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It's probably just me so.
Because obviously people have less friends as they get older BECAUSE THEY ALL DIE.
maybe people put too much distance between their heart and the horrible constant compromise of adult life, and find it hard to really connect?
am I projecting too?
you should ring up the guy that made the last thread. 1 More mate.
But yes and no, i think people go through patches of loads of friends to very few. At the minute i have very few close mates. Doesnt really bother me, as i know ill become close to more at some point.
But i am a bit of a rare bear... a bit of a loner and a floater
you lose touch with people who go off and do their own thing in life or you ditch people because you realise some people arent worth being around. You go out less so you socialise less and dont make new friends.
with a friend right now. I've gotten to the point where I don't care enough or have the time to maintain friendships with people unless I really, really like them. My friend was recently devastated to find out that I hadn't spoken to one of our close friends from high school in about a year. It wasn't for lack of trying, but eventually I gave up. I was sad about it at first but now I don't care.
but he's going to the US for a year. :(
with a bunch of other mates that you have and vice versa until it gets to the point where the other bunch of mates don't bother getting in touch with you anymore cos they just assume you're with them and/or if they invite you out there's a chance you'll bring them with you which they don't want
everyone has similar schedules, the moment you're an adult you suddenly have very different schedules to the rest of the world :( I miss knowing that ALL my friends would be free after x time and we'd all have holiday at the same time.
and my flatting situation i have more friends then ever, but i'm sure the moment i move out i'll have to try a lot harder to maintain this. there's just not enough time in the day to have a billion close friends, and probably isn't worth it anyway. quality over quantity right?
For really really obvious reasons
from the ages of 16-21 i was a real social butterfly, everyone was my friend, went boozing with everyone. now, even at 23...there's about 5 people i can be bothered with.
That's because both of you lose the connection. I'm currently staying with a friend in the US who I've known since I was born (43 years) and I have 4 great friends from school who I see regularly. Others come and go, you do have to make the effort, and so do they.
rather than going outside like they used to
No, I kid. OP is absolutely true. *shrugs*