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like for your whole life and not just career etc.
Wish I had a career equivalent sometimes.
so if you're still with your chick in 2 years? you'd ask her to marry you so she fit in with your plan?
Got to get some kids sorted by the time I'm thirty really.
Kids are fucking great
It's more of an idealised situation. I've always liked the idea of being a young(ish) dad and it's not like I'm living (or want to live) a wildly hedonistic lifestyle that I'm reluctant to give up or anything.
It's probably a weird thing to say these days but having a wife and kids and happy homelife is much more of a life priority for me than anything else and the sooner the better.
30 or 35 isn't going to make a huge difference. As long as you don't keel over from walking up a flight of stairs I think you'll be fine.
I think its fine unless you're about 60+ and then you're pretty much gonna be dead when they're 20. Like my grandparents have got a dog that will definitely outlive them unless they live to 100. Seems unlikely though.
Basically I just want to have my shit sorted at some point in my thirties
something as trivial as buying a pint of milk comes as a surprise to me
best case scenario is that i'm a house husband, writing film soundtracks, have a rich wife and a baby, have a band that i tour with a couple of months a year, spread out all nice
i have no plan to make this happen, beyond "get better at writing music, work hard on bands and make an effort to meet people"
most likely i'll be in the same situation as i am, working a boring but ok job for an ok amount of money, using my holiday time for a bit of travel and some gigging, maybe in a semi-serious relationship, maybe not
ps do you work on the ground floor, at the back of the room and to the right as you look through the main window? </creepy>
I don't have a plan but I predict that in 5 years I'll still be wasting too much time on DiS.
so I went over to Cosmopolitan forum and loadsa bitches have one.
it's not now, i don't think
maybe have a girlfriend/wife. defo a cat. two cats.
10 year - peruvain goat farmer
Probably gonna get a rescue cat next year if we get a ground floor flat or if my boyfriend allows me to train one up to get in a little basket and be hoisted up to the 4th floor.
my world fell apart, I lost my job, couldn't keep up payemtns etc. I clung onto the house for the sake of the cat but got into silly debt. something had to give.
I put an ad on Gumtree and this lovely girl took him. she even showed me her house. she was lovely.
pushing into his basket for the last time was heartbreaking. his front paws grabbed the door and it took two of us.
I used to visit him, but it became too painful. he was a changing cat.
Miss you, George.
never gonna get a cat again til I can guarantee my next 15 years of movements. probably can't.
I talk too much
but the cat is probably happy now so you did the right thing
100k by 35
Dead by 50.
So I think I can safely be a directionless dickhead for a while longer.
It's very changeable though.
- travel a bit with wif
- learn to drive
- become a dad, like, properly this time. :/
we've had two children and we don't really intend to have any more - so whereas the last five years have involved loads of change, the next five years will mainly be spent supporting my family.
I'd quite like to change jobs in the next five years
I'm making it my mission to rear some babies asap. Great bunch of lads.
i'll probably just buy a games console and check out of reality
in case things don't work out.
The third one made me actuaLOL
anyway those are obviously the ramblings of a confused and directionless man trying to stamp some kind of order onto his unfocused existence.
but you'd have to be pretty boring to plan life out beyond a general career path.
imagine saying to yourself 'yeah, i want to be married by <x>, to have a mortgage by <y> and to have kids by <z>' then to actually attempt to follow it through. you'd have to be an extremely tedious, joyless person, i think.
i highly doubt any man has every actually thought through life like above. hormonal women might.
but things are going to get tricky when my gf graduates
I'd like to be open to the idea of moving cities, or countries. I think I have a plan career wise, as I'll (hopefully) be qualifying as a teacher this summer. I have no desire whatsoever to get married. Some children might be nice, I guess, I just haven't met a man I can put up with for long enough/like enough to bear his offspring. We shall see. I think I'm very much 'take it as it comes'. Oh shit I have no idea.
But then the major assumptions it was based on collapsed so now I'm in a state of wandering aimlessly until I have another rethink.
other than that the world is my oyster!
BLAZE OF GLORY, GUYS
The jump off the eiffel tower with a boombox playing "my generation" by limp bizkit
Gonna finish my PhD and become an average welterweight mma fighter for a couple of years. DOCTOR OF KICKING YO ASS
BAMMA better watch out
you going to be a double dr????
Mr Dr Sir
Mr Splenic Artery, PhD, KBE or something idk
As long as that doesn't happen then I'm winning.
Step 2: ?????
Step 3: Profit
-"people are getting older dads these days"-
That's what I've learnt from this thread.
Surely the backup plan is just living your life?
Had expectations of what I'd be doing at 30, now I'm 30 nothing went according to 'plan', so I'll just roll with what comes my way from now on.
Though recently I've realised that some of these things will take longer, so now the plans need to change a bit.
The basic idea is to be settled in my career and outside of it by around my mid-thirties...
You can't plan love, can you? I mean, who knows. Maybe I might meet the perfect girl and want to settle down really quickly. My dad met my mum and then they got married 5 months later.
Career... yeah want to teach abroad in the next 5 years, come back to England and set myself up as a tutor providing Politics and History A-Level teaching. That's the general idea.
God knows about the rest of it... I've never really planned anything to be honest.
- publish novel within next 2 years
- have kid within 2 or 3 years
- buy property in Charlton within 4 or 5 years
- become so super at tutoring that I can do lots of unpaid work with state-sector kids without worrying about my next rent payment (within 5-10 years)
- regular gigs with band that has wife in it (within next 2 or 3 years)
JINX PADLOCK etc
it's pretty all-over-the-place
how we view ourselves, basically, but with a psychedelic sci-fi twist or five
WAIT AND SEE, tbh - even I have no idea where it's going aside from the overall plot
if they don't respond i'll probably pack it all in
that I would reevaluate my life in 5 years time -- decide if I want a new job/career, get a master's degree, move somewhere else, who knows. Guess we'll see how I'm feeling in December 2016.