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Why don't people just send invitations straight off, it's totally just girls being dicks isn't it?!
An example from every day life - sometimes I have to set up meetings for lots of people at work. They're all very busy so I send them an meeting invite that will say *HOLD FOR X*.
Then when I have the agenda and everything, I'll send a fully fleshed out invite.
You don't just get a wedding invite that is *Wedding at Church Saturday cheers* - you need RSVPs, info on how to get there, where to stay, the dress code, gift list.
I don't see how it's that alien a concept to grasp tbh
Especially if you have family and or friends out of the country.
that have a dream about their wedding day and want to tell you?
and that's all they ever talk about.
a) the church booked
b) the reception venue booked
or c) the stationery colour scheme and theme pinned down yet.
b) that's risky, you mighthave to change the date
c) girls being dicks
most people would want the invitations to their wedding to look pretty/stylish/elegant/whatever, it's the sort of thing people keep.
At the last wedding, we got a hand written card each saying how happy they were to have us there and a little something about why we're amazing <3
In fact, if I get married, that's what I'm doing.
I am definitely using marketing automation software to generate letters fast.
start nagging him about it more, he'll cave in eventually.
I want him to want to, it'll be a total anti-climax if I have to nag him
and carry a card around that just says "yeah, I think that would be nice" so you can use it for affirmation of stuff instead of asking him stupid questions about ridiculous shit. Not that you're actually interested in his opinion anyway.
Don't know what to do now... Umm... Bye!
A week Friday? Save the date.
See you there
I'm telling you
because you seem to be milking this for all its worth.
You send save the date.
Then official invite.
Then its your wedding.
Hardly a LOOK AT ME fest until the actual day and sometimes men are involved in weddings. Weird concept, I know, but they are.
or are you thirsty for more?
Wish he'd sent me a save the date card.
E_C is evoking the spirits of Jerry, Elaine AND Kramer
kik = George
E_C is Kenny Bania.
the final invitations with yet
It's going to be so good. I'll check my letterbox on the way home
Around 12-18 months beforehand, all of the couple's relatives and friends kept asking when the wedding was and if they would be invited. They rushed to send out their invites so that people would stop asking.
were because a lot of the stuff hadn't been finalised that you wanted to send out to people.
this included hotel details (we couldn't agree group booking discounts until a certain date)
gift list details - John Lewis only opens the gift list about 3 months before
we hadn't finalised the DJ and wanted people to RSVP with a song suggestion.
Also it's good to have something to look forward too, and with lots of mates getting married we didn't want to end up with a clash occurring. People are excited for you and so as mentioned above it saves you having to let people know individually, and people can make plans in advance.
just got one of these.
I don't really get the point of them. am I supposed to book the day off work? or wait for a proper invite? why not just send an invite? :/
also, are you meant to reply to these things? I mean formally reply with a card and that?
people have just said it might be because they haven't got everything sorted yet. so why tell people it's on that day then? it's as much of an inconvenience for your guests to change their dates around after issuing a proper invite as one of these things surely? I DON'T UNDERSTAND
when is this wedding? If it's <2 months away then the couple are being stupid. You have to remember that weddings turn sane people a bit dippy sometimes. Also, most invitations I get seem to come with lots of little inserts about how to get there/ where to stay/ sometimes also details of the wedding gift list, which usually doesn't open until about a month before the wedding, so you're not going to send out your invitations six months in advance and then do a follow-up mailshot a month before with just the details of what presents you want. Can we not turn this into a subthread about gift lists- they're not my cup of tea, but if other people want to do them then I guess it saves me having to think about what to buy them as a gift, so I will not judge. The End.)
or if we can just get away with invitations once we've firmed up plans. Would it be socially acceptable to send a save the date in an email?
Also - invitations. Have any of you creative types tried designing and printing your own, and have you got any tips for how to do this without it looking cheap/amateur?
Fancy save the date cards are a bit of a waste of money and pomp. what they achieve however is important because traditionally people don't send out actual invitations until about 6 weeeks prior to the day, so it's good to let those people that you really want there know in advance that they should keep that day free as they are going to be invited.
^this is the only sance viewpoint regarding these things.
has anybody every received a 'Save the Date' coommunicatoin (whether by post, email, text, or carrier dove) and then not actually been invited to the weddding for whatever reason? (no me neither, but I owuld like to hear some stories as this MUSt happen- e.g. people get a bit carried away and tell 100 people to save the date, then realise they have budget for 40.)
sorry pal we ran out of money and you didn't make the final cut
I am going scouring for a story on this one.
you shouldn't have given out so many STDs!
At this point, you really do need to invite everyone who got a STD.
love a good Acronym
That's what we were thinking :)
Would be horrible if that happened! Imagine if you didn't realise you'd never actually been invited and showed up anyway. "Your names not on the list, your not coming in" etc.
(He had actually been invited to the evening party bit, but showed up for the day). We found him a seat and meal, and it was really funny.
You have all of this to look forward to now (I swear, if I ever do it again I'm eloping) ;)
best to just keep it simple.
The stress of not knowing who to invite isn't worth all the presents. I guess I'd just do an open invitation/Facebook event.