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as in sex and stuff
Care to elaborate?
but it I also think it's a whole lot of fuss about something that's just a basic thng to do, like breathing. That's probably just because i'm not a typically repressed Brit, though.
Anyone who says something is better than sex is obviously doing it wrong.
a closely contested Smash Bros battle can really get the heart going
I've had some seriously good chocolate mousses before.
Make of that what you will.
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I'll get 13 for Christmas as it never works until the patch comes out anyway.
But the idea that sex is the absolute summit of human pleasure, in all instances and across all people, is a bit of a nonsense and one that is not at all attributable to `UR DOIN IT RONG`.
I think it's fair to admit that it can be a bot gross and there are times when you'd rather just have a lie in or a wee cup of tea. Everything in moderatoin, surely.
you're saying "it's ok to not be in the mood for it at all sometimes", i'm saying "there's a stigma against people who are pretty much never in the mood for it". there probably shouldn't be
because you have the biological imperative to sow your seed. Lack of drive would possibly indicate depression, anxiety or a hormonal imbalance in most cases, and there is (wrongly) stigma attached to all of these.
I odn;t actually think sex is supposed to be enjoyable ALL of the time anyway. Sometimes it's something you have to do to remain intimate with somebody in general.
I have to say, given my catastrophic record at relationshps, nobody should ever listen to my advice.
There's time were you're just not game for whatever reason and grinding through it makes you feel the opposite of intimate and what makes you closer is just being able to go look you're a smoking hotty but I'm just not game. Can we not have hug and watch something on the telly?
Forcing it is not the right thing to do and just ends up making things worse. There was a story not long ago where a couple forced sex every day for a year. I can't remember what the end of that story was though.
...the couple forced sex every day for a month and the conclusion was that their behaviour and attentiveness towards each other increased notably as a result.
Something to do with a) a marriage bveing about compromise of desires and b) something biological/ subliminal that I didn't really understand.
to compromise if your parter was GAGGING for it. But what if both parties can't actually be bothered and would rather snuggle up and watch telly?
and we broke up :'D
I actually can't shag someone if I don't want to.
I'd have made an incredible prozzer.
There's a market for anything these days.
DOnt think it hasn't crossed my mind.
I guess its just something the majority of people enjoy but there are some people out there how don't like it for whatever reason.
Whilst we're having a sexy thread, lets discuss this:
I'D RATHER MOP THE FLOOR THAN HAVE SEX WITH MY HUSBAND.
I hate mopping floors.
Although I think there's a danger of reading too much into the fact that the media and society around us is so sex-obsessed and assuming that it also applies to the average joe.
I've had a bit of stick from my pals in the past for being fairly open about the fact that the idea of a one night stand does nothing for me but I don't know that I'd say it's stigmatised though.
I think most people are a lot more *each-to-their-own* then outside influences would have you believe.
look at http://drownedinsound.com/community/boards/social/4417769#r7087172 and http://drownedinsound.com/community/boards/social/4417769#r7087200
it does imply there is a bit of peer pressure towards "you must enjoy sex", which does make me do a bit of a sideways glance as it were
But I think taking a thing that somebody says on the internet as a black-and-white statement of fact/full-opinion is a bit misleading if you're using it to gauge actual social opinions on something.
but if it's widely-held it's definitely worth thinking about whether that is symptomatic of actual social opinions
Its just assumed that the majority of people actually enjoy sex.
Sheeldz comment I don't really agree with as sex is not the most pleasure I can have and won't make me feel better. Its just a different pleasure that gives me a different feeling. And I have loads of other things give me pleasure in a different way. Whether thats relaxing or reading or making something or exercising or shagging. None of them are like the other.
especially as there's an implicit judgement in "wrong", that's not terribly helpful. it's not beyond the realms of possibility that someone who's not enjoying it is so as a result of previous trauma. or hell, even someone might not enjoy it who's got concurrent confidence issues that might knock even more.
i just think people should stop for a second before the "everyone's experience of things should be like mine" thing we get on this board, guess this goes far beyond this thread
People need to stop taking things so literally.
I really don't think this board seriously has that mentality. Its just there are certain things that are enjoyed and acceptable by the majority of people. Like BBQs and BJs. But sometimes people pop up saying they don't like them and its a bit WOAH. And other people also don't like them and its like YEAH HIGH 5!
Sex is something that people do for many different reasons. And people on this board are not so thick and up themselves to realise that some people wouldn't like x y and z.
my comment was tongue in cheek.
as a result, haven't had proper intercourse in 5 odd years. Had lots of women in my bed during this time and they have all generally been pretty cool with it. i have become a master at oral sex. So..not all bad. would love to chat more, but off to feed the ducks.
I am not into that. I'm sorry. Please find someone else to cram your willies in their every orifice.
My hypothetical protestation that I'm not sure that really counts may (hypothetically) have fallen on deaf ears.
i'd rather have a biscuit though
(and groping, obviously).
Your ma's got a master of arts, she's a saint, she's met the queen, got a bachelor of arts, and something else that would give her the post-nominal letters Tor.
Ol' Ma Willykit: MA St. ER BA Tor
you're boyfriend is clearly terrible. I suggest an upgrade.
My man Mr SilkySkillz OneOne is free?
I'm asking do you like it. I'd like to hear what your wife has to say.
and can just ride till sunset
don't mind who
don't know why people make weird suggestions at things like this and then don't just come out and say it. you win.
it's fine though
but don't normally like it. Can take it or leave it unless I really need an up to date validation that I'm still a bangin' hotty
'but don't normally like it'
what is this drivel?
Mr 15 year old's crumpet needs to throw us off the scent.
and its the best thing in the world. Then you take them 3 times a week for 5 years then one day you get a bit burnt out of it and sick and tired of clubs and loud music and just prefer a glass of mead and seedcake while listening to radio 4
cos no-one will post in it (Ive not even gone into it, (I dont like it being <so in your face> I appreciate meowingtons decorum and tact)
because I'm british and a prude
OH BUT AM I
i'm from romford. I'd give you a blowie behind Yates bins if you buy me a subway.
my thread has nothing to do with peno.
but then they changed what it was. Now what I'm with isn't it, and what's it seems weird and scary to me, and it'll happen to you, too.
nothing is finer than a nice shower followed by a long session of 69. Beats penetrative intercourse hands-down.
Nothing like going mutual.
My lizard brain can't cope with that level of multitasking.
This is a great post.
I think i'm better at it.
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But I can totally take it or leave it.
bit it's not just that
not much is more than what it appears to be
It was more the thrill of the chase that got me. Top sex is tops though. Though if one person's not really into it it's pretty rubbs and best allowed.
As I've gotten older though I've developed a massive more appreciation of fingering. That's great Craic.
I'd probably put sex in the joint top 5 of shagging, fingering, necking a pint, gambling and winning, an Ireland winning the Grand Slam
I'm married, I can't contribute to this discussion...