedly implied that my sisters are a lost cause on that front). think my dad is a bit disappointed that i'm too lazy to make the most of my potential talents (used to try to get me and my sister to live out his vague dreams of musicianship, now keeps trying to get me to start a blog)
Tiramisu - Adventures of a desert, 5 years too late.
Poor work, sorry.
Are you supposed to want them to be proud of you? I don't care at all if they're disappointed
I'm probably more disappointed in them (both as parents and as individuals) though.
got a good degree, nearly became a lawyer, didn't, now stuck in crappy office jobs not using my book smarts
sometimes my dad gives me this look like aww sheeeit
Why on earth would they be?