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who does it?
Not sure it's a good idea. If you're friends and don't fancy each other, just be friends. It can spoil things if you aren't careful.
turned out to be a massive disaster.
ruined friendship and seriously strained other relationships.
i wouldn't do it again - far too easy to get horribly messy
Almost happened once. Glad it never now even though I was gutted at the time. Just me and the girl in question kissing in a club made a lot of other friendships become a bit odd
or will you the lamb?
when it goes wrong it really goes wrong though. just got to make sure that everyone's on the same page. either it's an occasional/one off thing or you're starting a relationship of some sort
But I really struggle to have those conversations without being awkward as fuck. Always feels like I'm trapped in a bad rom-com.
just shove in a "you cool with this just being _______" and WHAMMO
what did happen was fun, but i'm aware how very very lucky it is that it didn't affect the friendship (or any others)
not that i'd never do it, just that i'd want to believe that it was leading to a proper, no-kiddin' romance
Probably different for those of a homosexual persuasion, though - more crossover?
where I've liked someone but they only really want to spend time with me when they want sex. We're not friends anymore. I slept with my ex at the weekend (we broke up 3 years ago) and it was totally fine. No residual feelings or awkwardness or anything.
We were both single, attracted to each other and quite drunk. A good time was had by all (except probably another friend who interrupted us to tell her that he loved her, but that's a long story), repeat performances were planned but never happened due to logistical reasons, and we're still close friends today.
Definitely wouldn't work out that well with all my friends but I definitely don't regret any of that experience.
Your "another friend" sounds like a colossal virgin. How has he turned out?
I still count him as a friend and that but I describe him as "my weird friend Joaqium" (except with his real name)
was weird, not spoken to her in ages. idk
that's doesn't count does it?
but it's actually usually does. Same with co-workers. If you're not a total lolly about it, the worst that'll happen is a few minutes of awkwardness next time you see them.
because a lot of the time it doesn't?
I think if its a one of it should be fine.
the more regular it happens the more chance of it turning into a complete shitstorm
srslytho, it's totally fine. Sex is really fun, you idiots should try it some time
ended really, really badly.
Just having a random shag when drunk with a friend - did this once was unplanned, but totally fine afterwards.
Like one week your all sitting round the pub table as family, and then suddenly there's all this handsyness and kissing going on. Like watching something incestuous.
being from a small town it happened quite often. So few of them lasted though.
I find I can't take anyone seriously again once I've seen them naked.
who here is friends with someone they want to have sex with?
(this being DiS, anticipating 100%)
who is also my housemate and one of my closest friend's girlfriend
it's a DiS combo, a bedwetter triple whammy
by my the ex of my friend (who is my ex). The ex of my friend is also friend's with my ex.
and you will get laid.
then you'd go for it if it was offered mosty times
but she has a boyfriend. I'm a SHITLAD.
Several of my other friends I'd probably have sex with if they offered, though I'm sure I'd regret it once the shame and embarrassment kicked in.
she's been my girlfriend for nearly four years. woo.
PM's for both accepted
you're an indie bedwetter who can't separate a bit of no-strings physical fun from "feelings".
like to have sex with some of my friends.
Sub-topic: best way to suggest it?
then just hang around long enough until they want to get it on, then join in like it ain't no thing.
that i'd only ever see when we were drinking or after a night at town. when she mentioned that we should hang out sometime when we're both sober that's when alarm bells started to ring off.
a dangerously unhinged bunny boiler. I'd steer well clear if I were you.
and i'm marrying her next May!
a crazy girl, who I became great friends with, went drinking with and tried to start a band together... was a bit of a shock when she casually dropped into conversation "well, if you ever fancy having sex sometime...". Didn't, of course. Friendship possibly suffered as a result.
I started hooking up with one of my old high school friends. He had actually been my first "boyfriend" in 8th grade (age 13ish) but that only lasted a few months. We spent high school playing in bands together then went out separate ways for college -- him to Chicago, me to Boston.
Cut to last fall. We were both back in our hometown and going through bad breakups. We spent the entirety of the fall/holiday season hooking up and it was grand. We became closer friends. The worst thing that happened was when I went to visit him in Chicago, he had bedbugs and I quickly learned that I'm very allergic to those little fuckers.
Im not sure whether I like it
though add more "everyone should just be killed", "the pigs are completely fucked up" and "I'm in my shed, haven't spoken to anyone for months, maybe someone will let me out at some point". :D
It's really hard NOT to have sex with them.
of a friend wanting to have sex with me. I'm of two minds about it.
it might actually be *more* awkward if we don't; it seems to be in the cards. But it also has the feeling that it's wrong-minded of both of us...lots at stake, sort of thing.
It could be the best move ever, or the most disastrous. Bit of a mindfuck.
Maybe I'm over-thinking it...
I did this with a girl for about 6 months and it was not worth the effort.
Just caused stress.
One of you always gets too invested in the relationship and then it goes tits up.
Not when the hormones are pinging about. They're lovers, and your future interactions will always bear the shameful memory of you rutting like chimps.