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I think I've got one on the horizon, pretty bored of them really. They don't seem to serve much of a purpose.
very confused about our careers, grateful for what we had but comparing ourselves unfavourably with our contemporaries, knowing we were in a bit of a dead end but unsure about what we could do next.
It's okay, it happens to everyone. I think you have to imagine yourself in five/ten years time and ask what would future you make of you now - would they call you a lazy coward or say you're doing something worthwhile? If you can't live up to their judgement, maybe it's time to do something.
I haven't had it yet, but can feel it on the horizon. I've had these so many times there's no point in having them. Can I just not skip it now and just go to the bit where everything seems alright again for a while?
hang on? it doesn't matter what i'm doing as long as i like the people i'm around and i am using my life the way i want to. then you start to do things you want to do and then those moments go away
that's a ridiculous over simplification
everything comes under that banner. just like, choosing how you want to spend your time and realising life is short and then feeling like a hero and going to go and do what you want to do. even if some of it is work that facilitates other stuff. you end up living life the way you want to
not "doing what you want to do". point stands though
but point still stands
what you want to do in life is likely to include massively conflicting ideas which aren't compatible with each other.
anyway - not going to get into a silly mumbo jumbo conversation with you so i'm out at this point.
it becomes apparent to you that you can't have EVERYTHING you want. but most people learn that as children. (that sounds like an insult, it isn't)
is essentially just killing time
Fortunately, I really love killing time :)
And are financially secure/have a house/have kids (delete as appropriate), you'll be old and have wrinkles and death to worry about.
Better to be unsure and still have your life ahead of you, or so I like to think anyway.
Not because I'm one of life's natural winners, but because I'm too lazy to engage in that level of introspection.
like food vans and
Thankfully am quite happy with shit now. These little crises can be quite useful but they're ultimately silly.
I've realised recently that I love to booze, eat in amazing places, shag and laze around in bed, but nobody is realistically going to pay me to do all of that. I hate getting up from my cosy bed, and even if I land my 'dream job', I'm still going to have to do that. And even if I start my own business, I'm going to have to get out of my cosy bed on cold days too, or else i won't be able to make a living or support my employees who depend on me. SO, what it boils down to is this. I need to accept that I like my bed, and get into it a little bit earlier. I think that therein lies the secret to my future happiness.
I am also really quite jolly right mow because a) it's friday b) I'm ovulating (hi happy hormones) and c) I'm probably still a wee vbit drunk from last night.
If I did what I think I should be doing as a 26 year old, I'd probably have a crisis every day.
And you'll be happy. Make sure you follow this closely
- if they become successful you'll feel inadequate
- if they're idiots and are have no potential, you'll feel like a loser.
Rarely i'll think about things and go 'hmm'. A few things recently have made me sad but I'm kind of realizing that I'm better off without that in my life so it gon be gone. I try to occupy myself with my hobbies and they make me feel better about life as a whole. I'm attempting to start up a mini online business so I'll see how that pans out. I'd really like to open a shop with a cafe in one day. Combining my three loves - crafts, cake and coffee. WHO KNOWS WHAT THE FUTURE WILL BRING. Live for the now.
Well i've made a few origami cranes and I'm doing a granny square class tomorrow so I can make a quilt.
I am starting a new project this weekend which will be for my etsy shop. STAY TUNED. I hope to make a few samples on Monday so will show you them there. Are you on instagram? I post most of my craft stuff on there. I'm fartsharks.
just looked through yours tho
do you do all the paper cutting stuff?
this is my fave picture - CG is looking amazing
Hahahaha. I like to catch him off guard and then blurr him out.
He looks so cute here with an ice cream
http://distilleryimage2.s3.amazonaws.com/8dc98782e94f11e1ab3822000a1e9632_7.jpg <3 <3
I do it occassionally but I mainly do it for birthday cards and wedding cards. I'll do a few christmas ones but I haven't really had time to sit down and do cuttings as the do take quite a lot of work to plan them and all that.
Why the fucking fuck have I spent all day posting on DiS instead of doing some work?
but i have lots of "what is my life doing with me" moments
Although the "moments" can last for hours at a time.
after a year and a bit I freaked out that I was going to be still living with my folks as I turned 24.
Got a new job in a different town and moved in with some friends. Sowted.
mostly work related. Basically work is good but unspectacular, which I mostly accept as just the nature of work. I'm reasonably well paid, have responsibility and expertise and challenge, and I'm generally pretty happy with that. And then every so often I'll just think `shouldn't I be doing something that I'm really passionate about?`, or `Shouldn't I have been promoted by now?`, and `am I wasting my potential?`, and shit like that. Then I calm down again and feel fine.
It might help with rationalising these kinds of thoughts a bit.
i'll tell you. i could write one of those books!
Self help books are part of the problem, not the solution.
They are representative of an inward turn towards narcissism and self-obsession in the face of systemic political, religious and economic instability.
You are not good enough, you have been brought up to think you are a special snowflake, destined for greatness, you feel inadequate and out of control at every turn, you are insecure, you are not as pretty, successful or intelligent as those around you.
You are a beaten-down, marketised, drone, you feel this way because you have been taught to do so. It makes you weak and isolated, a supine little consumer always striving for a happiness that remains elusive.
Why? Because of the collective debilitation of the political, economic and psychosocial structures which surround you. Your power has been taken, you have no stake in a world which is collapsing around your ears.
What should you do? Educate yourself? Organise and protest, leverage a stake in a world which is designed by the powerful to fuck you over until you die and then hand your family the bill for your funeral? Make change, highlight injustice, stay sharp, stay oppositional, stay vital, fight oppression wherever you see it?
No, don’t do any of that. Just get your wallet out and buy this book, it will help YOU, in sixteen easy steps YOU will FEEL better, MORE IN CONTROL
£9.99 for the illusion of dignity.
i'm not saying i think books like that are a good thing. but it's just an attitude thing innit
Write the book, I'll buy it, promise.
are you feeling ok?
you seem angry.
i want to go
and hey you will be happy that it is 3.15 and not later!
you have a rock band
music's a mug's game though. 30 mins on stage, feeling good/excited vs surrounding hours of despair and depression
after I'd qualified as a journalist and had spent half a year applying and getting nowhere i was like 'what have i done everyone else has proper jobs and stuff'
Got my first journo job. Hated it, was like 'omg what have i done and earning fuck all for this shit.'
Got my second job, loving it currently.
It's hard sometimes when a lot of my peers went into consultancy, banking etc or are doing awesome things with their publications. A lot of peopel I hang out with are on a lot of money compared to me and it can be hard trying to keep up with them, so to speak.
But then I think that I'm enjoying it and while I can't afford to go away several weekends a year or travel to Indonesia for weddings and lols like that, I'm quite content at my age on my wage and can work my way up thanks.
so to answer your question: yes.